I feel left out by my long distance boyfriend, advice?

[Anonymous]

My long distance boyfriend often has bonfires with all of his friends and always tells me how he's so exicted and pumped. He always says oh I wish you were here or it would be better if you were here.

but it doesn't help me feel less left out or less sad that I'm not there.

Has anyone else got this way before with a long distance boyfriend or girlfriend ? :( how do I get over it and try not to make myself so left out about it. I have no time to ever see my friends cause I'm always caught up with homework and I work 70 to 80 hours every 2 weeks to even try and make time for a normal life..

[SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ]

I had a long distance boyfriend. I broke up with him though because I couldn't see how it would work for us. I felt it was better to let him go. Why? I thought what's the point having a relationship if you can't see them? Yes we need our days and occasionally weeks of space but for a relationship to really grow and develop time should be spent with them. I really liked that guy but I felt better not having to worry so much about how to improve our relationship and feeling left out. I did trust him and he was the loyal type but I started to question how long this long distance thing would last before we both got sick of it.

I wanted myself to be happy but I also wanted him to be just as equally happy. So I thought it best for us to break up so that we cna be happy with someone we can see.

I think if you feel left out and unhappy, you need to let him go.

There's millions of other guys out there. I also just think a long distance relationship keeps you tied down to a person you can't even see. It's so depressing, lol. You want to share the love.

You can try and reason things with him if you wanted...and keep trying and keep doing the things you both do and keep feeling left out and keep feeling unhappy.

But isn't it better to just move on?

[SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ]

But it also depends on other factors like

how long have you been together for? weeks/months/years?

how well do you personally know him?

what is the length of your distance? towns/cities/countries away from?

I need more information so that I can base my opinion on your information and relate. Your answers to these factors could totally be different to that of what I experienced. :)

[Anonymous]

how long have you two been together?

My boyfriend and I have recently become long disance due to his job, but we are in our 20s. I agree, it REALLY sucks hearing about all of the "fun" things he is doing without u. You probably don't want him to NOT be having fun, but you resent that he is having so much fun without u? at least that's how I felt lol.. I think the only thing that made me feel better is to start having things going on in my life. I know everyone gives this advice but honestly hanging out with my friends was the only remedy. Once I felt like I could have just as much fun without him as he was without me then I didn't feel so sad. I also think I might have not just been feeling left out, but also sort of pathetic. I was like you (busy with work and such, not too much time to "go out") and I sort of felt lame that I would spend most of my time working or doing things alone while he was going out with friends all of the time. It's sort of depressing. so yeah, that's why I think going out with your friends (even if it's only once or twice a week if you can make time) will make you feel SO much better!

[Opinion Owner]

also, I'd ignore what the girl below me said...breaking up is not the solution to the problem (that is, if you truly care about him). Anyone can make a long distance relationship work, but it is WORK, unfortunately. I would agree to break up only if you really think you can't handle being away from him for a long time. if you can fix that though then there's no reason to end the relationship

[SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ]

Yeah, I see your point of view. But it says the girl who asked the question is "(Under 18)". I was just expressing my opinion for a girl "Under 18." I'm 18 and I had that long distance experience when I was 16. Yes I guess it could work... but it also depends on many other factors.