Would you accept a ghost back?

[Anonymous]

I’m really curious if anyone had ever accepted a person who ghosted them back into their life. If so, did it work out in the end? Did it eventually lead to a happy ending?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If someone just disappeared with no good reason and justification other than they just didn't want to talk to you or weren't interested and didn't have the balls to say least be upfront about it, then no..
Because how would you know they wouldn't do the same again?
Some of these people start talking to so many at once online, and then cut communication and then when the person they're really interested in isn't interested in them, they'll try to go back to the people they ghosted, the "anybody is better than nobody" mindset...

[Cynicaldreamer]

Nope, not again. I used to when I was younger, naive, and didn't know any better.

Yeah... lesson learned. They just wound up ghosting me again, usually when someone else came into their life or they got bored of me.

If someone ghosts you, do the same thing to them: completely remove them from your life so they don't come back to haunt you.

[TurboKid]

I've done that for some friends. It turned out well. That said, my idea of friendship is kind of basic. I just like to have a good time. So with some of the friends who disappeared for me like an entire year and came back and wanted to hang out, I was happy to hang out since they were fun. I'm always down for a good time.

[TurboKid]

Actually I kind of ghost my friends too sometimes like if I'm really busy at work. I tend to go off the grid. We kind of ghost each other here and there with stressful times or big changes in life. But no big deal in our case.

[TurboKid]

Well, is there a difference between ghosting and just being unresponsive for like 6 months? All the cases I'm thinking about were just like that. Like "whoops, my bad, I got all caught up in this new thing and forgot to reply for 6 months."

[TurboKid]

And usually accompanied by some big lifestyle change like a new job, or a marriage, or having kids, something like that.

[FictionalCharacter]

What’s with the different accounts?

[TurboKid]

@FictionalCharacter I'm trying to quit drinking lately. I only used the DrunkAss one when I was drunk, and so I canceled it since I'm trying to quit and also want one I can use when I'm sober. With the DrunAss one, it's like I had a notoriety for being so blunt and rude and crude to keep up that I felt the need to drink a lot each time before I used it, and I was getting tired of that. So I deleted it.

[TurboKid]

@FictionalCharacter I'm also not really that interested in making friends on here. I've found some nice people but I don't really care for online friends over my real ones.

[TurboKid]

@FictionalCharacter With the AK667 when I was an influencer and editor, I was just getting too addicted to the site! I was neglecting my work putting too much time into it. So I deleted that account just to focus on my work and other things since I realized the site was turning into an unhealthy addiction. That's the only one I regret deleting though since being able to edit MyTakes as an editor was so handy. I actually wrote super serious MyTakes back then which I poured hours into because the edit feature made me want to improve and improve and improve them. Ever since I deleted the account, all I do is stupid/silly/drunk MyTakes.

[FictionalCharacter]

I know.
I also never found you as rude, only bluntly.

You don’t have to worry about being my friend I was just curious with the different accounts is all.

[TurboKid]

@FictionalCharacter My bad! I'll try to take this account seriously enough to keep it.

[TurboKid]

@FictionalCharacter I also do think of nice people like you on here as a friend in a way. I don't know how to explain it but I'm an extrovert and I grew up throughout my teens without the internet or even mobile phones being that popular and it took more years for social media like MySpace and Facebook and whatnot to become popular. So I am not so used to the idea of deep friendships over virtual spaces.

[FictionalCharacter]

Me as a friend? Lol 😅
We never followed each other. But I have seen you around for a couple of years.

[TurboKid]

@FictionalCharacter We can follow now! I was using the previous one while drunk every time so I must admit that I forgot half the things I said or encountered at the time. I'm gonna try to behave with this new one reasonably well, just like I did when I started this site before I started getting super drunk sometimes while using it.

[etexbearkat]

It would depend on why the ghosting happened. If she wasn’t interested in me at the time, and now she is, and if I haven’t found someone else, I might give her a chance. However, she would have to prove to me I could trust her.


Basically, my answer is maybe.

[Purplemonkey242]

Absolutely not. I can't trust someone who ghosted me. Thats a horrible thing to do and I just think they'll do it again

[newfreshstart]

so true i got ghosted its fucked up as hell

[Asker]

I got ghosted, and when I gave him a second chance, he did it again..

