Can a man who truly, deeply, loves a woman, cheat on her?

[Anonymous]

[JustAnj]

Have you ever heard the quote, Love just is not enough.

It stands true for all of us, we can have a commitment to love and believe it is love that kept us from cheating, what keeps us from cheating is ourselves and how we feel about our self worth as well as our partners.

This is why many times you hear about people who were so in love after years of marriage one partner cheats. Somewhere that partner lost their self respect and worth.

So even people in love can fall into the trap of doubt if they themselves are not prepared for when that love turns into a daily life of distractions from what once was a priority in their life and that was their partner.

You need to stay aware and remember that when you are with someone not cheating is not so you do not lose your partner but it is so you don't loose yourself and the life you built with your partner.

This is why I tell my husband that I don't cheat for the sake of you I don't cheat for the sake of me.

[wtf636]

Is it possible sure. I have only really been head over heals in love once in my life. Would I have cheated on this woman during that time? Fuck no

I didn't want to lose her, I would have done everything for that woman, which was probably the issue looking back, lol. We were also together for about a year, and I never had the interest fade with her. That was the only one for that to happen with. If we had been together longer, maybe I could have seen myself thinking about something like that. But I have also never cheated and plan to never cross that line.

With all that being said. If some smoking hot, absolute 10 had come up to me, and offered to fuck me and then leave the country, never to see me again, and I was a bit more morally corrupt. Yes, I could have absolutely done that, and still have been just as in love with her as I was before. But me personally would feel too guilty, but that also has never happened to me, so who knows.

I don't think that a man, in a healthy relationship (this is key), who is truly in love with a woman will go out looking to cheat. It would have to be a perfect storm of extremely rare circumstances for that too happen.

[kery123]

What was her personality like? What made you fall madly in love?

[wtf636]

@kery123 Hard to say really. Some people you just click with. She was just "my type" physically and mentally. I remember before the first date, I thought she was pretty, but I have dated hotter women. After our second date I knew I had to be with her. I dropped any other girl I was interested in or dating at the time. The way she looked at me, and talked to me. She had beautiful eyes and she knew how to use them. She was very feminine, and was always looking good when we went out. We both wanted a family with kids, etc. Just clicked at the beginning.

But that being said, this ended up being a pretty toxic relationship. This woman was very selfish, and manipulative. And it made me crazy, she would turn any criticism I had of her around on me. And expected me to be "a man" at all times. She broke up with me cause she wanted to still hang out with a guy she was friends with benefits with when we met, and I had a problem with it. Then kept me around for another 6 months, letting me think we would get back together, and being kind of a ho. I learned my lesson on that one.

[backblueblack22]

He can be tempted but he will always make the right decision out of RESPECT to his girlfriend/wife.

Respect is something women have a hard time distinguishing from attraction and/or love. I lost attraction to my last girlfriend and a girlfriend a few years before her. I was tempted to cheat on both of them but I didn’t. Reason for my abstinence is simply I respected both of them. I knew they don’t deserve that to be done to them. I didn’t mess around with anyone else until we were broken up.

But I swear when women fall out of love and/or lose attraction for their boyfriend/husband they lose respect for them too. As long as the guy didn’t do anything fundamentally wrong (cheating, physical abuse, stealing from her, etc) then that IS WRONG. Very wrong.

[Seinna]

No. And it's not even about attraction to another person.

If you love someone you will prioritise their feelings of hurt and grief over your short moment of pleasure. You will not cheat on them because you respect them if nothing else.

[ohshee]

This is a very good question just because there's five hundred different types of love no matter how deep your love is no matter how powerful The Love Is when a man is giving a choice depending on who he is in life sometimes he will choose the wrong choice we are all given a gift in life Call Choice we get to choose who you want to be by the things we say and do and with that choice comes to sides to everything the word choice is more powerful than the word love I am deeply sorry to say that yes no matter how deeply somebody love somebody they can cheat on them because it is a choice

[julesrod98]

Yes. Women can as well, although it is less likely. It's biological - men are driven to have sex. It's the great line from "When Harry Met Sally..." Men and women can never be friends because the man always wants to have sex. It's biological. Love is an emotion, which makes it fleeting. It comes and goes. Loyalty, trust, deep thoughtful commitment, that goes to honor and character, and those triats may defeat the temptation. If a man loves his woman, he will be emotionally faithhful. But temptation plus opportunity bats a very high percentage. Will he? Depends on character. Can he? Most for sure.

[SunnyFlorida]

Due to the risk of STD's and if the man gets another woman pregnant, you will not be able to build a long term future with this man. People make assumptions in relationships, such as monogamy. Communication of expectations in a relationship is key. Communicate that monogamy is a deal-breaker.

