I feel like a broken record. Lately I’m in a weird fog and been working a lot which I feel is part of the reason I’m on this weird mood. My ex and I have been broken up for quite sometime now. We both loved our lives and I feel like we both practically have new lives. I’ve been dating (haven’t found the one yet). She’s been dating a guy for 4 almost 5 years now. I’m very happy for her and by no means am I jealous, I’m happy she found a man that appreciates her so don’t take this as wrong but. Lately I’m feeling crushed like I lost my best friend like the break up occurred yesterday. I hate feeling as if we will grow old apart. Before we dated we did everything together. For 4 years I was fine, I accomplished so many goals I had in my life so why now am I missing her? Why am I feeling like I lost the one? We do the occasional check in and most everytime she brings some sort of memory up. We talked on Christmas and she seemed upset and doesn’t appear to love her career atm
Girls, How do I get rid of this feeling?
What Girls Said
Probably the best way to deal with it is to acknowledge it and process it. Talking to someone about it and feeling the pain unfortunately, is probably the best route to make it "go away".
You might be experiencing it now because you're not interacting with people as much. So loneliness might be getting to you, since you've been busy working. Failed dates might be a reminder of that each time...
Have you talked to her about missing your friendship? Is it possible to just be friends?
Grief doesn’t have a set amount of time that it takes to get over. You may think you’re over it and then it hits you out of the blue one day. Sounds like you need to cut off all contact with her and truly focus on your own life and move on. I understand that you have a good friendship with her now, but the longer you hold onto her being in your life, the more you delay your mental recovery of losing her. I’m sure that if you explained to her how you’re feeling and why you need to cut off ties, she’ll understand. Wish her well in life and move on.