How do I let him know I still want him without seaming desparate?

[Anonymous]

Long story. I re connected with my first love. The love of my life a year and half ago. He just divorced after 17 years. I had just left a relationship after 13 years. We hooked up had sex a few times. He moved all of my furniture for me from one place to another. He always does things for me but he we don’t have sec anymore. I ended up spilling my heart out to him and he told m he doesn’t want to hurt me so we can’t get together because he is a pice of shit.. his words not mine. His ex took everything. Was taking his money for almost a year just paying bare minimum until she left and he ended up in tremendous debt. Then he gets into a relationship with this lady that is ok where near his type and he called me a few weeks ago and told me he is basically just with her because she takes him back and forth to his other job. We stay in touch. He called me a few days ago to tell me he got a really good job by my house. We talked for a few minutes then he called back a couple hours later just to chit chat. I think he knows I like nice things and he feels like he can’t afford to give me nice things. He has also told me this. But, I don’t care about that. I just love him and want to be with him. I cry all the time because I wish he could just see I just want to make him happy. I feel in my soul he is my person.

[AmeerX]

I read the entire story.
I think your love is truer.
You waited for a long time for him
I wish I am as patient as you.
You know your love can be for more than one person ehich seeing as you are you know in the back of your mind that you are for him no matter how he is.
Back to helping you, I think he loves you and you should just be a little patient about it.
You should continue meeting your love whenever you can. May be cook food for him or invite him to your home.
Does he have kids of his own?

[Asker]

Yes our kids have met each other

[AmeerX]

I think you should marry him. I was going to say there can be no problem but I am more mature then that.
There can be problems but I think the longer you wait the more unlikely that you two can be together

[Asker]

The thing is I’m not sure he feels the same

[AmeerX]

Why do you want to be sure?
If he is single and you are single. I don't see a problem.
You know after a certain age at which you two seem to me. Your attraction towards him tell me you two are good for each other.
You both should be friends and I don't feel you should be thinking that there is a problem
Even if he was married I would think you can love him. Marriage is mostly about sex but after years of marriage people just are best friends and love is more about companionship

[K-I-S-S]

Just say i like you, you wanna go hang out and do x activity tomorrow etc etc.

Keep it it simple, no need for a written contract just yet. Most important is to just spend time together, if you two have feelings, well then some 18 stuff and a relationship will happen.

[Raveagit]

If that's the case then you shouldn't care about appearing desperate.