How do I become happy staying single?

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I've been alone for quite sometime, freakin friends would leave and never talk to me due to love. Never had I thought such things would happen to me. Yet everyday I'm reminded by tiktok, waking up, and by my friends ( when I see them) I'm single.

N192K001 · Accepted Answer

① Find new and/or better friends. Sometimes, it's beneficial to discover different languages' words for things, since they reveal other ways differing cultures see the things. Let's look at how a 「friend」is seen in other cultures.  • In my Tagalog, that's  ᜃᜁᜊᜒᜄᜈ᜔  (" kaibigan "; "kah-ih-BEE-gan") with  ᜁᜊᜒᜄ᜔  (" ibig "; "EE-big"; 「love」) as the root-word. The initial  ᜃ  ("ka-") is added to things people share in common. For example, there's  ᜃ klase (" kaklase "; "kah-KLAS-seh";「classmate」; from Spanish  clase  「class」),  ᜃ trabaho (" katrabaho "; "kah-trah-BAH-hoh"; 「co-worker」; from Spanish  trabajo  「work」),  ᜃᜊᜌᜈ᜔  (" kabayan "; "kah-BAH-yan"; 「compatriot/fellow-countryman」; from Tagalog  ᜊᜌᜈ᜔  " bayan " "BAH-yan" 「nation」), etc. • In Hebrew, there are 2 words: The 1st is ידיד (" yadid "; "yah-DEED"), which is literally the word יד (" yad "; 「hand」) 2x, like being hand-in-hand helping each other. The other is חבר (" khaveir "; "khah-VEIR" with the last syllable almost rhyming with English "air"), whose root-word is חבה (「love」if read " khibah " "khee-BAH"; but 「obligation」if " khovah " "khohVAH"). Notice that  both Filipino & Jewish cultures noticed that what keeps friends together, what binds friends together, and what friends have in common with each other is love . (Unless your current friends are quarantining to save you from disease or keeping away from you to keep you from also being targeted by someone trying to harm them,  what love is being thrown at you by their decision to cut you off? ) The  Jews noticed that love & obligation are intertwined . ( What obligations do they have toward you & you to them , like being there and helping each other out?  If they do have obligations to you, how well are they fulfilling them  while abandoning you?)  How do their friendships with you fare under these cultures' observations? Perhaps, it is time to find better friends? ② CHANGE YOUR MINDSET: Stop framing it as a problem, re-define it as an asset, and harness it to the fullest. You can't always control what is thrown at you, but what you can control is what you make of it, what you get out of it, and what you become because of it.  Make the best of whatever your circumstances are, so that you always win no matter what. Failure to do so is simply shooting yourself on your own foot. (Wouldn't it be best if, even in defeat, you can still always win?) You have free time. You can  focus on self-improvement : in replacing something you hate about yourself with something better, 1 at a time; in developing new skills you can be proud of ; in putting together the ingredients for your next victory.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

--------Everyone should be happily single but flexible for the right person to come into their life. Find your purpose and passion in life and allow someone in when the time is right to compliment it.

~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I find for me, healing emotional vulnerabilities and fears help me cope with the fear of being alone. I had it for over 2 thirds of my years on earth but God helped me to deal with it.

CanadianGirlx23 · Accepted Answer

You occupy yourself doing things you love and being around close friends.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

I think it's best to focus on other things, like spending time with family, hobbies, work, etc. There is definitely more to life than dating. Even working on yourself is great, as it improves your chances for dating if that is what you want.

MaelE · Answer

Do things you could not do if you were in a relationship !
Go outside, run if you like it, walk if you don't.
If you have time and like dogs, search for people who need help to walk them outside.
Try new things. If you like to learn, try piano, guitar, violin, ukulele I don't know
Or write, draw, sing, who knows, you could find a new talent !
If you can, go on trips just by looking at GoogleMaps. It's funny, but take care for your battery, it's running down pretty fast...
And of course, if you like to, meet new people.
Stay safe !

ZackBan · Answer

I don't mean to patronize you but a 27 year old using tiktok is kinda weird, I'm like 4 years younger than you and tiktok is something I can't stomach.
Second why are you giving up? You do realize that being single is amazing it means you are staring at the menu again which is far more enjoyable than paying the bill after your meal.
You can pick up girls, get a new girlfriend or even a hookup if you're not looking for a girlfriend why are you so down? Life is not over

VanillaSalt · Answer

Find an anchor. For me it’s my brother and his wife’s family and my niece. I visit every 2 weeks meanwhile I work the rest of the time. Build yourself and focus on what you want because no woman wants a man that don’t desire anything… if you need women to feel like a man your not a man.

Likes2drive · Answer

Is it by choice? Just remember that you can do things when ever you want , go wherever you want, leave when you want and eat whatever you want when single and can always look at whoever you want until you finally find someone, then all that changes

pleasestopthis · Answer

If your friends never have time for you then they're not real friends. Being single has its perks, maybe you need to suffer a lot in a relationship to be able to appreciate them.

Avicenna · Answer

Do other things to get your mind off of it. Or keep trying to meet someone.

SynthKobra · Answer

Being single forces one to not rely on another’s validation and affection. It’s very unpleasant. But necessary. I’m dealing with it myself. I think going out and meeting new people is the move

The_Outlaw · Answer

Personally for me, there's less drama and no BS. That's what keeps me happy.

Nik_92 · Answer

In one line Do not expect anything from any one in positive way

Iron_Man · Answer

Watch a lotta football games at the bars and don’t let someone tell you when to come home early

Hadesheim · Answer

Look at the beauty of the world, try to read maybe even create something. All in all I don't think people are made to be alone but who knows maybe if you are patient you may meet a nice person.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Men who can't stay single seriously need to find a hobby.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

You don't owe women anything nor do they owe you. You can live without them.

Slim57 · Answer

Get into a bad relationship or hookup with someone crazy

Hxxmx · Answer

Love yourself

Supernormal · Answer

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