Who falls in love harder, men or women?

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who falls in love harder, the man, or the woman?idk, I've heard its the girl. but in my only serious relationship, I fell harder for her than she did for me, even tho she fell first.

ZenSpace · Accepted Answer

I think we are on a biological timer. For the first month or so, it is the girl who is most attached. That is why so many girls get all broken up about their high school sweethearts. They got attached quickly, before he really had time to get attached.

Then the guy gets attached and he loves more after about a year or 2. Then the woman gets a little bored after about 5 or 6 years, and many of them leave at that point, leaving the guy devastated. Statistically this is the way most divorces work in America.

People say the "love forever" but your average woman falls out of love after about 5 to 7 years with the same man.

The men on the other hand, they want to have sex with other women, especially after they have been with one woman for a long time, they crave variety. But these same men, who want to have sexual variety, usually still love the woman they are married to, and want to stay married. The women do not. They stop loving the men.

That is what divorce statistics tell us anyways.

So who falls in love harder? it depends on how long they were together. But men are more likely to feel that a woman ruined his life, while women are more likely to be heart broken after a short relationship, but feel fine after ending a long one.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Accepted Answer

Wasn't this answered before? :P I'd say it's easily the men. Men are always the ones falling far harder into love if they are really in love. However, I'd say that's only a bit later and more into the adult life. When we're teenagers/kids I'd say it's girls then. It's really kinda cruel how our society is where it seems to have come to that.

Basically I've had this theory for a while that women when they are girls fall in love really hard for their first boyfriend. But because boys tend to not be interested in a real relationship young they just use them for sex or whatever and then move on and the girl gets hurt and steels her heart and never really falls as deeply into love again. Sure they will love a guy, but they'll never put such a focus and emphasis on their lover as a guy will in the adult life when guys are finally looking for a real relationship with meaning. And then the guy falls harder, the girl doesn't. This is also why study after study shows when a guy dies first, the girl moves on (it's more also due to the fact she generally has friends she was able to keep and family to help her live on) where as the guy, if the girl dies first in a marriage, the guy pretty much dies mentally with her. A real shame :\ kinda a cruel twist of fate.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

it really depends on the situation and the individuals involved.

in every relationship there is always going to be someone who cares more, it is NEVER 50/50. someone always cares a bit more. and that person is the one that falls harder in love and also the one that hurts the most when things don't work out

I've had one relationship where I cared more. I was so blinded that I let things go and ignored all the warning signs. I knew things weren't going well, I knew that, but I was so into him that I made excuses for him without facing the reality of the situation. And that hurt. It hurts that he had so much power over me and my emotions. So I never put myself in that position again. With other boyfriends, I never allow myself to fall hard for them. I always go out with guys that I know will never hurt me because they care more.

lol so in conclusion, it really does depend on each individual case

toulouse · Accepted Answer

Effigirl.

@ "I think:

Women = Fall in love quicker (Most)

Men = Fall in love harder (Most)

Because, it is hard for a man to fall..and when they do..they fall hard. For women, we fall quick...most of us..and over time we keep falling deeper.."

>>>>>>Studies show men report falling in love at first site ten to one compared to women. but I guess you are asking opinions, not research results.

doesn't matter anyways because all the studies and all your objective observations are based on self report. and people lie.

there is NO way to prove who falls in love harder faster deeper darker straighter rounder sideways up and down around.. these answers are all just mental masturbation and ego stroking.

tigergirl4 · Accepted Answer

In my current relationship I fell HARD for my boyfriend, he didn't even see me that way because he was already involved with someone else. A few years later he asks me out and is acting like I had acted a few years ago. I'm not even going to lie, I don't get butterflies like I used to, but that's just because I have already been through that phase of love, and now it is a slow simmering love for me, where as he's in that lovey-dovey phase where everything is new(well newish, it's been 8 1/2 months lol)

taster · Answer

I 've seen 'em lovesmitten in both sexes...I don't know that I could pick a sex...I remember when I fell for a F*** Queen...oh she was good looking...I lost 17 pounds...my friends all thought I was crazy...but I think that just about every one of them (the males anyway) went on to lose their head over some gal and make a fool out of themselves..the females I know seemed to have gotten that out of the way in their younger days for some reason...but us Dinosaurs know: There is no fool like an Old Fool...

deathnote · Answer

Women fall in love faster. Men, when they fall in love, they REALLY fall in love. Most girls nowadays are just delusional and confused. They don't know what they want and use their insecurities to accept any man who is willing to take them.

