Hey, so my boyfriend (21) and I (18) have been dating for close to a year, most of it being long distance, we are both from the coast. We have not seen each in person for months due to the fact he is deployed overseas in the military rn.
I know he is very busy with working, having his own personal time, friends, etc. It feels like we go through periods where we are close and then we drift. It makes me so sad when we go through periods where he doesn’t text me as much or says much to me. I am not the type to nag about him not responding or asking why, but i recently brought it up that i felt like he was distant at points and asked if i was doing anything wrong- he said everything was fine.
I guess he isn’t the most active texter- he can be dry at times and i’m very much a words of affirmation type of girl. The thing is, when we first started dating he used to call all the time and we would text consistently. But after a month or two after he left for deployment he stopped calling altogether- I haven’t said anything since it’s kind of on his time when he can call due to his workload/time difference. There are days where I will be left on delivered for hours but he will be active on social media, and I don’t know- i get into my head and feel like he doesn’t think about me or that im not as important to him as he is to me.
It’s like he will be active on snap and snap others in those 8 hours but won’t even open mine and send a quick pic back. I feel like I am losing my mind over it, like I get so “upset” about it-it just ruins my mood. I guess I’m still trying to settle into him being gone and busy- that things are going to be different especially since he’s busy with deployment and I know that takes a lot out of a person. I always try to ask him how his day is going, send him memes, and tell him that i love and care for him.
Is there anyway I can get out of my head with this whole thing? We only have a few months until he gets home so I don’t know if the anxiety.
