Can men get abused by women?

[Realistic07]

Of course we can because we’re human to.
Unfortunately in my life I’ve seen too much abuse, and experience too much of it from all sides. The good that comes of it is that I know how not to treat people. The bad that comes with it is that it took me so many years to not hate, and wish death upon those who hurt me.


Abuse leaves you locked in the time that it happened, and it plays over and over again in the victims head. Almost like being in a perpetual limbo of pain and suffering. Some people can grow past it, and learn to not let it define them, but sadly for most it does All too often.


It’s like a scar left on somebody’s soul one that cannot be seen by others, but also one that doesn’t so easily fade. At least with a cut you can treat it; because it’s right in front of you, but the ones that get left in the heart of those who have been abused linger for years and for many of those victims they never really close or fade. They see that the hardest ones to heal are the ones that cannot be so easily observed the same holds true for the victims of abuse.


For me there are too many overlapping scars, and I’ve had to spend a very long time slowly and meticulously healing each and every single one individually. Still to this day i struggle with them, but I know now in days that I’m at least I’m not alone in my pain, and that I can always try to move forward.
Not only so that way I can put on a happy face for others, but so that way I can actually have an opportunity to find a moment of happiness however brief.



I hope my answer can be of assistance to others who are struggling with the same problems, and for those who are suffering please know that you are not alone.

[MysteriousDarkness]

Abuse can be:
Discriminatory
Psychological
Financial or material
Organisational
Neglect
Self-neglect
Sexual
Modern slavery
Physical
Domestic abuse
With that said wonen and men bith can be abuse by a woman or a guy.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Yes men can get abused in relationships.

My cousin, we think he is being abused in his marriage but no one knows what to do. It is not physical abuse and we have never seen them fight, so it is abuse or just not a happy marriage?

From the outside they have it all, a decent house, no kids, and he has a good job. She cannot work due to work visa issues and but she has a PhD and is very 'smart.' What they fight about we dont know, but we can tell sometimes they 'skip' holidys and sometimes she does not want him to talk to his family about their relationship (so he does it on the car rides to work).

What to do? Its not like they are young and in their 20s, they are in their 50s now, no kids, and sort of set in their ways. We have offered advice and help but he would never leave her. He prides himself on being 'a loyal man' and givijg what he can, where he can.

[ragequeen]

I actually think abuse is highly underrated in relationships where men are the victims. People think abuse is mainly physical or mental where women call them names, directly hurt them, manipulate them etc. But there are small things that happen in society today that are normalized and should be considered abuse on an equal level. For example simping. I know it's the man who acts out the simping, but women take a lot of advantage of men nowadays by devaluing them, telling them they are never going to be superior etc. Lots of men are simps today because of abusive women and their behavior. Women take advantage of this every day, and more men are being stepped on by society.

So yes, of course men can be abused by women.

[razelove]

Men can and do get abused by women, it's just that saying as much, especially on popular platforms directly contradicts many powerful narratives. Feminism, which honestly has lots of platforms, so how extreme or what they want can often be confusing. Every other interest group that relies on feminism and racial activism as a linchpin, including lgb, and honestly I forget all the other letters, I just know there are a lot now that lesbians, gays and bisexuals do have equal parity with straight partnerships.

Also to people who will publish this breaking news... guys don't tend to read tabloids so much. I've never seen a man pick up US weekly, or anything like that from the check-out counter. Granted I've never been a cashier, so my observations are pathetic in comparison, but why report man abused by wife, if your costumers will not enjoy, or buy that content?

Like aside from all the political and social reasons why women can do a lot of things men can't, abuse, murder, larceny and rape off the top of my head, supply and demand mitigates the damage they take from any of those actions as well.

[ZackBan]

Im usually not a fan of the idea of letting personal lives affect careers but Hollywood certainly is and I think Amber Heard is doomed. She has way more haters than fans her stans don't outnumber the ones who see the truth and to mke it harder for her Johnny Depp is universally loved, he's practically reaching keanu reves status and is definitely on equal grounds with guys like Brad Pitt and Leo Dicaprio as the guys everyone wants in their movies.

