What's the difference between leading and ruling?

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This question applies in all situations, from romantic relationships to social groups.

rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

Leading is by conscious voluntary choice by all parties.

Ruling is leading by way of some natural force, whether it be societal, emotional, or physical.

Kids are ruled by their parents from an early age. They emotionally understand at the end of the day their parents decide and the kid listens, with some freedom to make their own choices.

at least this is true when kids have good parents. As much freedom as possible while ultimately listening to parental decisions when it matters.

As the child ages the ruling changes to leading. The parents aren't deciding for you but rather are now guides that lead you through difficult times. Helping navigate successes and failures.

As you get older your parents are closer to advisors and friends, because you are the leader of your life now. Then you have kids and are now the ruler. The cycle continues.

ToastyOats · Accepted Answer

We could wrestle all day on this issue. The bottom line is whether the person in charge is worthy of the position, do their policies produce a profit for the Earth and its inhabitants? Rulers typically focus on maintaining a structure that upholds their power. That is there primary focus, like a gardener who constantly weeds and sows and fertilizes, they work against nature. The Leader strives for balance and beauty. All things have a purpose in which they can be illuminated and purposeful. They just require the proper arrangement. The only thing standing in the way of peace and prosperity on this planet are the one who strive to out do the others, even they must be put in their place and controlled! Who will watch the watchers Jean? Maybe you.

Titanya · Accepted Answer

Ruling leaves no more for suggestions or opinions. It's a dictatorship. Do what you're told when you're told. Show reverence and respect whereas with leading, you're being guided by a knowledgeable person (s) who was either chosen or took the role because they have the qualifications to do so.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

A more democratic approach? Certainly taking into account the other person/people. 'Iron fist' comes to mind.

perssy · Answer

A lot a guess

leading is like: taking all the good or worst (most importantly) first on your back credit goes to everyone if it's good and worst come only on your back if you are leading leading is like scarifice

Ruling is like: Bad King theory 😂 keeping your slave in front raw to sloughter if you wins you take all the credit without remorse if you loosing yoi will blame others

It's like same in ruling you don't sacrifice you just take credit or advantage , blame others for issue , you are not responsible for worst you will hide your self

So In real life relationship be the leader if she is afraid to lead let her rule the thrones of relationship under your leadership ❤️❤️

Anonymous · Answer

Ruling is biblical leadership.

"Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee."
Gen 3:16

"[Jesus] shall rule them with a rod of iron; as the vessels of a potter shall they be broken to shivers: even as I received of my Father."
Rev 2:27

'Leading' is what losers do. The Emperor of Constantinople died in a suicidal defense of the city. He "led" his people. He was still a loser.

The rulers goal is 'dont lose.'

Hitler once said, "I consider it my right to send the German youth to their deaths." He believed that men are born to be ruled over.

Of course, both the bible and fascism are out of favor in modern feminist societies because of that.

MCheetah · Answer

A leader listens to all the options and chooses what's best for the people he leads. A ruler only does what he or she wants and chooses the best option purely for themselves (and possibly their loyal subordinates, as well).

I'd say most world "leaders" we have nowadays are just elected rulers.

LonewolfMeme · Answer

I tried typing this before it cut me off the connection but I was saying that ruling people are more likely to take control and make decisions while leading people take action before it’s fully formed by any said person in the group or relationship, either way both can be impulsive just for different reasons.

Makeushiver · Answer

The former sounds like any authority is derived from people naturally following a leader wheras ruling has been done by tyrants, emperors and many people who weren't necessarily attractive because of their intelligence or leadership capabilities and can be ruling solely by brute force

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

A difference between a ruler and a leader is mostly morals and finding logical solutions.

Rulers: Are people who classified as authority figures and usually their way is the only way in their mind. This could be your parents, your teachers depends if the teacher doesn't blindly see themselves as superior. Cops and judges could probably be an authority figure, oh and don't forget about your boss he or she is also a ruler.
Leaders: Leaders on the other hand try to figure out a ton of problems while including his/her workers on the discussion before the leader figure out the best solution to your problem.

