Girls, what do you do when you have feelings for your male best friend?

[Anonymous]

It’s so painful, horrible, miserable and upsetting 😭😭😭😭😭🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺😢😢😢😢😢😪😪😪😪😪 up until recently I didn’t talk to him for a month because of this and an argument we had (about something else) and I started talking to him and his brother (who’s my friend also) because my friend/crush was really worried about me, worried sick. My feelings are still there since several months ago. And he’s in a long distance relationship with someone from online, and he doesn’t even know who she is. He’s never talked to her on the phone, video chatted with her, seen her in person.. nothing except texting and pictures. And me and him have known each other for almost 8 years and weren’t in contact when their online relationship started and he’s asked me why I didn’t tell him I have feelings for him before and I told him we didn’t have contact until 5 months after. And he said he really cares about me, loves me and everything and he’d be with me if he wasn’t in that relationship. And what’s worse too is when he tells me stuff like someone will get on their knee and ask me to marry them, give me a ring and that it might not be him whatever that means. I don’t even know why he said that. But it all just kills me. Please help!
I’m trying not to cry as much as I need to only because it makes my eyes hurt really bad

[Rania05]

I'm sorry to hear your painful predicament. I think e was thinking about rejecting you gently (Sorry, really sorry for having to say it)
Do you have savings? A tourist tour to somewhere beautiful like Norway, Japan, Franc, etc... may help in soothing you.
It's either bussing yourself with work or taking a vacation to change mood.
Another possibility that crossed my mind, what if he isn't on a relationship or broke up a while ago but still lied to get you give up? Not maliciously thinking of your object of unrequited love, but when only your confusion and pain is in the post I think you better think how to get over it than go forward. Take a step back if you can even if it's difficult now, the more you go the easier it becomes.

The word love, taken too lightly, hurt others, taken too seriously, hurt oneself.

Take care╭(♡･ㅂ･) و ̑̑

[katestar]

That's okay.

[Asker]

No unfortunately I can’t travel cuz of that. I am gonna start work in a couple nights and I’ll be full time. And I didn’t even know about that. He’s been telling me that he’s giving her until August to come out and see him on her own without him helping her because she’s used him for money, he owes his friends a lot of money and he’s started to be more strict with more boundaries

[Bubbles16]

I was actually in this situation a couple months ago I had a big crush on my friend Alex but at the time he was with someone else so I tried to get rid of the crush but last month he texted me and told me that he liked me like like liked me and i liked him that way too and now we're a couple

[Asker]

Oh wow. How did that happen? Good for you

[katestar]

Congratulations. Good for you. I could've done that. If my guy friend turned me down. You have to teach me how to do that

[Asker]

I need to learn that too. Can you please teach me too?

[katestar]

I agree with her. Will you teach me how to do that?

[Asker]

I just got done video chatting with him and he kept smiling and I was too, and I was playing with him or teasing him about it with my big smile. At first I said “you look relaxed and happy” he said “not really, I’m tired” and at first every time I saw him smiling I said “I see you smiling” he said “no I’m not” as he was smiling and I said “it’s ok, you don’t have to deny it” and I stopped messing with him about it and we were just talking. And he said he hasn’t talked to his girlfriend in a couple days because he’s pushing her away and he’s probably gonna ghost and disappear. And he’s moving out today and he told her don’t come out anymore because he can’t have anyone over where he’s moving to, so she’d be on the streets. But I’ve never seen him smile so much!!

[katestar]

Wow.

[katestar]

Aw. That's so cute and sweet. You have to teach me how to do that.

[katestar]

Please?

[Asker]

It really is! My heart’s melted and I can’t stop smiling ☺️ which part?

[katestar]

The part when you two were having a amazing time.

[Asker]

I used an affectionate but playful tone of voice and we were both smiling the whole time

[katestar]

Sweet. If you have any time. I'll tell you my story.

[Asker]

Yeah you can tell me

[katestar]

Okay. I was 14. a friend of his introduced me to him and he introduced him to me. His name is Brandon thane wilson. He was a sweet and funny and very thoughtful and very cute. He was 15. We have been friends since we were teenagers. He is a actor. We live in the same state. Virginia. Over the years. I started to have a crush on him.

[Asker]

Oh wow. And you told him you have a crush on him?

[katestar]

I did. In a letter

[Asker]

Did he turn you down?

[Asker]

What did he say?

[katestar]

I was 29. But yes. He did. He said that he can't date me and he can't marry me.

[Asker]

Why is that?

[katestar]

He doesn't feel the same way about me. And then. He moves to Los Angeles for his roles. It's been 4 years since we last spoke.

[katestar]

You didn't ask me how we met.

[Asker]

That sucks. How did his friend introduce you guys? Was it a mutual friend?

[katestar]

No. He is a good friend who knew everyone.

[katestar]

Girls. Don't develop your feelings for your guy friends. If you tell them that you have feelings. Don't make them change their minds about their feelings for you Girls.