Have you ever been in LOVE but broke up and looked back and thought maybe you weren't?

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rievious · Accepted Answer

I thought I was... I'm still not sure. It was my first girlfriend and we were in high-school so this story will sound like I'm a young kid who doesn't know anything.

She had a boyfriend before we were together and that guy was a good friend of mine. His life changed and he turned into someone I couldn't recognize anymore and he became really aggressive to his girlfriend. I don't remember how but they broke up. We didn't start until the school dance when I asked her out. We danced and I was to nervous to kiss her so I kissed her on the forehead (bc I was just the right height for that). I told her why I did that and then she kissed me. She made my life great through high-school and I legitimately felt like I was in love. My life got worse and I became more controlling (I'm ashamed to admit but it's the truth) which she didn't like but stayed bc we still had great times together. We even went to eachothothers proms (bc I changed schools) and after that we even went to the same college. I felt so lucky to have her and my life felt like everything was going to be great. Ended up she cheated on me and I ended it. I then saw she started dating the guy she cheated on me with and I heard he was actually always an asshole and knew how to manipulate easily. Through the vine of gossip and old friends I hear she's now seeing another guy who's very religious and I hope is a good match for her... by the way her and I lasted a week from 4 years. I had an anniversary gift and everything. She still pops in my head every now and then and I sometimes think I screwed up or I wouldn't want her back. When we were together she was very gullible and I'm not sure what experience she would need to change that insane amount of gullibility.

Like I said this story makes me sound like a dumb high-school kid. I'm sure everyone got a story like it.

HiveBee · Accepted Answer

I dont think so. I loved my ex wife. No doubts there.

Every other girl I ever dated I wanted to break up with her very soon after. The ex wife tho, I knew I wanted to marry her early on and did obviously.

Never loved any other girl.

I suppose I had a crush recently and I certainly felt like i loved her. Dont know why honestly. But I felt it very intensely! Like damn it was extreme and I was over 30 already. I hadn't had a crush since high school. Then I had the sickest crush on a girl for like 2 years lol.

I dont know if I really loved her. It felt like it. But since I never got with her I'll never know.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

Kind of.
I mean... we were together for a bit over 7 years. A few months after the 7 year mark, I was informed that he was 'spiralling' with his drug use and the shitstorm began. I began to get random memories of things I'd done with him or things he'd told me that, only after the fact, could I see were a complete fabrication to keep me hooked and almost enabling his lifestyle (via financially supporting him while he told me he was at work while in reality, he was getting laid of right, left and centre).

His parents and possibly family friends were in on the web of lies and massive deceit so I ended things with him immediately.
Did I love him? sure. Maybe for the first year or two. But in hindsight, I can remember feeling like things were different after a certain point in time when the dynamics when through a definite shift so.. not since that point in time.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Oh yes...

Actually that was the case for both of my exes! Which made me realize it was infatuation and wanting to be in love, more than actually being in love if that makes sense.
Basically I was yearning for a relationship and to want someone to love me, I fell for the wrong guys. And when things ended, yeah it hurt. But I didn't feel like I was heartbroken because I wasn't that in love with them. I -loved- them, but I wasn't in love with them... yes, big difference.

I've actually fallen for guys I wanted to date, yet they rejected or friendzoned me instead... now that hurts, but that's another topic.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I've had a few relationships where the post-mortem revealed that the cause of death was some sickness that actually didn't involve love.

Pasiton5 · Answer

Yeah, was married for 20 years, i put my ask into it raised 2 kids put them through college, i devoted ask my time to my family but i later for out my no good rotten ex was devoting her time with others, that went on for duration of entire marriage, want for my kids would have been 20 years wasted which in a way it was looking back i got with her because she got pregnant and i did the right Thing, but didn't realize she was as low cold hearted And worse of s person as she was, just not a good Bone, begin tissue nothing good in her ass at all,

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I broke up with her because I discovered that SHE wasn't in love with ME anymore!! I wasted 6 of those 10 years being loyal to her only to find out she'd been seeing another guy right under my nose!! Sad thing is, she threw our relationship away to plan to marry another guy only to drop him like a bad habit a year later!! All for money!! To me, she's a "golden retriever"!! Only after money!! Who needs broads like that?