_Troian_ · Answer

Everyone likes a leader.. leader is the one who gets himself into hard situation with his followers, he's brave, equitable, charismatic, forward looking, positive and friendly

Whilte boss or ruler are most likely, not liked by anyone that much, has ass-lickers around of them, has people who gonna do tasks for them, they're usually people who see theirselves on higher position than anyone else.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Ruling implies the use of some kind of force that ensures people are following or doing what the ruler wants them to do.
Leading is giving some guidance by example, maybe there's some use of propaganda or motivational speeches but no actual force that makes people to follow a certain path.
At least that's my understanding.

Poppykate · Answer

…. 🤔 leading (a dog collar and chain) and ruling (a whip)?….. or do you mean outside the bedroom? 🤔😂

natured · Answer

Leading is involving everyone around you and pushing them to get the best results by working just as hard.
Ruling is when you still involve everyone around you but you don't work with them you just command.

loves2learn · Answer

Leaders lead by example. They treat those below them with the utmost kindness knowing those people support them. They surround themselves with people smarter than them knowing they will better themselves as a result.
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Rulers give orders, treat the people below them like shit and get rid of the smart ones and promote the ones that value their same narcissistic desires.

NathanDavis · Answer

basically... ruling is what happens when you're not capable of leading.

Adam1978 · Answer

Leading is acting in a way that makes people want to follow. Ie they agree with your way of doing things. Ruling is disregarding what other wants and forcing people to align with your plan and goals.

DJB72 · Answer

Leading is a two way relationship-based activity, even in politics or Royalty. I'm inspired by leaders like Queen Elizabeth and President Obama and JFK.

A ruler is someone who wants power for themselves and their own selfish reasons. You see it more in politics than Royalty although there's been a few exceptions over the past few centuries in Europe (not just England). Often it doesn't end well for them (Charles I, Nixon, Drumpf)

libsaretards · Answer

Leading is stepping up and doing what must be done in the moment. Ruling is making lasting rules and trying to decide everything unilaterally. The difference comes down to intent and length of time.

FakeName123 · Answer

This one is rather accurate:

Lillie_xo · Answer

rulers are like more direct leaders right? ｢(ﾟ<ﾟ) ﾞ?

have_a_good_day · Answer

a leader makes his group of followers stronger with himself. a ruler prefers his followers to remain weaker than him.

Nightroads · Answer

Leading is easy, succeed or fail you are still the one that led. Ruling is hard, succeed you rule, fail you are the destroyer of worlds.

dragoblack · Answer

Supporting to get to a goal is leading, ruling is is having a goal but forcing people to work to achieve it while the one giving order does nothing and takes all of the credit.

SupremeWarlord · Answer

In leading, the person being leaded on feels safe and happy. Ruling requires a dictator who can't lead properly.

Marhaban-1 · Answer

A ruler has total power a leader doesn't necessarily

DaveToo · Answer

A leader is chosen by the people. A ruler is someone that has taken control by force.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

The first one is competent cooperation and the other is arbitrary tyranny

Hanrej · Answer

When you lead, others have the choice to follow. When you rule they are deprived of choice.

msc545 · Answer

Leaders help their followers, and rulers abuse and/or ignore them.

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

Leaders understand that being in charge is a responsibility and a burden.  Rulers only want to be in charge for their own benefit.

KWill90 · Answer

Leading is getting people to follow you through desire. Ruling is getting people to follow you through force

Smegskull · Answer

Setting policies for people to follow Vs giving orders for people to follow.

Seinna · Answer

Leading - they follow you because they want to Ruling - they follow you because they have to

Interstate · Answer

LEADING is to GUIDING, as RULING is to CONTROLLING 😉

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Interpretation of said instructions

Hulk30 · Answer

leadin is a noble responsibility where as ruilin is basically dictatorship and tyranny

Twalli · Answer

You have to physically be there to lead

Anonymous · Answer

Ruling is general, leading is personal

lycanthrope3 · Answer

People follow leaders, they obey rulers

Lost_in_the_Woods · Answer

The leash.

princeofromance · Answer

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