Should I confess or not to my best friend who I think really likes me?

[Chxymxe]

Well my best friend is sooo close to other girls than me and he is my best friend and my friends keep saying that it's impossible for him to be your best friend and he don't even hug you or that close to you in person even tho we are close in virtual and we talk and we were each other's valentine and I think he likes me but I can't confess to him because I am worried of ruining our relationship because it's so strong and soo sweet too

Yess

No it's better not

[btbc92]

I think you may have to listen to your friend on this one. It's better not to. Number one, there's a lot of red flags concerning him. Those red flags stems from not only not having a close relationship with you in public but he only develops that online. Which I bet you have nothing to do with the pandemic. Number two, he has all these girls that he's involved with but it sounds like he also doesn't have much of boundaries either. If you get involved with a person like that you may end up getting seriously hurt. And I can guarantee you that you may not be the only girl that confessed to him. Number for, if he's not spending enough time getting to know you for you, it may not be appropriate. I think personally for you at 15 you are too young, and ask somebody else had said you definitely need to at least wait until you are 17 or 18 years old. The reason being is because you need to make sure that you want to love this individual and you got to understand why you want to be involved with this person. Don't confess something that you are not prepared to not only be rejected for, but something you can't be responsible for if you end up in a relationship with him and it turns out to be the worst decision you ever made. You are way too young to be making those kind of mistakes. And it's best to avoid them. That's my personal advice to you.

[btbc92]

Don't worry about jeopardizing anything. Because if you truly have a friendship oh, nothing is going to really change much. But if you don't have a friendship then understand that it's not your fault. It has nothing to do with you but the person that you're crushing on. I've been in similar situations myself growing up. And I can tell you this as a person who now understands. A person that loves and cares about you wants to be around you. Even if they cannot reciprocate what you want, they truly value you. Since I can tell that you are person that truly values deep and authentic relationships I'm more concerned about your heart and your feelings than I am concerned about this guy. It just sounds like to meet us guys going to end up hurting you and I think it's best for you to read the signs while it's still available.

[Chxymxe]

Yeahhh you are right

[Gosceewual]

I don’t understand how can you ruin a friendship by confessing your feelings?
it can go two ways:

1. He doesn’t like you back, and tells you that but continues the friendship as nothing changed

2. He likes you back and you becomes lovers

what do you thinks gonna happen? He’s gonna delete you from everything if he finds out you like him?
you think he’s gonna be Mad at you n no longer wanna be friends?

i don’t understand people who say this

[Gosceewual]

Is there actually guys out there that would be mad at a girl cos she said she liked you and no longer wanna be her friend?
Wtf, those guys are assholes... crushes are natural and you can’t help them

If a girl told me she had a crush on me I either

1. Wouldn’t care
2. Love it

But I definitely wouldn’t be angry about it

[slatyb]

Don't "confess". Just invite him to do something with you and see how he responds. If that's even possible with Covid-19 restrictions. Maybe you could just video-conference over something like an assignment.

[jshm2]

He's your best friend for good reason, kiddo. Don't make it all awkward.

[btbc92]

I hate to break it to you but trust me when I say. A guy that behaves like that is not your best friend. I have solid male friends that I have been friends with for over 15 years. I can safely tell you they were not guys that behave like that. Somebody that doesn't take time to really get to know you and express themselves outside of the internet or people who are just using you for your attention. He's just using her for attention. Or just like having a talk to her because she's an overall interesting person. But other than that, her friends is right. It's not about making it awkward and I find it very disrespectful for you to be saying something like that. A person that desire something more has the right to at least ask about where things can be. There's nothing wrong with asking. Lovers are also your best friend. He's just not the person that. Lovers are also your best friend. He's just not the person that she should be investing in romantically. Not somebody like that she's going to get hurt. And I have no doubt that she doesn't know him well enough to make that assessment. She is only 15 and it's very clear that she's a helpless romantic. Not yet somebody who had the wisdom to understand who she may be dealing with.

[btbc92]

Guys like that and even women love the attention and I also means to have many possible sexual and romantic prospects. She also has no idea if he's not only sexually active but is he at least sexually active with one if not few of them. That is not something she should be getting herself involved with. There's nothing wrong with having friends. But having all those female friends like that spells red flags. Because I bet you not all of them are actually friends. If she does not know the nature of his relationship with those females, she's just going to be another victim.

[Chxymxe]

Ohhh yeahhh I totally understand you and you are right

[bowenw]

You could ask him where he sees your relationship going? Does he think you will always be friends, or does he ever think it could be more serious? If he says he sees you as more than a friend, you could then tell him how you feel.

[Avicenna]

You have to decide if the risk of losing him as a friend is worth it

[ryckrohan]

Once you go this route your relationship will never be the same

[Gosceewual]

Why?

[Gosceewual]

What will change?

[ryckrohan]

Can't go back to just being friends

[Gosceewual]

that’s if he accepts to being her boyfriend. But she wants that kind of relationship

I don’t see the downside

[es20490446e]

Flirting is figuring out without being explicit, so the approach is less risky.

[Iron_Man]

You’re way too young it’s puppy love focus on school

[yofuknutz]

School was boring and trust me I was a dork and I can say that with confidence you're not going to remember the homework assignment you missed from 20 years ago you are going to miss that opportunity to make a move 20 years ago you feel me

[Iron_Man]

@yofuknutz It’s exciting to want to date girls for the first time but you can do that when you’re 18 why risk teenage pregnancy that’s a disaster at 15

[yofuknutz]

You don't have to have sex at the age however I know what you're saying if you knock on the devil's door long enough something's going to answer hopefully she'll be small enough to be on birth control

[Iron_Man]

@yofuknutz But you know how boys are always brainwashing women saying that it’s OK we’re going to get married one day things happen

[Iron_Man]

I will never allow my child to date as a teenager and be on birth control pills If I ever had one

[yofuknutz]

You trying to fight Mother Nature makes you a loser the end you can try you even walk around with a shotgun telling her boyfriend's I'm going to shoot your PP off well my first Lay Down Sally underneath her father's rifle shotgun rack I'm not kidding she has blonde hair and blue eyes two weeks later I had jaw surgery with a side of blood transfusion, no not related to this. Hee Haw. Lol

[Iron_Man]

@yofuknutz I should’ve known what kind of a person you are just by looking at your screen name. You have no moral values you don’t give a rats ass about underage kids having sex you disgust me get the hell out of here idiot loser

[Iron_Man]

@yofuknutz don’t back sass me shrimp dick you are all alone

[Anonymous]

Confess, you will feel better.

[yofuknutz]

You take a chance and see what happens and allow for mistakes

[Stevefiveo]

Go for it. Don't waste another day.

[Anonymous]

At least it's not Iron Man that boy take steroids