Is there a difference between being bossy and being controlling?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[hahahmm]

Depends on context. When I was a kid we read LOTS of books. Today people read fewer books which means they don't get as much flavor/meanings for individual words. They can google/bing some word but they will probably only pay attention to 1 definition for that word.

From my POV... the word bossy would tend to indicate that someone is telling another person to do something without the other person's full consent/approval to be put in that position. BUT then again someone could use that same word in a sarcastic way as a joke. "Controlling" could be bad or good. If a woman needs a 350 pound box moved somewhere, she's going to find a man to CONTROL that situation. She's going to give him 100% authority to deal with it. Likewise if she wants a man to protect her when a dangerous home invader or car jacker shows up... she'd be wise to have given CONTROL to her boyfriend/husband when it comes to security issues, long before that bad time occurs.

[Oigit]

Controlling is pretty much when people start going that extra mile. For example they tell you that you need to wipe down something like the tv and gets angry because you are not doing it their way. They want to control every aspect of what you are doing and how you do it.

[DesiUwU]

Bossy is having a reasonable explanation to why you are so…. bossy. Like let’s say you have a lot of house rules, like no running, no wearing shoes in the house, etc.
controlling is when it gets unhealthy (even dangerous!) and plays a part in jealousy as well. Forbidding someone from hanging out with certain people, asking where you are all the time, following you around and taking control of your every decision, etc.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Perception.

Arguably, having 'boundaries' or 'limits' can also be viewed as 'controlling' to someone who doesn't respect you.

One person might think it's 'controlling' to not let them get drunk 2x week. Another person might respect that because they realize that getting drunk typically inconveniences or scares their partner.

[FreyaRed]

You can control people without dominating and threatening them. