I feel like my long distance relationship is failing because my boyfriend is ignoring me. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Okay so I have never met my boyfriend in person yet and we have been together for 7 months, we were friends before getting together. We used to talk much more when the relationship was new and we both had to study and other things to do in life, we both were busy and we still are. But in the beginning, we both made time for each other, no matter how tired we were, how late it was at night, we always talked almost all day. It’s been 7 months now and I have been noticing from the past few months, like 2 months that he stopped doing those little things for me, which made me overthink and I started having doubts. I asked him and i told him that i felt that way and instead of apologising or explaining, he started yelling at me and telling me that I have a problem, I am way too clingy and controlling over him, and other things. But I always respected the fact that he is busy, I always encouraged him to go out with his friends and I never told him not to do something. It’s his life and he is free to do whatever he wants but I feel like now I am the only one who cares and loves in this relationship. He asked me to prioritise him, we set some future goals together (marriage etc) but I feel like I am the only one who is taking everything seriously and he has been taking me for granted. He is free at the weekends and he always prioritised his family and friends, he stopped texting me even if he is free, we don’t talk that much anymore. And he told me that we have to pay attention to our personal lives too. That hurt me. We will meet in 2 months and I used to bee so excited about it, but now, because of the way he behaves, i don’t know if i should meet him. Am I the problem? Should i stop overthinking this much? Should i do something to save the relationship? I really love him and I don’t want to lose him. But i also want to be treated the way i treat him snd that is not up to me.

[DaisyAimi]

I’ve been a little in the same situation as you, so i’m quite curious what others will say. :) the only thing you can do and what I could do is communicate... asking him what he feels, why, what he wants to change, if he still loves you, what his view is on the future, if he still wants to meet up with you, etc.
If he doesn’t even want to talk about those things then i really don’t know... because it’s necessary to talk about those things, especially in a long distance relationship.

[Asker]

Oh okayy☺️ We still talk about these things but not like we used to. I am the one who says I love you first.

[DaisyAimi]

Ohh! The one that i have this “not sure what we have” going on XD he once told me that it bothered him that i never said “i love you” first and that i had to be more affectionate. I was a little shocked because i didn’t realize, but really love him. So after he told me that, i started to be more affectionate towards him and telling him i love you more often. Might be a big step to ask but it did help me when he told me what’s bothering him.

[Myeyesareupheresirr]

here's what I think you should do. You should have a full on conversation to him about what this relationship is. Tell him how you feel about him/what he’s doing, and ask him how feels about you. Establish a clear understanding of what your relationship is, and or how you want to fix the current relationship you have.

[Iron_Man]

My long distance relationship worked out well but most the time they fail because you have to put a lot of effort into it and communicate every day and do things Like watch movies together communicate sleep on the phone together send out packages

[es20490446e]

What I do is keeping texting mostly for arranging dates, and if I won't see my partner for a while I would call them.

Also I only date people I can see in person often.

[Avicenna]

The distance and the pressure it puts on people is your problem. Do you have any prospect of seeing each other?

[In_Trance]

Move on.

[Anonymous]

Have guy shared intimate pics or video called with each other

[Asker]

Yes, we used to video call more often but it’s been a while now. But we still share pics with each other every day.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he is getting it somewhere else