Do you think it's a man's place 'to lead' a relationship between a man and a woman?

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cth96190 · Accepted Answer

Yes, because it is the natural order for the man to lead. Also, the female brain is wired to want the man to lead, regardless of what Communist/Feminist drivel some may parrot.

bamesjond0069 · Accepted Answer

Definitely. A man should be the head of the household.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I do not. A relationship is a partnership.

MrOracle · Answer

I do, yes.

Understand that part of being a leader is taking good care of your followers. Being a leader doesn't mean being a slavemaster/dictator - it means doing what's best for the group you are leading, whether it's just a couple or eventually a family. Leading is a responsibility as much or more as it is a privilege. And leading doesn't preclude the leader from discussing issues and taking her input and wisdom before making a decision - a good leader takes good advice and information from wherever he finds it.

I do think that men tend to be more grounded, more logical, more used to using reason rather than emotion in the decision-making process, and thus, on average, tend to be better suited for leading and taking charge in a relationship - though there are certainly exceptions to that as with everything. We all know a couple where the woman runs the show and she's more grounded and reasonable than the man - but I think we all agree that that's the exception more than it's the rule.

For myself, leading is as natural as breathing - it's just what I've always done, and I'm good at it. I also take the responsibilities of being a leader seriously, and if I make a bad decision, no one is harder on me about it than myself. But people follow me because the vast majority of the time, I keep things running smooth and well and easier than it might be otherwise, and I help make the challenges of life easier to deal with. I'm respected as a leader because I work hard every day to earn that respect.

Miristheiss · Answer

For the most part yes.
It isn't in the "rules" but rather just a natural, biological, brain difference part of what being a man and woman are.
I think most women want to be with a guy they can rely on and who will take the initiative and work to lead a path for them. She wants input she wants to be heard... if she feels she is right she wants him to yield but when push comes to shove most of the time they want to rely on him and let him take all the pressure, risk and follow his gut and she wants that safety of knowing he's got things under control, she can yield and trust in him to take care of her.

Ammi_goldie806 · Answer

I believe that both parties have to lead a relationship. A relationship has to be 50/50 whether it is the man giving the girl something or the girl is giving the guy something. you have to be 50/50 you have to be even. sometimes you have to give up something for somebody that you love if you truly care about them , you would actually sacrifice. Do certain things for that person whether it's female or male you don't have to do everything that they want to do, but you have to give up something like instead of you using his car to buy food you use your card to buy food and vice versa. If you truly like the person you would start "liking" things that they like. Example if he likes to watch football you don't like to watch football but you watch football anyway because that's his favorite sport, because you want to try it out.

MasseurDeMojo · Answer

It has always been a mans place to lead; but, he is also required to listen to his wife, and head her council. Many men who have ignored their wives, have ended up in serious trouble. Women do not see things the same way as Men, and because of that, they catch things that Men do not. When a Man listens to his Wife, and makes a decision based on her thoughts combined with his; he normally ends up in a good place, with few to no problems. Note: that requires a wife to be 100% truthful to her husband, so he can make a good, and right decision!

A man leads, but he heeds the council of his wife, so he can lead wisely. It is a partnership between them, with the man having the final word after discussing everything with the wife.

Beautyforeverybody · Answer

Yes. However some people get the definition of “lead” quite wrong. It certainly does not mean that only the guy gets a say in decisions or he has more rights. It just means that he is the more dominant, protective side who puts on more efford in relationship.
He opens doors for his lady, he pays for her, he supports her in hard times, he gives her a shoulder to cry on and so on.
A simple example is that men are much more likely to propose to their partner than women are. That is a sign of leadership by itself.

serious · Answer

No, not necessarily. Although it is a good thing if a man leads the relationship but at least at times the woman can also step in and take the lead when required or in certain things. I don't see that as wrong.

On another note, depending on how the woman is, her core thinking , nature personality and how much the man trusts her and her intelligence the man can let the woman have the power in the relationship whereas he plays the support role and does what he can to ensure good decisions are taken when needed.

This doesn't meant that the man this power that the man has given is done by choice, he has given that power to that woman willingly and it can actually do wonders if the woman doesn't misuse that power she has in a relationship. This doesn't mean that the man cannot take charge or be assertive, it just means that the man prefers not to do it.

I think my answer is clear. That's my opinion. Yes.

0112358 · Answer

I think whatever works for each couple, if it works, is great.

I also think the majority of women lose attraction for men when they are leading things. Not all. But majority.

most if not all women I know in real life indicate they want an "equal" relationship. But that's actually extremely difficult to pull off. The "easiest" is to each have authority in your own space. I think a lot of couples I see, either the guy is in charge by virtue of being an aggressive asshole, which doesn't work that well, or they aimed for equal but she ends up in charge because she's too neurotic to be equal and he ends up appeasing her, which works even worse for their relationship as a couple.

madgoat · Answer

I think sometimes we want to be lead by someone else.
To trust in someone who appears to know what they are doing, trust in their drive and clarity, and that their goals are true and aligned with yours.
Other times, that's you. You are the leader with the vision and the drive. It all seems easy and clear to you.
A healthy relationship can afford both of you opportunity to do both roles in some aspects of your lives. It's not about equality. It's just common sense. And it's a reason that you can be stronger as a couple than you can on your own.