The whole divorce trial and Disney's tyranic behavior towards actors made it so he faded off the map for the last few years but once he wins and it's all over he will use this new found popularity boost to propel himself even farther than before.

[HouseAtreides]

Yes! They can clearly be abused by women

I think the issue is that groups in "power" (or at least perceived to be in power) often have their issues ignored
Be it white people, be it cisgendered straight people, be it men...

If those groups have issues
they are never taken seriously

While issues (and even non issues..) of other groups are taken seriously.
and they are often given the benefit of the doubt in things they claim to be issues (even if they are not)...

its a silly double standard
but we see it in the political realm... in media (be it entertainment or news).. and in general social interactions

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well statistically men are MORE likely to be abused in a relationship then women are (male violence tends to be directed outside of the home (which is why most mass shooters are male, most assaults and murders are commited by men and why despite their hatred of their mothers (the usual motivating factor (due to sever abuse) serial killers kill women they don't know), for women the violence is directed AT the family/home (hence why female serial killers kill husbands and children or those they are in charge of taking care of (like angels of death (killer nurses) and black widows etc.), are more likely to abuse their children and statistically more likely to abuse their spouses (70% of non reciprocal violence is perpetrated by women against men)) but are rarely responsible for crimes outside of the home).

So yes men can be and are victims of abuse by women.

[Jusin]

Men absolutely can be raped and abused by women. Men can abuse women. Men can abuse men and women can abuse women. Same goes for rape. Gender plays zero role in what is truly considered rape and abuse. People have deluded themselves thinking that men can't be victims due to them being forced to be strong and emotionally cut off. This is so backwards, men feel just as much as women do and shouldn't be shamed to express emotions. It's disgusting that people actually believe that you can't rape a man if the aggressor is a woman. Men can be victims. We need more awareness spread about this as it's completely wrong and sexist to even think such things.

[Mr_longLegz]

A friend of a friend was raped by two women when he was in his mid teens, early 20s come by and while playing a multi-player game with his girlfriend, my friend and one of their friends, they wondered why the couple didn't make it out last weekend for whatever reason. The girlfriend made a joke that they were up all night while the raped each other. Boy friend without saying a single word logged off and killed himself. The girl friend has since been institutionalized and has been for nearly 10 years now.

If you dont think men can be abused, raped or taken advantage of, I hope you never get the chance to have kids of your own purely out of protection for them. If you have kids and think this way, you're a piece of shit parent who should have no family past those who spawed you onto the earth.

[CoolKatie]

that is a lot an of video about men saying they be abused on TikTok and they don't even like double. my mother doesn't think they get abuse but I know she is the wrong and I know some men that do have a learning disability has been shame by their own learning disabilities and I saw women hit learning disabilities men and I told them not to do that but they refuse so I did tell a teacher. other user think it can't happen you just going to be natural section very soon and will not like if we abuse you wouldn't like. then don't do to men do not matter is mainstream or learning disabilities.

[VanillaSalt]

Is not that they can’t be abused. Is that Nobody cares. So many people get upset seeing something unfair but won’t do anything about it. So many people will actually commit the same hypocrisy they condemn afterwards. People want take real action into the unfairness hits them directly. Women will not defend men and when they call it out nobody will listen or take real action.


The truth about this world is your problems are not mine. People are horrible, bad, terrible creatures and your better off not being involved with them. But as were social creatures that’s not an option so... in the spirit of fairness. Do not take it. Be a man and when she talks down to you you walk out. When she hits you you show her your a man and put her on the ground. And when she treats you like your less than her you walk away completely. You get respect by not letting people walk on you and people don’t give kindness to people they don’t respect man or woman.

[tennisgirly]

Men can definitely be abused by women, and in many different ways! But don't forget that men abuse men all the time too. I'm not the kind of person who'd say that women have it harder because I know that both sexes have their own difficulties; and while I'm bold and sassy I try to respect everyone. No matter who it happens to or who is doing it- abuse is wrong, and I will always stand by that opinion no matter what.

