My child's father new girlfriend keeps made dogging me during pick up and drop off?

[Anonymous]

My baby daddies keeps flaunting his new girlfriend in my face during pick and drop off and she keeps mad dogging me. I'm over my baby daddy but it bothers me that I can not tell him anything about our child or speak to him at all because his new girlfriend is next to him mean mugging me. Even during our court visit she's outside the court room, and whenever I go to the bathroom she follows me and mean muggs me. She's even there during meditation telling him what to say.

I asked the court to not allow third parties (his new girlfriend) involved in our court hearings or drop off or pick up. Now people are saying I did it out of spite. But I didn't, I just felt uncomfortable. She's not his wife just someone he met on Tinder. She is only 20 years old and he is 40 years old so during meditation she told him to agree to 4 days a month because she doesn't have kids and doesn't want to be bothered with mines. Plus, she never even had the audacity to introduce herself to me. I liked her name through my daughter.

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There was a few typos in this post due to auto correct but you all get the point

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This is the same person, I made a new post because this one had grammar errors. Please do not go attacking for making two posts.

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[Anonymous]

I take it that since you call him your baby's daddy that you were never his wife either. So, using the argument that she is only his girlfriend and your only real claim to him is that you made a baby with him. I'm just wondering why she appears to be so overprotective around him when with you.

You certainly appear very anxious to get him alone with you and to discuss what with him that you don't want her to hear. I take it that you have never really let him go and are hoping to start things back up with him? I can guaranty that is exactly what she is thinking and there is no way in hell that she is just going to let that happen.

So, yep, she will be dogging you everytime you want some alone time with him... and when does that occur? When he drops off or pick ups your child. That would be the time that both of you would have that moment in time that you both share with each other and he not with her.

Would you really act so differently if you wanted to ensure that you kept your boyfriend... one that you really love and want? No, you would make sure to keep him yours.

[Asker]

A man is going to be with who ever he wants to be with. Me discuss my child needs and issues with him alone is not going to take her place. If it does then he never wanted to be with her. Pick up and drop off is already hard enough then having some stranger mean mug you. Please telling my bd to be around his kids less because she doesn't have any affects the kids not me. I have a boyfriend and I'm not shoving it down there throats because what I have is real and I don't need to prove to them that I am happy and kiss all over him in front of them. It's unnecessary. Court matter should be between the parents only, I do not want my bd back he is unemployed and living off his girlfriend.

[Asker]

If she thinks she can lose him to me then that's an insecurities on her part that she need to deal with.

[Asker]

It's part of dating someone with kids. You have to deal with him having to talk the parent evey now and then and share the kids birthday. If she gets jealous because that then that's a personal problem.

[Opinion Owner]

I like your attitude... It is healthy! Good on you!

[Asker]

Thank you! Communication is part of effective co- parenting. I need to be able to tell the father I need help paying my kids dentist bill, or that she has anxiety, etc. If I can't tell him those things because some bitch is insecure then he going to accuse me of things in court because he is not aware that our kids has an anxiety.