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My best friend is male, we grew up together and we've been in each others lives literally since the day I was born. Any guy or girl that ever had a problem with it didn't last very long. He is like a brother to me and when he emigrated to Australia I was gutted and my fiance was there for me because he knew I missed him dearly.
Your boyfriend and his best friend have known each other for years, if anything was going to happen between them it would have by now. He wouldn't be so "available" to having a serious relationship with you. As for them spending time together, its probably how they've always been. They have possible always been the others constant in their life and been there for each other, just like any best friend would be, its just that they happen to be of the opposite sex. If you were off sick, would your boyfriend call round to cheer you up and check how you were doing?0
Maybe because of your jealousy towards her you don't let yourself b happy with them..u said you feel like a tag along..u shouldnt. I'm sure if you relaxed and joined the convos you wouldn't feel so left out0
nah that's normal.. actually I was the same with your boyfriend (almost) and I used to fight a lot with my exes because of my relationship with my female best friend. Tbh when you're so close with someone of the opposite gender, there's no way romantic feelings haven't popped out at least once in the past. I can assure you though that your boyfriend still loves you, which is why he's still with you.
Me and my best friend shared a lot of things but she's just that, a best friend. Despite our history or even past romantic feelings I'd never considered dating her because I see her more like a sister (that's even closer than my real brother) rather than a potential romantic partner. During the course of our relationship (12 years and counting) we both have dated numerous partners and still maintain our relationship as best friends. I don't know if it's the same with your boyfriend but I think it is.10
This is ridiculous. I have quite a few female friends, some I even consider sisters. But if I'm dating someone, I give them my complete and undivided attention. And I don't make plans while somehow trying to fit my friends in all of them. There's nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, but this guy is pushing it. He's hurting your feelings, and he doesn't take that into consideration. You're more important, period. I'd say pretty much have to dump him at this point.30
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Relaxxxxx they're just friends. Don't look like the jealous controlling girlfriend because he will leave you.10
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The fact that his friend is a female might be part of the problem, but to be honest, even when his best friend was a guy and he was there all the time, if I were around them and would feel left out and especially when we planing something for my birthday and he brings him along or wants to bring him along... I would be upset.
Because the way I think of a relationship is, that you are partners. There are things you only share with your partner and this has to be more than sex.
That doesn't mean that she shouldn't be as important as a sister to him. My little brother e.g. is damn important for me. I would call him my best (male) friend. But I wouldn't bring him along on dates... if my boyfriend would feel left out when we are all together I would try to change that.
You see when you're young your friends are the most important people, like your family. Boyfriend and Girlfriend are important too...but when you're young they come and go. When me and my best friend were younger we did so much together. So each other every week. Now we're older... have serious relationships. She's still as important as a sister to me. And she says that me and her partner as the most important people to her. But your relationship had to change. We couldn't spend so much time. We had to make time for our partners. Had to give our relationship time.
When you have a really close friendship its sometimes hard for your partner not to feel neglected. And when you grow up I think you have to learn to balance the affection for such a friend and a partner.
Tell him how would he feel, if you would only talk about your feelings and when you're upset with your friend. What he would think of it, when you have a dinner date and you bring a friend and your attention is all on your friend. What would he think, when someone is openly more important to you?
He doesn't necessarily has to change his behavior towards her, but towards YOU.