[SngBirdy]

I dont think men can be abused in the way that men abuse women. I dont think that johnny depp actually gave a fuck about amber hitting him a few times or whatever. But he needs that to win his case.
I think men can and are a lot of times abused the same way amber heard abused johnny. Manipulation, lies, playing the victim. And i think thats by far the most frequent abuse performed by women and it almost always goes unnnoticed. Why? Well like i said, its manipulative and silent. And women are supported by society and the government in these cases. They are trusted more than men.
I heard of a case like this from some guy whos new at my workplace. Very classic example of this kind of silent, manipulative abuse. And no one to help him, no one to believe him. He said im like one of the only people he talked to who can really understand what he's going through.

[RawIronhide]

Absolutely, abuse doesn't always have to be physical either. You can abuse someone by putting them into unfair circumstances or just plain taking them for granted or slandering their name. Amber making false claims and almost ruined Johnny's career is also abusive for example.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Back in my day, we called some men "pussy-whipped", they would always defer to their wives, were afraid of their wives' scorn, nagging, etc..

I realized eventually that the women in those relationships were just mental abusers.

Yes, many men suffer a great deal of abuse from females.

[gotc147]

Obviously men can be abused by women. Just because when it's physical men are less likely to be injured doesn't mean it isn't abuse.

I know one girl who is HORRIBLY abusive to her fiance, physically and emotionally. Thing is, her fiance is just as bad to her so it works out.

[Holisticapproachsara]

Of course! Anyone can be abusive. I have been abused a lot to a crazy point by women in my life. I was in all girls school and at the age of 10 a girl molested me (a 10 year old girl!!!)
also when i was in high school some of them to get back at me would encourage guys to sexually harass me. Women can be very abusive and bitchy as well. But because most severe cases of domestic abuse were committed by men that is why its more highlighted

[PinkMichae]

There are some very abusive women out there. Even if the man is stronger than her. They most likely have already been emotionally abused so they don't defend themselves when they do get physically abused.

Also there's always that fear if the cops are called she'll lie and they will believe her simply because she's the weaker sex in their eyes.

[bakingperfectionist]

Of course they can, I don't think that's really in question. The thing people disagree about is about whether men should just take it or not because they're supposed to be big and strong. Which ofc, shouldn't be the case. Men can be physically and mentally abused and can fall apart the same way as women. Hopefully it becomes more public knowledge that its not ok to abuse men and that they have feeling too and are deserving of healthy non toxic love.

[Anonymous]

Most men experience some form of abuse from a woman at some point in their lives. The majority of that abuse is emotionally. However there is also a significant amount of physical abuse that just gets excused because it's seen as normal for a wife to slap her husband.

Most physically attractive men have also been sexually assaulted or harrased by women. I can't remember the last time I've gone to a nightclub without getting groped or ground on by some girl or another completely unprovoked and without consent in any form.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I've heard real life horror stories about female abusers that would make even most violent criminals go "yikes, that's a bit much!".

And, you know, abuse comes in many forms. It's not always "person A hits person B". Female abusers are often highly skilled in the execution of psychological, financial, reputational, and emotional abuses against their victims. "Bitches be crazy", as they say. 🙄

[FatherJack]

Yes physically and mentally , long term negative behavior towards a partner can leave it's mark , I have been on the sharp end of both , was slashed with a knife in a sudden , unprovoked attack by an ex , she was my ex straight after the attack , despite bleeding everywhere , disarmed her & shoved her out of my house , told NEVER to contact or go near me again !! Also , a man cannot report such attacks to police , as HE will be arrested & blamed as the aggressor automatically , many bad women fully & ruthlessly exploit this to the max.

[Highwayrobbery]

I know you only posted this to see if people are able to apprehend the magnitude of domestic abuse against males rather than just expressing that they understand it can happpen, but seriously if anyone thought the answer was "No" I'd be questioning humanity.
Also Amber Heard stans are the worst. Despite seeing all the evidence against her they'll still ramble on about how Depp could've killed her or something and completely disregard any argument for Depp.