[Mofunfour20]

Depends on your definition of cheating. If he's sending her money and would die protecting her then yes, thats cheating and he probably doesn't love his wife/girlfriend anymore. If its just sex then he still loves her, men like a variety of beauty, I know I do

[Novacane]

Yes, a man is only as faithful as his options. Don't get me wrong there are plenty of men out there that would never cheat no matter what, same as there are women that would never cheat but men are more likely to. It has to do with men being able to separate emotion from sex. It's still wrong but that's the reason behind it.

[Browneye57]

No. What makes you think he deeply loved you in the first place? Cuz you had sex with him?
So, are you 18? Or 24? Your profile has a range. It does make a difference in cognizance and maturity.
And what exactly does 'cheating' mean to you? Are you two married? Or just a casual date? Why do you feel you are owed some kind of exclusivity in the first place?

Lots of unanswered questions here. Maybe this is an actual clue on why he stepped out in the first place.

[Asker]

I’m not talking about my boyfriend lmao. He told me that he’s hopelessly in love with me, and when it happens, it takes away any desire for him to be with other women.

[Browneye57]

So, tell us about your fixation with cheating. Are you 18? Or 24? It makes a difference.
Then tell us about your expectation of exclusivity. Are you going to marry this guy?
And he'll tell you ANYTHING to get in your panties. I guarantee it.
If your girlfriend seduces him he'll do her too.

[Sarahr123]

No because when we love someone we don’t do anything to hurt them plus he wouldn’t be able to stop thinking about her let alone let some hoe come between them

[ToastyOats]

Of course not silly! But ask yourself this.
Can a Pitt Bull swim into a lake to retrieve a duck?
No, it cannot. To have a monogamous relationship you have to have a man who is bred for it!
I would suggest an Irish man, extremely jealous but, Extremely loyal. Fight to death for you kind of man.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

I love this narrative that women project in that men cheat more than women. Women are like 8 times more likely to cheat on men than men are to cheat on women. This comes from an ease of access and availability of partners.

What's that old saying about master locksmiths and shitty locks? Oh yeah, its "when you raise women without moral foundations or discipline, you get a world full of whores."

[nyc1989]

I would want to say no but other things can take him to the fact that Can cause a man to cheat and not only in the physical form. I was madly in love with a girl we clicked we were perfect for each other but Unfortunately didn’t workUnfortunately didn’t work

[IveGotNoName]

You can truly love someone even in a dysfunctional relationship... People who truly love their partner can cheat in a storm of negative emotions only to realize the hugely idiotic mistake they've made. It does happen

[Interstate]

Anybody who is THAT into their Woman wouldn't give it a second thought. They will commit themself to her completely, and not allow infidelity to interfere. But he has to have the will power and strength to resist.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I can't speak for other men, but when I'm in love? a coach load of naked strippers could drive past me and I wouldn't even notice!

[Roguesalty]

No I don't think so, then again I'm talking about my self, but I also believe that it has more to do with the person, wether he/she has the moral principle or not, I wouldn't cheat whether I love them or not.

That being said, cheating is the worse thing a human being can do to another, and if you truly love someone, you wouldn't that to them.

[Starwitch23]

Cheating is cruelest thing in the world that you can do to someone you love. You make that person question about themselves for the rest of their lives. If you feel the urge to cheat. Just break up with them.

[Finchie40]

If he truly deeply loved her he wouldn’t cheat on her

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes, either gender can do it.

Love is not some magical thing that prevents cheating

[bamesjond0069]

Yes for men 99% sex is just sex. Its not the case for women. That being said you shouldn't be lying or doing stuff like that but for men its possible. I think its technically possible for women but mostly unlikely. She would already have to have had a certain hardness ie like a prostitute has which most girls dont ever have.

[na2398]

The one who wants to cheat wouldn't look at anything else whether he/she's in love or not. It's not something I'd do. If I like someone, I'd stay loyal to them forever. :)

[natured]

No, cheating is no excuse, not even if he claims that he LOVES HER OH SO MUCH... it's an excuse and it's a BS excuse.
I can't stand cheaters.

[Jaketea]

Yes7 and no. Yes, because he loves the stability you give and ALSO, the excitement given by the other girl. In short, he loves you both. And, no, because you will have to consider if you want to be with a guy that harms you in order to gain satisfaction.

[TheGreatAwan]

Love is not real there is only lust and pleasure. I have never felt love or affection towards anyone else and anyone who says they have is lying. I do not care if my parents or my future wife dies if they stop serving me. They are irrelevant cattle unless they are giving me what I desire.

[pinkpanthress]

i think you might have a sociopathic issue man..

[TheGreatAwan]

@pinkpanthress Silence bastard I am not blind to the truth unlike you normfags. NEET 4 LIFE motherfucker fuck your fake normie psychological terms

[exitseven]

some guys cheat because they get off on the excitement not because of the sex. They like being able to get away with something. It is almost like gambling.
I don't understand it but I think I have seen it a couple of times.

[rajdme112233]

Yeah that's always a chance whether or not you love someone.

