Has a death in your family ever made you start living a certain way?

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I have experienced way too many deaths this year and they can wear you out. Has death changed you and the way you live the rest of your life? Relationships with loved ones are important. Once they are gone they are gone.

SaoirseS · Accepted Answer

I'm in the funeral home business, so I may not be the best person to comment on this one. But I lost three elderly family members in four months last year, and I'm not immune to how losing loved ones impacts people. We all handle it differently. Death of loved ones reminds people that nobody gets off the planet alive; we all come with an expiration date, we just don't know when or how. Coming to grips with someone's end of life often prompts members of families to have the end of life discussions that they avoid until they feel they need to have them. But for me, it reminds me that time we have with people we love is precious, and not to put off visiting those people who matter to us. Don't come up with reasons like being "too busy" to visit friends and relatives. Don't put off taking that trip with them that you talked about for years. Time is a precious commodity that we can't get back.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I try to operate in a way that God will be happy with so that I can rely on God for help when I'm not able to help myself. I also take supplements such as walnuts to lower my risk of Alzheimers and I plan for my retirement every day by eating foods or consuming supplements that will help me age gracefully. I also do meditations and try to perfect flaws in my character as a daily thing.

pjf1958 · Accepted Answer

You mean cynical, regretful, be introspective a lot. Absolutely. Unless you are a perfect human being, and if you have lived a Charmed Life, then you're like the rest of us and have suffered a tragedy and live with lots of regrets. I know this may sound shallow, but there's nothing we can do about the past all we can do is make sure the future doesn't have the same mistakes.

Maniwishiwashome · Accepted Answer

My dad died on 12/16/20 his birthday was on the 7/4, it was a dark time I my life, I decided one day that I was going to change my life. I stopped vaping and smoking weed. Today I feel like a changed man and very happy at that. The future has never looked so bright. It’s like the rising Phoenix. Death is a very powerful thing.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

The sudden and unexpected death of a very close loved one when I was only 17 really changed me, and also put me in a pretty deep depression for awhile. It's like I became a completely different person after that, and grief did some odd things to me, like cause me to lose interest in a lot of things I previously enjoyed. I also strangely suddenly grew up a lot during that time, though. I have no idea how I kept it together as much as I did, to be honest. There were a lot of bad things happening in my life outside of that at the time, and I remember just trying to push through the last couple of months of school the best I could. I remember feeling really emotionally numb for awhile, and felt as if it was not real for the longest time.

I currently have a terminally ill family member as well, and have learned to never take anyone for granted and to appreciate every moment you have with them, as you never know when it may be your last.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

I think I closed myself off for awhile...

Aquariusmystery · Answer

My grandad died in 2019, he was the first loss I ever experienced close to me. It ruined me. I was on a really dark path. But I think it matured me too. And brought me closer to God (but I know people don’t care about religion here lol). I don’t know, it changed me a lot. I don’t know if it was good or bad, though.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

When my husband passed away I start to see things differently, be more intuitive, there are times I catch myself wanting to say something & realize he's not there.

DarkCarousel · Answer

Yes. Not just in my family but close enough to consider family. Totally shut down for a while. Just went through the motions while life continued around me, sounding like background noise on a television.

Midnight_Kiss · Answer

My Grandad's death when I was ten was my first loss and it changed the way I saw everyone, I realised he was the only decent member of that side of the family and the one person who always had my back even before I was born he tried to protect me from the inevitable, unfortunately my mother ignored his warnings and his hands became tied until the day he died.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

It made me realize how bad my mental health may deteriorate as i age & now im planning on how I'm going to kill myself if it gets as bad as my grandma got before her passing.

exitseven · Answer

When my father died I was in the middle of going back to college to gain a degree in Computer science and I planned on starting a second career. I channeled him throughout the process. I had a few setbacks and it was very difficult at times but I just thought about how he would be telling me not to be a wussy and just get it done.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Honestly, no, not yet. I lost a couple of members, but I wasn't really close with them to be really impacted. I remember being at two of the funerals and not crying. Sure, I was sad, but I wasn't crying like a babbling brook.

I feel when I lose one that I had more interaction and time with like my grandparents or my parents it will hit hard, but I haven't had to go through that yet

Finchie40 · Answer

It definitely can be a shock to our lives and make us think differently about the way we were living previously, I lost my 1 brother not to long ago and it kind of gave me a wake up call to enjoy life as much as possible Cuz at anytime it can be over for me

bobalife · Answer

Grandparents passed away when I was really young, it saddens me and I felt a sense of disconnection about it with families.

