Girls how attractive is self-control in a guy?

[Anonymous]

Very straightforward, direct guy, confident; if someone messes with them becomes very aggressive toward fixing the situation, but also patient, calm, communicates with words, good listener, likes to resolve things with the least violence possible, but, basically, sets lines others know not to cross, because they'll get taken down, but is deliberate; nothing causes him to lose control over his actions.

[Puppystarfish23]

I personally find that type of guy very annoying at times. I sometimes want my man to just lose it with me and be in moment when being intimate. Nothing really sexy about saying "hey you fancy a shag?"

Also I don't like controling men especially ones who tell me constantly how to resolve to my issues when I wasn't asking for them to. Sometimes I just want to vent doesn't mean I want him to tell me how to fix it.

I like a passionate man as I'm very passionate and fiery myself but overall I like a man who is patient, calm, communicates with words, good listener us not a control freak kinda guy.

[Asker]

"Being in the moment" with self-control (ability to choose/direct action) doesn't mean someone isn't in the moment, or spontaneous, it simply means one can control their actions.

I went up to someone a few weeks ago, told them how I responding when they tried manipulating me, they tried to tell me I can't do something, I replied, "I'm not asking permission, just letting you know what I'm going to do" - there was no losing it, but no tolerance for games either.

This wasn't planned, calculated, subdued (i. e. "can I have your permission to ask a question?"), it's taking control, but in a controlled, productive, useful way.

I think you're confused, as I don't think any woman finds a guy "losing it" attractive, but asserting himself. I don't tell others how to resolve issues either, they come to me, talk about a problem, I'll tell my thoughts, perspective (ex: telling a girl who complained about being used too much, "it's not being nice if you're nice to everyone else, but treat yourself like shit" she appreciated the advice to be nice to herself too, and felt better after taking it), but I leave people to do what they will, just focus on trying to help them as best I can, not prove anything, or fix anything,

[oxoxo-lover]

Like everyone has said it is a attractive trait and much more preferred than a impulsive man. Impulsiveness meaning that person is unpredictable and can spin out of control or act out without thinking about the consequences. This is not a good quality. This shows that person isn't able to self regulate their emotions. So yes a man who is self controlled is preferred and personally more admirable. It shows he is in control and more mature.

[ChrisMaster69]

From the description above a right cock.

Self control basically means not showing aggression.

there is zero reason in 99% of cases to show any aggression.

he is the person you would never get fed up of humiliating, as he has zero control.

you would wind him up and laugh at him.

For a girl this will be fucking terrifying, having some guy ready to thump another person because say she talked to him.

the worst set of attributes a guy could have really.

[scholastic_vibez]

There’s self-control, but then if you’re too into restraining yourself from sexual desires you get into a kind of neurosis called Sexual Anorexia where you desire love, but are too afraid to experience at the same time because you loath parts of yourself thinking either you don’t deserve it or that the other person is or will be out of your league.

[purplepoppy]

Self control is very attractive but the fact you mention aggression and violence quite a bit is a big red flag. Decent men see it as a last option, only to be used if they're physically attacked but my gut instinct is you're always ready to play that card, or at least threaten it. I wouldn't feel safe with you.

[BakedBeanieBabie]

That's fine... but can he chill and also just let shit roll off his back while we watch Netlfix? Life doesn't have to be so severe and serious. He sounds a little too uptight.

[Anonymous]

A guy with self control is a very attractive feature. Especially if he has goals and is ambitious in the mix too. Ofcourse if you end up with a girlfriend and you lose your self control over her, I'm sure she'd feel very attractive and cared for.

[Asker]

I don't lose self-control over a girl, just care about her as much as myself, meaning I'd never allow her to take/put up with any crap, and will protect and defend her as if she were me.

[Opinion Owner]

I meant sexually, silly

[Asker]

Romantic (foreplay, lovemaking, romance; making sure she's satisfied, gets what she wants, etc.) but dominant (take control) - once I give her what she wants, I often don't even need to ask, many women, in my experience, appreciate it, go out of their way, want to make me happy and satisfy me.

[HiveBee]

That's exactly how I am and always been that way. I doubt it's that special. I'm sure most guys can keep their cool in tough situations.

[Anonymous]

Attractive but very rare, and he has to be really well raised to turn out this way. Are you describing someone particular like yourself?

[Asker]

Yes. I was a very aggressive child, could've easily been in drugs, jail, violent etc. but, as an example, when I complained about food not coming fast enough as a child, my dad would say, "they have jobs, and are doing their best", basically every time I got selfish, he'd turn my attention to thinking about others.

As a result, I always consider situations, in reverse, like how I'd feel if it was done to me, and have a strong sense of injustice, since I was raised with honor (once you make a promise you keep it, etc.), thus I don't lie, cheat, or tolerate crap.

I never hate, get angry, or take pleasure in another's suffering; example, a girl told me a guy did something to her, then found out something bad happened to him, she said, "good, karma's a bitch", I said, "I don't care what anyone else says or does, or think about what I get in return for my actions, only what's happening, and my choices, try to do what I believe is right (best for everyone, while protecting myself), then let the situation go."

I noticed women seem to give me a lot of attention, I suspect, given the modern culture, because I am always thoughtful, respectful, but never expect anything back (i. e. just do what's right & let everything else go on as it will), to the point it confuses girls who think I'm attracted to them, but don't understand why I'm not making moves, or trying to get anything further.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol you sound like a Capricorn or maybe libra. Anyways you seem like an interesting person because few people have the same attitude as you

[Anonymous]

Very important. I once did a test on my boyfriend and told him we can’t have sex for some time. He didn’t ask about anything, but said that he’s fine with it. That was so sexy and I couldn’t stop myself.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

well, there's attractive, and then there's just stupidity

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[Blackcupcake]

Extremely attractive

[anghellic6942]

Extremely

[potatoooo]

So freaking much.