Eiffelgirl21 · Answer

I think:

Women = Fall in love quicker (Most)

Men = Fall in love harder (Most)

Because, it is hard for a man to fall..and when they do..they fall hard. For women, we fall quick...most of us..and over time we keep falling deeper..

blossom7409 · Answer

i think men do because they don't fall that often. Women fall more frequently, at least some. And when a man get hurt he gets hurt badly. But when a man finds a woman he adores even if he marries another chick he can't stop thinking about her and can't let her go

Anonymous · Answer

It really depends.

There was a guy I knew who LOVED being in love, and once he clapped his eyes on a girl he was into her for MONTHS. He just liked to fall hard -- like Romeo. We used to keep reminding him how well things turned out for THAT guy... Now he's married and has a girl to spoil properly. She doesn't deserve him, though. A very cold sort.

Moving on...

Mostly girls tend to fall first, analyze every little thing, then linger over the discovery that the person doesn't like them or is breaking up with them. It's not 100%, though, as some girls are very cold and don't fall easily at all.

queenofpeen · Answer

Based on just my experience and stories I've heard, it sure *seems* like girls fall harder and faster. In general, they get attached easily.

But there are some guys, especially the sweet and sensitive ones, who sometimes fall even harder. It also seems like those guys find it much more difficult to get over someone they loved.

kellybeans02 · Answer

I think girls get swept up into things quickly, but I've seen some guys fall rock hard in love. And just from my experience, guys a usually upset/lovesick over a girl because they just are. Girls tend to get caught up in the drama of it all and exacerbate it. At least I feel that way.

lananoel · Answer

Men.. Men are typically shy of giving theirs hearts away for fear that it will be damaged or that they will come off vulnerable and loose their manly persona. It takes men a while longer to TRULY LOVE a woman but from what I've seen when they do TRULY LOVE a woman they fall HARD as HELL...too the point of doing ANYTHING for her. I hate to admit it but it's quite possible that both my ex and my current loved me harder than I them. It takes men longer but they fall hard a s hell when they do.

kheserthorpe · Answer

This question is old but I just saw it.

I've actually read studies show men can fall in love faster, and men are more romantic then women.

Women _like_ romance and are more excited about a man BEING in love with them. Men are more excited by sex and a woman feeling lust for them.

dragonxlli · Answer

I think women, because we over analyze sh*t and think that something that was down by accident Kent SOOO much, when it really didn't.

But then again, it can depend. Because guys usually don't show emotion to much, and when they finally show it, there's a lot of it.

Hitch · Answer

I do not think gender has anything to do with it...

I think it is certain body parts but not the ones that make us men or women..

Love is not a feeling but an ability and your

Heart,

Mind,

Body

Eyelash

Hand for touch

Ears for listening

ALL must have an interest in obtaining and creating the ability to love one another

I think

thisGUYknows · Answer

ya I think it depends on the person. I would have said girls because usually you see the girl that sits and cries in her room for days after a bad breakup. guys will just go out and get drunk haha.

but there are some dudes who away from their friends, get all emotional like chicks do. and then there are girls who after a breakup go hit the clubs and hop right back on the saddle (so to speak)

so I'm going with C.

AliceMcKay · Answer

I think that girls fall harder, but guys fall more often. From my own experiences, I have usually fallen harder and stayed down, I guess, for longer. I've found guys fall more after, and not as hard(not as much).

Katyperry · Answer

WOMEN lol...  because me I experienced that thing and its hard to fall for someone who doesn't love you back... it hurts me a lot when my ex dumped me 3x in just 1month due to shallow reason"im too good for him and no time for me" Great question :))

illwriteaboutit · Answer

It depends on the situation.  I normally don't fall in love hard, or at all, but I have once.  It's normally the guy falling hard for me.  A guy may fall harder sometimes, but it may also be a girl at times.

saphirasilverwings · Answer

Women get attached more easily (it's just biological). But I think that when men do fall in love they can fall equally as hard. It just depends on the person/relationship.

Elayne17 · Answer

I think in really serious relationshiops, then guy falls harder.

lt2192 · Answer

The way I see it, women tend to fall a lot easier than men do, but when a man falls in love, he falls hard. So men.

toulouse · Answer

if you say most people think  it depends. then how does it make sense to say generally women do one thing and men do another. you're still mentally jerking off.

peace-love-couture · Answer

I think in today's day and age the whole concept of falling in love is impossible and skewed. But speaking from when society wasn't so screwed up, women. Women are delusional emotional morons who can't seem to differentiate between like, love and being in love and men can't differentiate between being in lust and actually liking the person. I think women love, men lust.

scfranci · Answer

it depends. I think men fall faster, but women fall harder.

ianm91 · Answer

in my experience in the end, it takes the girl longer to get over me, and they were the ones who left me. not i.

soleillauren · Answer

Both, but I think woman are more emotionally attached. But sometimes guys can be as well. Usally depends on both the guy and girl. So I pick C

meowdoo · Answer

I think culturally we expect the girl to fall in love harder, but in reality it is mainly guys. I had relationships with guys and girls and this is always the case. Women are more practical and grounded, while men are more romantic and dreamers.