[Prisma]

Yes, definitely they can abuse verbally (I don't think you need me to help figure that one out) and also physically. Why? Well, You see I've been hit by a woman before and she wasn't any more physically strong than your average female , but she did weight more than me, but also she hit me so hard in the face that I saw stars. I didn't even lay a hand on her she was just mad at me. I wasn't even trying to make her mad, anyways I'm not trying to say I'm a victim I'm just saying woman can hit harder than you would have expected.

[jgokgotit]

Absolutely. In the jail I work at, we have more women than men arrested for domestic violence. Granted, domestic violence encompasses more than just SO abuse. It covers ANYONE in the household. Men are actually MORE vulnerable to abuse from women because we are expected to just take it. However, it is MORE brutal typically for a man to abuse a woman. Kinda balances out and is shitty either way.

[Novacane]

Yes, they can I was sexually assaulted by someone who I thought was a friend of mine. she kept trying to get me drunk and would get mad when I kept saying no and tried to make it seem like I was the wrong one for not wanting to. When our friends found out, they eventually took her side and slowly start to cut me off. So yeah it happens but will always gon unnoticed or more like women don't care as long as it doesn't happen to women then they are fine with it.

[trees4blue]

Yes. 100%. Abusive situations are a serious double standard- men can be abused too, and there’s probably a lot of it because of the pressures society outs on men to be manly, so they likely don’t report it in order to keep a masculine image. Society is fucked and sexism goes both ways.

[gomalley411]

Yes, I’ve seen it before. If a woman intentionally emotionally, verbally or physically mistreats a man to the point where it’s having severe effects on his health or relationships, then in my opinion that counts as abuse, the same as it would have been if the roles were reversed.

[mc7500]

I have a friend whos girlfriend: 1.) Verbally harassed him daily and threatened to end his life 2.) She tripped him on purpose while he had a broken leg and didn't help him get up 3.) She stole money 4.) Threw furniture at him 5.) Dumped a beer on him in public 6.) When he did favors for her like doing the laundry, it was expected and she complained (seriously I saw it) if it wasn't perfect. 7.) Cheated countless times 8.) Is a complete gold digger, it's beyond obvious.

No this is not me saying this and using the friend to replace my experience. This demonic women is real lol!

[Fromdusktilldawn]

You're only scraping the surface here. Weird comparison but they prefer to ambush instead of frontal attack. They mostly attack verbally/psychologically, yell and make your life living hell. To the way that they bully you.
They KNOW they have the advantage to be women and play thr victim card and blame everything on the man and society believes it blindly.

[Guanfei]

They can, and they are. But there's no refuge for them, no one to listen or take it seriously, no #metoo, no "believe him".

The thing with Depp is he is lucky to be famous, attractive and have a fanbase. Any other man, someone without fame, wouldn't be defended at all, and would probably end up in prison himself.

[leilak]

anyone in any relationship can get abused. the case of men getting abused seem so rare because when they voice it out, they are deemed weak and laughed at for not being manly enough so most keep quite.

[msbrightness]

Sure. Most women have a much wider social permission to organise affairs.
If anyone pisses her off, any man gets the abuse - very willingly, very dramatically, very severely and drastically - depending on what she is trying to demonstrate to her village or clan, whatever sorority she secretly she belongs to or hopes to impress.

[DragonXR]

45% of reported DV victims are men. Keep in mind men are more unlikely to report DV. According to a CDC study. In 70% of reported DV cases , it was the woman who hit first. When a woman hits or abuse a guy , no one cares because he's "big and strong", which is why no one talks about male abuse.

[Msgaïj]

Mens can hit, womens can manipulate (mostly by feelings)
Problem is one is much easier to prove than the other.

And for people who say mens can't be raped:
https://youtu. be/AujQOnDlpus

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. Men can be and are victims of abuse. It doesn't have to be physical either. Breaking someone down with words is a form of abuse. Narcissism and manipulation are forms of abuse.

[Jjpayne]

I think verbally and emotionally they very well can but let's be honest This does exist

[Citizenkirk]

Can they? The whole of human history has practically been written and revised by such relationship criteria.

