What should I do when my boyfriend is moody in a long distance relationship?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend are long distance for almost 2 years. We have never meet in person but we plan to meet as soon as we can. However he is the type of guy who is calm most of the time but sometimes he becomes really moody, like he explodes coz he keeps in himself and become insecure and then he thinks I will cheat on him and bad things like this, but I spend almost all day with him and do so many things for him, its not like he even has a reason to think that! We also call each other everyday.

However, when he is moody he tells me things like why I dont try to find a guy near me and that he can't make me happy, maybe we can't meet, maybe I won't like him in reality etc and he really say things that make me so sad and even make me cry but then he apologizes when he is calm.

And Im afraid he will try to breakup with me when he has this mood. He has this mood once every few months and sometimes he makes me angry too with his words so we end up in a fight. I always think "last time we passed it, but what if this time he will really end up everything?" I know he loves me and he is so sweet and he's always talking about our future, so how should I act when he is moody and almost want to break up? :(

[Criptic]

Long distance relationships are hard and even harder if you don't meet. These moods are normal and unfortunately so are these arguments. In the end you will only manage to stay together if you're both 100% committed. You can try ease his feelings by sending him all sorts of pictures and when he is in this mood reassure him that you only want him and that you don't want anyone else. Good luck. I am in a long distance too but your two years without meeting is scary as shit.

[Asker]

I reassure him all the time but I think it is in his unconscious mind coz he said he dreamed last night that I cheated on him and he only found it after we meet and then I accused him of cheating as well and his ex girlfriend cheated and lied on him so im the first girl who is sincere and understand him , thats what he said. And we are still young, dont work yet so we can't visit each other too soon I guess. Thanks for your suggestion and good luck too!

[Criptic]

It's the problems everyone has. I hope you get to meet soon it will make some of them go away. What countries do you guys live in?

[Asker]

I live in Romania and he lives in Thailand.. quite far and there is the visa problem too, but as soon as we'll start working we'll find a way to meet. by the way now everything is good between us, like I said he only has this mood once in a while, but I get scared everytime of some bad ending..

[Criptic]

Keep an eye on each other and when any of you go into these kind of moods to help each other out of them. You also have to trust each other. Sper să vă întâlniți curând, bafta ;)

[Amyloves23]

long-distance relationships are already hard like without the jealousy issues like your boyfriend. to be honest he sounds pretty unstable though

[Anonymous]

This sound exactly like what happens to me. I could explain the other side of it if you wanted to talk.

[Opinion Owner]

I got on here to ask everyone a question that was about her and I have as you say a mood. Long distance relationship is extremely hard. We have met two times and the time was great however the trust is so hard for me. Maybe for me it is texting where things get miss read and not enough calls anymore. There is a whole story that could be told here on the does and don't that we have experienced but for the biggest things it has been communication. She and I can't seem to get that right so trust fails and that leads me to grrrr. So my best advice is build the best communication you can and be open with your feelings and don't play the guessing game on what is going on. Just ask straight out. I wish you the best and I hope we both can figure our partners out.

[Asker]

I know ldr is really hard but me and him are happy most of the time and everytime we see each other on call time even if we have fight we still smile and everything seems well, but as soon as we text again he continue his bad mood behaviour and often he needs around 3 days to get back to normal feel. He say he doesn't trust anyone coz his family taught him like this but when he is calm he trust me. He also had bad experience with ex gfs and he said im the first girl that came so deep in his heart. I guess all I can do is reassure him as much as I can and spend much time with him. But he also worry too much that he bother me and is afraid to message me if i say i have something to do etc He thinks way too much..

[Opinion Owner]

odd how everything sounds about the same. She and I had a video call today and it went ok for a few minutes then something happened and I can't understand why she did what she did so I got aggrivate and now we are not talking. So maybe we can help each other to understand our partners.