Recently a family member attempted suicide and close to death; it definitely devastates me and makes me wanna build my kinship stronger than ever… it just brings awareness of how you never know what someone may be thinking, going through, and what will happen tomorrow.. cherish those in your lives and make it known you care for them.

DaveToo · Answer

When my dad, my granddad, and my President all died within a month of each other, I was just 18. My life changed from the wild child me to Mr. Responsibility.

BigRube23 · Answer

Yup was devastated after I lost my son 6 year old to ewing sarcoma cancer in 2018 I was very selfish person not giving not helping and now I'm quite opposite it's a little difficult to handle I get used a lot but I know it it's a matter of if I'm willing to accept it or not but I do my best to be good to people

Justneedtokno · Answer

Yes it is I ended up getting life insurance on me my father I was scared not to be prepared. I also more cautious with the way I do things and react and be around people. I’m part of me can’t just go and do whatever I have to have a back up plan

HairyPoppins · Answer

Well life is short and death let's us know each time it happens.

Still-alive · Answer

well death in general i used to be scared of. and i totally miss all my grandparents who've all passed away. but i wouldn't say their deaths changed me to live differently

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I was suicidal when my grandmother passed away. My mom is a narcissist who abused me mentally, psychologically and didn't gave a fuck about my feelings.
I was extremely depressed and as a result I ended up going to medical school. I purposely wanted to punish myself and I wanted to disappear from this world mentally by getting LOST IN BOOKS FOREVER. Later I opened my eyes and quit my major like hell. I'm mentally stable now and doing well with my life.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. Never experienced death in my family except my grandfather. I'm always around my family though, besides the fact I don't bother with death, once a person is gone they ate gone, but I think the death my mom and grandma will definitely impact me for the rest of my life though.

Wiredone · Answer

I've also lost a lot of family in my lifetime. After my first son was killed I became less trusting of doctors and bitter towards them.
Other family members said my attitude has changed also. They say I'm not the fun person I used to be.

DJB72 · Answer

Every death I've had to deal with has challenged how I live.

I've lost family members to traffic accident, house fire, cancer, heart failure. Every time someone I care about dies it impacts how I live.

diphylleiaa · Answer

My uncle's death, in my birthday.
Somehow, I believe that his soul lives inside me. He died because of cancer. He was a big smoker, most of times angry, and weird.
I loved him so much.
After his death, my life really changed. Since he's the first one he dies in my close fam, I was sad.. so sad.
And now, I, too, smoke, get angry most of times, and weird.
And I can't know if I'll die too by cancer, in a birthday of an other person.

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Yes. Now it's like I don't give a Fcuk about anything.

Pogi-Paddy-2 · Answer

Nope, death is a natural occurrence of life and there is no reason for me to change the way I live when someone passes.

taboomaster · Answer

Kinda, dad died when I was 11. And then mom was allowed to open up her sexualality. Dad wasn't into what she like. And that affected me and sis.

Slim57 · Answer

Probably, I've experienced them at an early age up til late 20s and I'd say it definently takes effect on you

hela_cute · Answer

Not really, just for a short period when my grandpa died I used to love him a lot, he lived with us...  I thought I'd never move on n I'll be sad forever but it didn't last so long

elizamichale1 · Answer

Oh yes... particularly one almost made me lose mind n everyone thought i would never be a normal girl again

invalid1 · Answer

Not at all. Pretty much I envy them. I don't feel so much that I'll miss them. Because my feelings are always true with everyone.

Lildiq · Answer

i dont care about death, its jus a part of life, if someone i know dies it doesn't bother me... its jus a transition to the other side, something we'll all face, dunno why people make such a big deal out of it

Miah02 · Answer

Luckily i haven't experienced a death that closely impacted my life

JesseJayNeak · Answer

I "turned myself off" for a while and became disconnected from people

pleasestopthis · Answer

In a certain way, yes. I now appreciate more the moments I have with my loved ones. I have been a homebody but now more than ever.

oncpl · Answer

No. I follow my path because death is a reality of life. I can't change my mind every time someone very close dies.

MrJMM · Answer

My family sure but for me nope. Because I was born after the deaths of people so... I avoided the whole drama by not existing.

AnggieGirl · Answer

Yes the loss of my newborn

Agape93 · Answer

Actual family? Nope.

princeofromance · Answer

No, Not necessarily.

Rebecka33 · Answer

Yes.

Has a death in your family ever made you start living a certain way?

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Did you ever not look forward to death and then sort of did when someone you feel you don't want to live without died?

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Did you ever not look forward to death and then sort of did when someone you feel you don't want to live without died?

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