Shiner4 · Answer

I think stereotypically women fall harder for men but I've seen more guys fall harder than girls. IVe even seen them be more emotionally attached.

ilyurbella · Answer

I think men fall harder in most cases, but it depends in certain relationships.

Kerenai · Answer

i think it depends, but women get emotionally attached quicker than men.

MakeLoveNotWar · Answer

It depends, I know guys who try to hide it. After a few beers one of them literally cried out in tears a proclamation of his love for this other girl who already had a boyfriend lol.

Anonymous · Answer

I've heard that women fall in love more often, men fall in love less frequently, but harder.

Anonymous · Answer

I think guys get infatuated with a woman's looks at the speed of sound, but women fall in love with the person easier.  Once a woman falls, she keeps falling harder and harder.  Whereas guys usually get tired of the bod they worshipped or find out the looks they loved come attached to a personality and stop feeling the infatuation.

toosexualcat · Answer

It depends on how they feel about each other.  Sometimes it's the guy, sometimes it's the girl.  But you usually hear the girl because guys tend to hide that kind of stuff in fear (?) that he'll seem weak or pathetic for saying he was hurt.

Anonymous · Answer

I think men tend to get INFATUATED first. It's not quite love, but it's more the projected IMAGE of a person that drives them to obsession. From talking to guy and girl friends; there's definitely 'the one that got away' story that men seem to cling to more than women. The pain of loss seems to linger more with men. I don't know, it's just anecdotal anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

i think most girls fall quicker, but a guy falls harder, most girls say its not true but it is, if a guy falls for a girl he will fall and i mean FALL, he'll leave his macho style he'll throw that pride away he won't be scared of showing his emotions when he falls

CSandyCarrahlynn · Answer

it dzznt go by gender. it depends on if you believe in love @ 1st sight or not.

IamThisGuy · Answer

I say men fall harder because generally speaking sure women may be more sensitive to that sort of thing and guys are harder to get the attention from but once you successfully hooked a guy he will be yours forever

greekai · Answer

It all depends on the power of the opposite gender, if they have a strong ability to draw in their partner then the opposite partner will fall in love harder

Anonymous · Answer

feelings are just chemical reactions, the most unstable creatures are females...so they fall harder.

in general, "love" and all that crap is justa waste of valuble energy which could be directed to a more productive actions.

screw you all :)

beatrizznr · Answer

I guess most of the time it's the woman who falls harder. Girls are much more sensitive and get attached very easily.

TigerRoseBear · Answer

I think it has less to do with sex than just the individual. Some guys fall in love harder than some girls, and some girls fall in love harder than some guys. I'd say it's probably about equal.

Alextricity · Answer

The 40+ girls that voted "it depends" just don't want to admit it's girls - it IS girls. In general. OBVIOUSLY it DOES depend, but. If there was a choice of "men" or "women," the answer is most definitely women. No question.

rory520 · Answer

If a guy really falls in love then the man. Women moan and groan guys keep it in and tend to hold on longer.

Cailleach · Answer

Depends on the person. Has nothing to do with gender.

shygirl18 · Answer

i think it all depends on what type of person you are

usagichan · Answer

Guys fall harder only if the woman is out of their league, looks-wise.

InMyHeart · Answer

It definitely depends. guys can fall pretty hard too.

Anonymous · Answer

I think guys do. Girls need "space" and have more options when it comes to getting out of a relationship than a guy generally does.

hALLDAY · Answer

Did everyone on this site vote or something o.O

trinababy_x · Answer

Girls do, because we are more emotional.

yagurlnira768 · Answer

I say mostly mean.  but it depends.

justhat1chick · Answer

depends on past relationships

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the person, not gender.

Asailum · Answer

How can you measure it ? A lot of people hide how much they are into the other person to protect themself.

Littletad · Answer

Equal amount from both sides.

liz4455 · Answer

I think women

Anonymous · Answer

Usually the women, I think.

skb94 · Answer

it depends

Shadoww · Answer

women!

Anonymous · Answer

shut the f*** up pleaseee

aikidy · Answer

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