Our evil thoughts never go away, they're always with us.

If we love someone deeply we can reduce our own chances of cheating by training our mind to deal with high risk situations and even normal situations where we can cheat.

When mind is strong and we give up acting on desires which goes against our relationship , that's when there's lowest chance of cheating.

[pink_and_inlove]

No if you truly love someone you wouldn’t cheat on them

[Goldnessy]

No, maybe it would be diffecult, but a person (man or woman) doesn't matter would stay away. If I had a boyfriend, I wouldn't flirt with other man.

[read12]

Noooo... He will never... If a person loves you he will respect you too... So he will never cross the limit

[MotorcycleMan]

Sure.
He'd be stupid to, but we're inherently stupid creatures.

[Siren777]

Yes a man can but it completely depends on the man in question. Lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well said

[Aquariusmystery]

No. If you live someone you think about your actions before you do them. Would they mind? Would they like that?

[Scotte1us]

Yes, you see the whole thing is devilish just for sex to find how it is and excitement for both sides its ugly and as long as you dont get caught , unfortunete but its happening all over the world today.

[keniyaa]

he can love her but cheat on her because he don't know how to stay with one person only

[hellionthesagereborn]

In my opinion no. I cannot imagine how that could possibly work.

[NMMan]

No. A man who cheats is a man in lust, not in love.

[G5TWA1]

can't he be in love with a girl and in lust with another

[NMMan]

@G5TWA1 He can. But if he loves someone, truly loves them, he wouldn't cheat on them. If he can't see the obvious hurt that trying to "have his cake and eat it too" would cause, then he's only focused on himself.

[G5TWA1]

I don't think loving someone depends on how weak you are

[NMMan]

@G5TWA1 Neither do I. But if it takes so much "strength" to be loyal to one person, then maybe the guy shouldn't be in a relationship.

[G5TWA1]

that I agree with

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Nope. A cheater's just trying to have their cake & eat it too.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Men need to have sex with lots of girls. That doesn't mean they don't love their main chick. Us women need to be more receptive of a man's wants. They have it harder already. We shouldn't burden them with staying faithful

[Adam1978]

Yes you can love multiple people and see nothing wrong with it.

[White_Widow]

I'm gonna go and say... NO he can't. If he'd say he can, he's lying.

[crazy8000]

Most likely not.

Some kinds of feelings are missing amongst many.
Love like love a object like a bag or a certain occurrences like how someone behaves towards you. sure. why not.

[fonduegirl]

If he's polyamorous closeted, yes. In other cases, well he didn't love her enough to begin with.

[Anonymous]

only when she doesn't love him back or does not give him enough time of the day. that may make him feel more and more lonely and someone might take advantage of that loneliness.

[Dragonpurple]

I'd say so, just like women who truly loves her man could cheat on him too.

[kamalravi25]

No he won't cheat on her.
If he did then he didn't truly love her.
It was just his infactuation.

[K-I-S-S]

No.

He can like other women, but to lie like that to the person you supposedly love doesn't sound a lot like love to me.

[Anonymous]

I vote no. At least not in the way I need and deserve to be loved.

[Nik1hil]

Never...

A man in love becomes numb to other girls...

[Jlegacy]

A man can truly love a woman and still cheat on her but He can truly love God and not be faithful.

[marc94]

Nobody can love the nonexistent.

[Jlegacy]

It is like saying because you can't see a person who lives in Mars, they don't exist. To see or encounter God, there is a price to pay. If you don't pay it, you will forever think he doesn't exist.

[marc94]

Uuuh, qué baranda! ¿Soy yo o apesta a primacía de la consciencia?

Take care, kid. Saluda a Dios y los Minions de mi parte.

[Jlegacy]

I understand a bit of your language. Don't know how but I'm a language person. I hope you change your mind soon. I used to be an atheist at one point. Never believed in Jesus at one point. Even tore bibles at some point but now I am above 100 percent convinced of it all.

[Mangospacho]

It’s not a matter of how much he loves you. It’s a matter of how selfish he is.

[EaterPeter]

Yes, unknowingly. We all don't have same definition of cheating. We may agree on some common areas of cheating.

[anylolone]

Same as a woman.
Probably yes, last time I checked.

[Morado]

No. Why would he? He would do it if he didn’t know what love was.

[townhouse]

Yes only if there was good reasons and the other agrees with it

[Anonymous]

No. Only used up manwhores whose worth is lower than a second hand dildo would do it

[Hardme69]

Yes they can and so can a woman. Love and power of sex are 2 different things

[Anonymous]

No you can't cheat and be loving at the same time...

[Agape93]

No. You don’t hurt and betray your loved ones.

[1Anon]

Unfortunately yeah, it’s possible.

[JackSmy]

NO, not if he really loves her!

[Birdlegs]

Yes for sure it’s not an emotional thing with men

[JennBITx]

Yes. They can. No doubt in my mind there