we broke up…for the second time. first time in may, he said he needed time to understand who he was and what he wanted and he was scared he wasn’t enough for me and the relationship, that he couldn’t give me what it required. then he texted me after a month, he said he suffers from depression because he has to move in two weeks to wales to study and probably stay there after too, or in Europe. we worked on our issues and everything went fine. two weeks ago he broke up with me again because he said the distance now was weighing on his mental health, he said we’re meant together and he still sees a future with me, he still loves me, he is just doing it because right now he has a lot going on and distance is heavy on him and he is scared again to not be able to give me what a relationship requires because his love is physical…. and he told me he talked about this to the therapist and she told him this is just anxiety because he has to move, just that. i don’t know what to do. i was hurt and i removed all the profile pictures with him and after i did, he did too + deleted the post he made with me and our bios together on instagram and twitter…i’m scared i gave him the impression i don’t want him anymore, i’m scared he won’t come back, i’m scared of everything…i miss him terribly and i don’t know what to do…the love isn’t disappeared, it’s still there, he is just so caught up in his anxiety…and i know it’s hard…this kind of love can’t disappear after a year because of distance, it would have happened at the beginning, not now…he was scared about it before getting together but he got over it and we had a beautiful year so it can’t be that again, just the situation he is in…but i really don’t know what to do. We love each other so much and even his therapist knows so, but his mental issues are winning. He is from the USA and i’m from Italy. (please don’t tell me your opinion on long distance relationships). How do i fix it? Not giving up, i want to fight for us…
What do you mean "don't tell me your opinion on long distance relationships" and then ask about exactly that. That is the whole point here. It is about the difficulty that LDRs present and we cannot give an opinion?
Your entire detail section is about the struggles of LDRs. So, I am going to address that because there is no magic cure to fix this. No one on this site understands the relationship like you do. We can't just say "do this" and magically fix things for you.
The first thing is that I think you both acted immaturely and somewhat prematurely removing each other from your social media. That likely gave him the impression that things were done for good.
The best thing you can do is reach out to him and discuss what, if anything, you both can do to move forward. If you cannot come to a conclusion or compromise, then it is over. There is nothing left you can do.
The lack of in person connection is what is going to make things hard no matter what. Realistically, how long can you go without being with each other? What are the odds that you will actually be together permanently at some point? Something to think about.
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I don't know girl... do you two have definite plans to move closer together in a few years or whenever that is? the reason why these type of relationships don't work is because the whole point of a relationship is being close together, experiencing things together, feelings together, and all you guys have is text/phone. so it's very hard and understandable when things don't work out
i'd also like to point out the fact that he broke up with you twice and he has depression. he's not ready for a relationship and it's not fair to you. i know you want to fix it, but it doesn't seem like he does because he broke up with you a few times. i'd say let it go until he can get himself figured out because he's the one holding you back
You're probably much attention from him, and he's in an LDR. LDR sucks, but they can work. He can't touch you or sees you, which is hard enough. Don't be too demanding.
You are brave. Outside of whatever else... you are brave !!
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It’s not going to work out.
He’s too uncertain about his life to be part of a stable relationship right now.Just throw the whole relationship away. You're wasting your time and he's full of crap. Full of excuses and you bought that.
Move on and block himTime to move on.
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