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

So many answers here are making me so happy! 🥰

Put me in the category of equal partnership. There will be times where he may need to navigate the lead. There will be times she will. In the end, it is all about the communication and being equals.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Nope, relationships a mutual events. it takes both to successfully steer the relation Ship through life. simply having the guy do it, means the passenger likely gets bored and feels uninvolved.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not lead but to guide her , not force her , you should both be a team and support each other Love only grows when you both sacrifice for each other and remove selfishness , Nobody can force someone to love you , if they choose to walk away let them go , you can only guide someone to stand by your side

BlackTealLazer · Answer

I think it depends on stablity, understanding, and maturity. But, also if the person has the compulsion to "make things better" for their partner.
I sometimes feel the need to lead, but if I'm with a mature man, I kinda like it when he's in charge.

TomGarand · Answer

In most cases, yes. But only because the majority of men AND women want that dynamic for themselves. Otherwise, who leads the relationship should depend on what both parties want.

ariadneR · Answer

50 50
I'll follow my man anywhere, and I know he'd do the same.
We are both entirely different people and he knows that I know more about some things than he does and vice versa. I trust him, and he trusts me. If I think there is a better way to do something and I rum it by him then its all good.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I think outside of people who have dom/sub kinks, trying to be in charge of an SO doesn't work.

I would prefer either equality in the entire relationship, or equality everywhere but the bedroom and with her being a passive form of dominant in that (ie clingy/sexually charged/her initiating is fine, but no bdsm or sexual torture stuff).

I have no interest in being told how to live my life or telling her how to live hers.

CisySpacex · Answer

Nah, I hate that shit. A man should keep letting me know he is available. And let me control the speed.

Gabboo · Answer

yep, and it's getting pretty damn old seeing feminazi bullshit everywhere, so.

worldscolide · Answer

I dont think the dynamic is that simple. For all appearances in my own marriage i "Appear" to lead. When in reality i defer to my wifes opinions a lot, i value her opinion more than most honestly, but i still appear to be the leader.

loves2learn · Answer

No. I think the relationship should be a balance between the two. An equal partnership. Not led by the man.

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

I think its equal in a relationship. There will be times that the man will lead then there are times when the woman leads. That is a true sign of a good healthy relationship when you can both work together with each others strengths and weaknesses and step up and step back in the right situations.

BillHe1 · Answer

NO, it should be a partnership. A relationship is two people working together, not one leading the other.

fonduegirl · Answer

Depends on who's more dominant, doesn't it? Evolutionary speaking, of course a man should but come on, we have evolved beyond that. Submission is sissy - now that's a myth. But coming to center point, it's up to the couple to decide.

Leavesbound · Answer

I think it's up to each couple to decide that. I don't mind a woman leading if she's taking us some place interesting. In the bedroom I prefer the woman is in charge.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Not really. The best relationships I've had with women have all been because I treat women as equal, and not objectify them.

Slartybartfast · Answer

How do you reconcile women opposed to this with women wanting men to do all the work approaching and initiating a relationship?  They seem mutually exclusive.

Kas19 · Answer

No and I wouldn't be in a relationship where the man is leading.

AndrewMG · Answer

Naah, life works as a team... regardless of the circumstances. The world only exists because of reactions, and the point of reactions is it requires 2 elements.

deeks1121 · Answer

Many people would say yes. But anyone who has been in a relationship with a female knows that she always wears the trousers 😅

anon_teen · Answer

I don't a relashionship is a partnership, if he wants to be the leader id rather be single.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

In the Christian arrangement the man is the head of the marital home.

Ripper_E · Answer

It's no ones place. Some people are just better leaders than others. What matters is respect between the two.

superrmatt · Answer

If the man in question is a more natural leader, yes. Else, no.

AdithyaR · Answer

I don't think so, it's a relationship, not an army batallion. I don't feel anyone needs to lead. Both walk together, not follow one another.

anylolone · Answer

No, women should grow up. Most men actually crave that. Who should lead a market, business or consumers? Neither do regardless of what you think. Same for relationships.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I believe it should be a partnership with two couples working together to make it work

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'm personally neutral on the matter. But I will say that most women would disagree with your statement.

Wiredone · Answer

Neither the man or woman should lead in a relationship. They both need to give 100% for it to last

Floppy2112 · Answer

I think I would have been better off taking a more decisive leading role.

Jaylaaa2000 · Answer

I think it's a decision to be made by each couple

jerdanro · Answer

If that us the dynamic both partners want then yes. Every relationship is unique.

NightHawk99 · Answer

Men's role was always to lead. However, the best leaders listen to their council.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes but we can always get input from you and we appreciate it

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

well more women than men want that dynamic to be in place

Pogi-Paddy-2 · Answer

All I have ever seen is that successful marriages are equally dynamic.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Only if he's a REAL MAN...

Ms_Vanderquack · Answer

No, I’m not retarded.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

No, it takes all involved to make it work.

slatyb · Answer

No, although my wife generally does defer to me.

OddBeMe · Answer

Yes. Now shut up and fix dinner.

monkeynutts · Answer

Yeah, I’m a control freak.

Nazgol · Answer

Yes. I am traditional like that

zagor · Answer

Define "lead". And I don't mean the element.

elizabeth05 · Answer

No. No one should lead

IraqLobster · Answer

Always and don't you forget that.

Paulychicago10 · Answer

No, it should be an equal relationship.

msc545 · Answer

Not really - it's not gender specific

RickVienna · Answer

The pussy makes the rules. Im most cases

Mehzmeh · Answer

Yup.

SwitchGirl · Answer

No!!

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