[DaisyM23]

I honestly thought you meant if someone would accept a GHOST ghost 😂
But i dunno, depends on the situation of course, people who ghost are kinda rude

[Asker]

😂 all good

[sensogal]

Yeah we're all in and out. Unless someone just walks out of the blue on their spouse and 3 kids, What's the big deal?
Why do people think they are entitled to some kind of explanation?

[Asker]

lol, sounds like you’re the one who’s done it.

[sensogal]

Yes always, unless it's official and a serious relationship. And others do the same to me, I'm pretty sure. That's my view of things and don't mind people ghosting at all

[Anonymous]

I would and do, but I don't think it's ever worked out.
The thing is, you forgive someone because they ask - it's for their benefit, not yours.

Will you trust them in the same way? Probably not. But how can you turn your back on someone who comes back asking to be forgiven? It's not like you have to date them or marry them or whatever. Just let them back in.

[Alyssa11]

I did and then he ended up cheating on me. Don’t accept ghosts lol. They ghost for a reason. It was later revealed that he ghosted me because he was with that bitch but then couldn’t seem to forget me so came right back.

[FlutteringFeelings]

Definitely not. I may not have a lot of pride but when it comes to disrespect I refuse to allow anyone to make me look like a fool twice. If someone leaves then they’ll remain gone.

[Shaggy_KW]

I'm not one for second chances but I could under the right conditions. There may be more reasons to the ghost than just they don't like you. Maybe they needed some time to themselves or just needed a break from you, while they should have told you that was the case, it's still understandable. Now if you were flirting with someone or looking to start a relationship and they just disappear, I wouldn't let them back in my life, not as a friend or spouse anyways.

[Anonymous]

If they are requesting to follow me on social media then yes, but if they try to talk to me again then no. Especially since one of my ghosts didn't seem interested in me when I was single and interested in him, but once I got a boyfriend he was suddenly interested again.

[kingjulienstoe]

Hell no, if you can leave just like that, stay gone.

[worldscolide]

I would not, the fact that they didn't have the courage or respect to talk to me in the first place would preclude them from even friendship..

[Drumlin2001]

Not really. Sometimes with friends you drift due to being at different points on life, so I have lost contact with people for years then caught up later. But as for dating, if someone just cuts me off I'm done with them. They aren't worth my time

[stepup20]

No let the dead rest. If I’m not important enough to properly get a response then they don’t deserve a second chance.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Someone who ghosted once is likely to ghost again. They're too immature and inconsiderate to have an adult conversation, so they take the chicken-s*** way out and just vanish. Why would I want to be with someone like that?

[Ironic_Method]

So I have two girls that I know of that profess undying love for me... every couple of years. I respond out of boredom knowing they'll just ghost again after a few days, but it's become quite entertaining. And weird.

[HawkPerception]

Not a chance. Ghosting is already low class. Talking to the person that ghosted you is willingly letting that kind of character get away with anything.

[MrKinktastic]

I have, she was just a commitment phobe so it just took a bit of work to reel her in

[Asker]

Lol, how did you do that?

[MrKinktastic]

Patience and acting quickly when she gave an opening. She tended to second guess and get scared because she was new to bdsm snd still feeling embarrassed about liking it so much

[Asker]

I think its easier to do that with girls.

[MrKinktastic]

Probably, that was a game of teasing and pouncing when she worked up the nerve. With guys it’s more about getting them too wound up to think straight snd inviting them over lol

[Asker]

How to do that? Get them wound up?

[MrKinktastic]

Guys are pretty visual so pictures with a tiny bit of scenario usually does the trick

[Asker]

Oh I know that, the thing is he’ll get the wrong idea, won't take her seriously from the start, he’ll just see her as easy and then she’ll have to redeem herself and try yo get him to see she wants a relationship, screw that lol

[MrKinktastic]

That’s fair, I’m usually trying to pin down flaky new play partners for bdsm so the context is a bit different. Usually they just get in their heads and overthink/get shy so getting all the blood in their genitals tends to fix the problem :p

[Biancam13]

No not if they didn’t have a VERY good reason for ghosting me.

[iseekpinetrees]

I don't know if I ever have. Would depend on the person I guess.

[mvpverona]

Hell no they will just continue to play mind games with you.

[Ballin13]

I dealt this many many times.. I usually take them back because I find it entertaining. if they leave again then no harm done.