When the relationship is breaking up, what are the signs and symptoms?

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Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Your partner becomes despondent/indifferent towards you. Basically they shut down because they don't see the point in trying anymore, or they've already lost interest in you and the relationship.
They pick a fight over every little thing. Why? To trigger you enough to make breaking up seem justified. Or on the flip side...
They stop arguing or you don't fight as much. Now some people might think, "Okay s/he is being reasonable." No, they just don't care anymore, or don't see the point in fighting for you
They spend less time with you (without a good reason)
They talk to you less, or don't reach out as much. Especially in the age of "virtual dating," you can tell when someone's no longer interested in you: they go from messaging and talking to you daily, to less and less over time. Or just ghosting you all together as a "nice" means of breaking up.
Something feels off (intuition). If something feels off about the relationship, something is wrong!!! Your gut will usually warn you when things are going bad. You just have to listen and not ignore your intuition... which let's be real, most of us do because we don't want to assume the worse.

There's way more signs, but most of which are common sense.
The important thing is to realize when your partner is treating your differently: from body language, to how they talk and behave towards you.
And as I said before- use your intuition! Don't wait until you get a message from them saying it's over and act like you didn't see it coming!!! NO. Usually there are red flags or signs they're unhappy in advance. Is it always your fault that the relationship ends? Absolutely not. Just learn to read your partners before it gets to that point.

designer1 · Accepted Answer

When one of you find the other exhausting and doesn’t want to spend time with you hardly as much.
When every little thing they do becomes so annoying.

When you stop talking about exciting or problematic parts of your day together.

When they start getting closer to/ hanging out more with their friends (gearing up for the breakup).
When their friends are being distant or weird.

When they stop posting pictures of you on their social or talking about you in general on their social media (only if they were frequently doing so before).

When they stop taking you around the family.

When they start acting distant or dismissive around you (creating distance to make the breakup easier).

If it’s a bad breakup, you feel tension between you and their family.

If they’re texting or talking to other people without telling you about them or setting up dating website accounts

You have to think hard trying to remember when the last time you got intimate was.

They avoid saying “I love you” at the end of calls or in texts

Not all of these are always true but if a lot of these are true, you might want to start preparing for a breakup.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

-------Breaking up is done in the mind way before it happens in real time. Instead of thinking how can we fix this you think how can I get out of this. You will feel all sorts of ways. I would write them down on paper and you will probably find a few of these.

Your needs aren't being met. ...
You're seeking those needs from others. ...
You're scared to ask for more from your partner. ...
Your friends and family don't support your relationship. ...
You feel obligated to stay with your partner.

~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

CallmeTheKnight · Accepted Answer

Less talking, more ignoring, frequent arguments, disregard for another, lying, cheating, being strongly selfish, blocking each other, etc. Symptoms can be treated, signs can only be noticed.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Avoidance, lack of initiation, a partner continually criticizing you for being 'needy, controlling, or clingy' over normal things.

If the feelings are mutual, you aren't going to roll your eyes when they text you you mid day.

you aren't going to need 'space' after working 12 hour days. You want to Come home after a rough day instead of filling up your evenings with literally ANYTHING ELSE, be it friends, the bar, your family, a pet, shopping.

sex usually drops off too and the number of meals you eat together goes down. People are good at finding reasons to be apart if they tell themselves they have nothing worth coming back to.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Try reading this

DaMack999 · Answer

Signs are you're giving him too much attention, too needy, too available and yes not good sex. If a man need not your attention. There is another woman. Sorry to bust the bubble but it's reality. You gotta learn and see what you done wrong.

tupacs_only_wife · Answer

Your partner may ignore you a lot, always giving you the cold shoulder

Hanrej · Answer

Communication stops. Your partner seems more distant and doesn't involved you in any plans, neither short or longterm.

Iron_Man · Answer

The texting and the phone calls have dwindled down the other person is always busy something has come up the hand writing is on the wall

Anonymous · Answer

They become more distant, put in less effort and they're more interested in other things than spending time with you. But its best to just communicate and see where they're at and if they wanna break things off.

blondfrog · Answer

I read and heard lack of communication and like they just stop talking to each other even if they live with each other.

DiegoO · Answer

Poor communication+constant discussions+sexless relationship+lack of trust+unreasonable jealousy=imminent breakup.

thathonestman · Answer

Posting on this website asking people about what the signs and symptoms are.

Anonymous · Answer

lack of trust afraid to get hurt again by their constant cheating tired of their endless drama and endless dramatic bullshit tired of their liberal crap and man hating crap

abhi75757 · Answer

Avoiding each other and hiding something which she or he dont want to tell you

SuhRaw · Answer

Coming home late. Uninterested in sex.

krin_m · Answer

Constant fights, lack of intimacy.

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

They really just don't ever want to be around you

JuliCadavid · Answer

as a girl, you have a hunch... you just know

Notfabricated · Answer

Lack of interest

CantGetItUp · Answer

Hate and depressing

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Being cold..

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