I'm 22, she's 34. Do we have too much age gap?

[Anonymous]

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+1 y

She's been married and divorced also

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Personally, yes.

12 years is a long time.

At 22, you're in a completely different stage of life than she is. Your frame of reference is significantly different, your priorities are likely different, your incomes are likely different, etc.

She'll be a senior citizen for a full 12 years before you join her in that.

Not to mention if she wants kids, you'll need to act quickly and you'd be making that decision much earlier in your life than she will in hers.

To me, it's risky. If I were her, I wouldn't date you.

But everyone's different and some couples make age gaps work.

[Asker]

She approached me though

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Everyone makes mistakes.

Plus, would you rather make this decision for her, or for you? Just because she approached you, doesn't mean it's right for you.

[ShyBoy05]

Go for it. She approached me as well. It's been good so far. (:

[CriticalDiscourse]

I mean, that depends on how you phrase the question.

Do I think it's appropriate PERSONALLY? I see nothing wrong with it legally, but personally, I would feel awkward about it because I automatically question much older people who connect on an intellectual level with someone much younger.

Or are you asking if we should determine if it's okay for you or if the woman would be receptive? That's impossible for any of us to determine.

[CriticalDiscourse]

The update is irrelevant.

[Asker]

it's a bit relevant about what some people could say

[CriticalDiscourse]

It's basically implying that her being divorced is an issue, but being divorced doesn't inherently imply that your personal relationship will be impacted. And, if you think it somehow will... then you have no reason to consider this person as a partner and you'd be dense to do so if you have a problem with it.

[Asker]

I like her, but I'm a bit worried in revealing the relationship to my parents

[CriticalDiscourse]

I don't get how that plays into the divorce issue, unless you really value what they think. Then you have a choice: what do you value more? Their opinions or this person?

[Asker]

I know they'd respect my decision in the end and accept it, but I'm afraid they won't have exactly a jolly first reaction at first

[CriticalDiscourse]

No one controls how people react because their emotions are independent of us. If you're basing whether or not you want to be with someone because you might not get the desired "jumping for joy" reaction from someone should concern you in terms of your ability to discern what actually matters in a meaningful relationship. And I'm not saying that just to be an asshole, it's a genuine call for introspection.

[Asker]

It's not about deciding whenever to stay with her or not, I'd stay with her anyways, but I'm still wondering if the age gap means we'll have to face prejudices or deeper problems down the road

[magiusX26]

will say this yet again. as long as you are both legal aged it us NOT too much of a gap. a zero to 9999999999999999999 year gap us ok. its up to the 2 people in the relationship. i see so many people asking this type of question it makes me want to get a megaphone and scream the obvious answer through into it into a concert setup that is jacked into every persons ears like the whole set up is inside each ear. in most places legal age is 18. so as long as the younger of the relationship is 18 it does not matter

[scott04sa22]

Age doesn't matter in relationships. As long as both of you are happy that's what it matters. From my personal experience a lot of older women above my age don't like me for some reason. I don't have a shitty attitude or anything it's just they don't like me as who I am.

[1Sophisticatedme]

not if you both like each other very much and both of you don't have an issue of your ages. Age is a number, your soul isn't, so if you think your relationship is compatible then go for it, there's no rules that say you have to get someone at this age inorder for you to date another. Hope it works out for both of you. Enjoy and have fun dating.

[wingattebaby16]

nope.. that is a great age gap for an older woman...

she can teach you a lot about how to love a woman and to learn to grow into the mature man you can be!

Having been married and divorced before, she also knows a lot of the relationship pitfalls and can help you avoid them!

go for IT!

[Kialani]

My best friend is 47 and her husband of 5 years is 32, they have the best relationship I have seen. He said she respects his space more than some of his past relationships as she is more secure in herself.

If you are both happy, it has nothing to do with an age gap and everything to do with how you feel about each other.

[iseekpinetrees]

It's a big gap but age is just a number. Make sure you have things in common. Maturity is what plays the most part here.

[mamamai]

I think so, at least for a serious relationship, but it’s been don before and once in awhile works out. So it’s up to you

[Anonymous]

Go for it. I'm dating a beautiful 35yo woman, now 36 and it's been the best relationship I've ever had. Our age gap is 9 years. But I don't care. I love her and I want to marry her.
Go for it. Good luck!

[MayBrayNaughty]

If you're both into each other and having fun together then the numbers really don't matter !

[Tritton]

If you're happy with eachother and you two connect I don't see why not? I've personally been in a relationship that had a 26yr age gap and that worked for many years. Other people may not agree with it but if you're happy that's all that matters :)

[Dchrls78104]

I know a couple where the woman is 15 years his senior; they've been married for about 10 years.

[dreamstar72]

Not really since you are 22, when you are 47 she will be 59, which will happen in about 300 months from now. Life is short if you are happy and she is happy who cares it Is your live that counts.

[Liam_Hayden]

Depends upon the individuals. I do not know you so I cannot answer specifically, but I dated a 31-year-old when I was 19. It was fine but being under 21 we were too limited in where we could go. I still date older women.

[Kru2020]

You do you, I personally wouldn't but its your life as long as you're not impeding on anyone else do as you please.

[DavidFox]

I’ve done it and it didn’t work because we wanted different things in life at the moment.

[jack76121]

Do you know Emmanuel Macron? You should learn from him.

[msc545]

I would not worry about the age gap if you get along.

[JosyJosy]

too much for me, but if it works for you it's okay

[ItsTheNephilim]

It's 'too much' if you think it is.

[Anonymous]

Hmmm. Yes.
If you're determined to overcome it, it's fine.
Tomorrow, don't grumble if she ages faster than you.
No flirting with a younger model then.

[Unit1]

Nein.
Next Question!!!

[pigoat]

Not really