I’m so jealous of my long distance boyfriend’s female friends?

[Anonymous]

My long distance boyfriend has some close female friends. I get so jealous. Sometimes they share things with him on Facebook that they’ve obviously been talking to him about in real life and they’re obviously having so much fun togethor. My boyfriend has spoken about the one he is closest before saying how amazing she is. When I went to visit him he would be on his phone and messaging his closest female friend and listening to voice messages from her. Even though I was only there for a week he went to meet up with them all one time instead of taking me out, saying that they really pressured him to come. I know that this shouldn’t bother me but it really does. I must be insecure. It’s obvious that my boyfriend is spending a fair amount of time with these girls (and guys) having a lot of fun. When he talks about these girls I bite my tongue and don’t say anything bad. But it’s getting to the point where as much as I love him, I can’t stand it so much that I think breaking up with him is an option. What is the best thing to do?

[Tomsta]

Have you told him that you're jealous?

You may find his is oblivious to this and you telling him might make him change, or he might even put your mind at ease. My girlfriend and i are both dancers however she admitted to me that when she sees the kind of girls i dance with she can get a bit jealous cos they are all thin and tall. I re-affirmed to her that they are just dances and mean nothing in that aspect

What i'm trying to get at is maybe all you need to hear him say is that those people are just friends and nothing will ever come between you two

[dcinhdguy]

Oooh god. That doesn't sound good. If he loves you, he'd put you first. My girlfriend has 10 guy friends, and she always puts me first. How does he treat you? The fact he's not giving you that much attention is a really bad sign. Did you want to dm? I've had the same boat

[sejla]

You need to tell him how you feel. Some men are unaware that a friendship can lead to other things pretty rapidly and that it takes some work to keep monogamous. It's like when men help out women in their time of need and then an affair happens.

I think that he probably should have allotted more time for the two of you being together if you made the trip to see him. The relationship might have played itself out but only time will tell. At what point will you guys get back together again where you are living in the same place.

[Countrywildmangirl]

Yes because he doesn't give a shit about u and how u felt.

[Anonymous]

Well you already know the problem is you. So you should work on it. Either breakup or stay in relationship. But work on it. If you decide to break up, my suggestion is not to get involved in another until you can work on this issue. It's not faiir to make someone else's and the people in their lives's toxic because of your own insecurities.