Anonymous · Answer

I think when you are with someone and you love them, once you break up you will move on and you will stop loving them. Sometimes you even despise them or think of them and go “ew” but that doesn’t mean you weren’t in love. Things happen and things change. When you were with them you loved them, those feelings may not be existent now but they were then.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Yup. It's called lust and rose colored lenses, Coach.

just_a_potato · Answer

Yes, I wanted to be in love like everyone else so badly. And along with that I was blinded by the fact that I had never been treated so tenderly and kindly. I was desperate for the support of someone else and for acceptance. I loved him, but I wasn't IN love.

TurboKid · Answer

Not exactly. It's like I don't love them anymore but because I discovered new things about them when we broke up. Yet before, given what I knew, I loved what I knew about them.

electromagnetic · Answer

I’ve only been in love once and looking back, I’m positive that’s exactly how I felt. Everything felt right. Just the wrong time line.

zoe2187 · Answer

Yes!! I didn’t know what I wanted at the time. I didn’t even know who I was. The older I get I’ve realized what giving and receiving love is. Being in a relationship is hard enough.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

Yes like my first marriage what was I thinking besides I was a kid, there have been others but that one sticks out the most.

kamalravi25 · Answer

Yes i thought i loved her but after breakup i realised i was only infactuated by her good nature. I thought that if i get her i will be happy.
But later i realised that i was being selfish.
Now i know love has to be selfless.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Maybe. I thought I loved my first love. However with time I start to think I'm too egoistic and too opportunistic to love someone and somehow I'm partially responsible this girl I "loved" once turned into a slut that will crush with 300 km/h into the wall, soon. On the other hand we are all humans and need time to learn, no one is born as an oracle.

kannettava · Answer

Yes. I thought I was in love with my first boyfriend. I definitely wasn't.

Ninjazzed · Answer

I think my first love was my only true love that I can genuinely say wasn’t fake. We were childhood friends.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, but I have had those feelings die when I realized they weren't being reciprocated, so it ends up pretty much the same as if I wasn't.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Can't realy say. I lost the ability to love at least romantically by age 25 now that I'm 37 I can't even remeber what love feels like.

RACSKC0B · Answer

Yeah, after everyone of them. Usually it becomes clear they never cared about me, and any care I had for them vanishes pretty quick.

C3397 · Answer

The rest guys in my high school, they nothing to me because I never love them and only one guy I was in love with but he was wrong for me.

Blink9989 · Answer

Yes but I try to remember that every person you meet comes into your life for a reason even if you don't understand why right away

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

Several times. Thought about the love I had and realized that it was the love of the sex not her.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Lots of times. Infatuation or just horny and enjoyed the sex.

Libbers · Answer

Oh not thought. I knew.

Alyssa11 · Answer

Me at all my exes except my last one lololol

thimmslicc · Answer

You go back to feel the same emotions but its not

NathanDavis · Answer

Nope, I've been very selective.

Jxrdyn_13 · Answer

I dont think I was IN love, but I definitely LOVED them

ayari · Answer

Sometimes I miss it, but I don't regret it.

Backspin2 · Answer

Yeah, I think a lot of it was attachment from sex.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Defintely my first relationship

Fuentes · Answer

The love i thought i gave was only lust

Anonymous · Answer

Oh no, the old fart is back :(

Dinklex3 · Answer

When I was 9. Lol

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Sure

Siren777 · Answer

Yes, love is blind.

maryisbreathing · Answer

A few times qwq

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yeah.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Most definitely

msc545 · Answer

Yes, just once.

shiril · Answer

No never

thatguy870 · Answer

Most definitely

Dontaaa · Answer

Yes.

jahaims · Answer

Nope

princeofromance · Answer

No...

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