What you do when your best friend falls for the playboy?

[Anonymous]

My bestie have fallen hard for Playboy.
I know for sure that he a playboy because he had 2 girlfriend at the same time.
I don't want her to get hurt, I told her that he isn't what you think but still.
Well I use to like her but she turned down me,( the reason was she wasn't into me)
But after that she got closer somehow.
And I still care for her and I don't want her to break down, and I don't to be the negative person.
Well if she dates him he will take her virginity and leave her just after that (I know it because he does that)
And if that happens i will completely change.
I am jealous, angry, scared?
And I just don't want her to get hurt

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They are dating, thank you all for sharing. I'll just have to move on.

[WindAtMyBack]

If you've told her the guy is like that, then there is nothing more you can do for her. But there is something you can do for yourself. You can move on. You are hung up on someone who isn't into you that way. It's unhealthy and a waste of your precious time. Time is the most valuable thing you have. Don't throw it away on something that's not going to happen.

Let her live her life. Let her make mistakes, assuming that it's a mistake, which it might not be.

[Asker]

It is a mistake, I know that he is a bad person.
I know because I have seen, I was new to the college when we met, at first I thought he is a good person, but then he took out his phone and shown pics of his class girls naked and with him.

Other , I am moving on right now.
Yes it's fucking difficult to move on.
It's too hard for me to watch someone this close to me getting away.
It hurts a lot when she declined me and now going for the absolute worst.

Look at me, I am better then him (at least I think I am)

One more thing is I don't want to be someone 3-4 while they are my first.

[Asker]

It's just the only way to let her make that mistake and see me change.

[WindAtMyBack]

Playboys are playboys because they are the kind of guy that women really like. Women flock to some guys, and your friend is no exception. She is doing what millions of other girls have done.

There is nothing wrong with a guy dating more than one woman. It's only wrong if he lies about it and makes the woman think she is the only one. A LOT of girls make the mistake of assuming they are the only one, even when the guy never said that or even implied it.

This really should not affect you or change you. Yea, it hurts like hell. It can be one of the most hurtful things there is. But you have to let her go and move on. There is no easy way to do that, but you have to do it anyway. It makes it harder because there may be part of you that thinks you still have a chance with her. You have to let that go too.

Staying friends with her will make it harder. You might have to stop being friends also.

[Asker]

That's what I said cutting ties is the only thing I can do.

There no other way as they are together now.
It affects me because they do the bad stuff and every single girl blame innocent guys like me.
Say stuff like all guys are the same.
Saying that all men want is sex.
It hurt me that they loss trust when they haven't even been give a chance too.

[Anonymous]

Do us all a favor and rent Not Another Teen Movie this weekend. It's hilarious and I think you'll really enjoy it. Also, if you pay close attention to the character known as "best friend guy" (I believe the character's name in the movie is Ricky) you just might learn something that'll help you in this situation and beyond.

[Opinion Owner]

Do check out this movie if you haven't seen it.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank for most helpful. I do hope you check out the movie. If you do, let me know what you think.

[anylolone]

Let her date him, she clearly likes him.
Actually, prop the guy up even more, say he's great.

[Asker]

If that happens I will lose a friend and interest in her.

[anylolone]

Why would you lose a friend?
And if she doesn't want to date you, why shouldn't you lose interest in her?
And if you mean interest as a friend, boy, you are missing a fun ride.

[Asker]

See dude, I don't like people who play with other.
And girls specially changes the way they look at you after having sex.
+ I am a virgin.
And she is too.

[anylolone]

I know, chicks and dudes do change the way they look at you after banging.

Sometimes you have to understand that a problem you can't solve isn't a problem.

[Asker]

The problem is I can't see her losing her Virginity.
Other she her parents are religious,
If they find out I don't know what they will do.

Other I don't think I could see her with someone else.
I just never wanted this friendship.

[anylolone]

A problem you can't solve isn't a problem.
She's going to lose her virginity regardless.
Learn to be able to see her with someone else and laugh at the disaster.

[Asker]

Most probably I'll just cut contact, it's the only way

[anylolone]

Why? Just enjoy the show!
I've done it.

[Asker]

I don't want to deal with someone I warned before making the mistake.
If she comes back to me,
I can't feel the same way I use to feel.
I am not her boyfriend, I was her bff.
For the record she call him.
They are dating.

[anylolone]

You should get used to that.

Also, unlikely she'll come back to you.

[devilish-cutie]

Tell her he is also seeing/fucking another girl

[Asker]

I told her...

[devilish-cutie]

Wwll then its her life
Also dont get hang up on her as she obviously only sees you as a friend
There r plenty of amazing gals out there

[Asker]

There aren't actually 😶

[Asker]

Other I realised that just need to stop being so friendly.

[devilish-cutie]

There r billion of people on this planet, there are plenty of amazing girls

[Asker]

Are they all reachabe?
Are they all of same age?
Are they all waiting?
+ There are places where I can even reach in my dreams.

[devilish-cutie]

Is this on actuwlly reachable?

[Asker]

😅😅😅😅 not a native speaker