[bolverk]

Men can get abused by women, physically, emotionally and sexually but if they called the police then it would be them who would be arrested or forced out of the home, as police have usually been trained under the Duluth Model where they are taught that the man is always the aggressor, in addition to completely neglecting male victims and female perpetrators of abuse.

[jshm2]

They do.

Also, both were shitty people in that relationship and they just stayed together for their careers.

[virtue2332]

Abuse absolutely sucks. I have to say there is something particularly disgusting when it comes to falsely accusing someone that is innocent of abuse.

[ChrisMaster69]

Erm yes I honestly though everyone knew this.

there are battered husband shelters, same as women’s refuge.

[Hidden_P]

Of course men can be abused by women. Anyone can be abused by anyone.


Anyone who thinks otherwise is either:
- in a special bubble
- never been abused
- an idiot

[TOTEMPLASTER]

Absolutely. Can you imagine being married to an angry Nanzi Pelosi?

[Toast792]

Of course they can, anyone that says they can't must be really stupid..

[MountAverage]

Anyone can get abused by anyone. But how do we know what happened between Heard and Depp? From what I know, it's all he says she says so far. Am I missing something? Haven't been following the case.

[CubsterShura]

Uhhh you pretty much answered your own question instead of asking others what they think. The question was kinda pointless, could have just written a myTake I guess.

But yes, men can and do get abused by women, they are human too.

[Jersey2]

The way men are actually abused by women is not taking a weak punch. It’s by them claiming rape when there wasn’t one. That’s devastating and it happens more than we want to admit.

[Silver158]

Of course but women tend to go less for physical abuse and favour emotional abuse. putting the guy down using shaming tactics, making them jealous, gaslighting and spreading shit behind their backs to turn friends against them to name but a few.

[David92506]

I don't know if this constitutes being abused, but I used to date a woman who had a horrible temper. She would scream, yell and throw things. I put up with it because I thought all women were this way.

[Dchrls78104]

My country is full of such instances. Yet the men hardly talk about it (what's the point, if no one listens); they just act, and then they are demonised and jailed, which is not really fair.

[Massageman]

Happened to my brother-in-law with wife number one (a real mental case who is currently destroying the life of hubby number FOUR!)

[Nazgol]

Of course. You just don't hear about it a lot and it often tends to go unreported, as they keep it to themselves usually because of fears of embarrassment and judgment

[Grubhub]

Johnny Depp is not a victim. Hahahahaha, I totally get it. You people love him so you’ll never think he could possibly do such a thing but anybody black like OJ, R Kelly, Kobe, Michael Jackson they’re so called guilt huh? I’ve noticed most people who don’t think Depp is a woman beater are republicans. I heard Johnny Depp was a pedo

[Prof_Don]

Men get abused by women all the time! Unfortunately this crime is heavily underreported due to the law favoring women so heavily.

[LogicalGal123]

Yes they can. Men can get abused by women verbally, physically, and mentally. Everything okay?

[nella965]

men get raped? i thought men were always desperate for sex and will fuck anything that is alive. MEN DON'T GET RAPED.

[Browneye57]

So much whining... so little time.
Isn't she the one that shit their bed? Fuckin'-A

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend is abusive (verbally) - she shouts, swears and goes crazy on a regular basis.

I would say that women are overly emotional and prone to these kind of outbursts whereas men can usually rationalise their problems.

[KingdomForAKiss]

Absolutely they can. I have at least two male friends who have experienced it.

[Anonymous]

If they are weak yes they can. And i don't mean just physically. Women will test guy emotionally and mentally. If you can't handle her nonsense, guess what. You fail!

[realperson02]

Well no matter how much you scream at the top of your voice but still even in this modern world, A man is guilty until proved innocent and a woman is innocent until proven guilty.

[TaeTaeTeaBTSSS]

Im sure men can get abused. But maybe people dont know that maybe because men dont tell that or its just rare. But men can get abused of course.
(about the rare part. No offense to men)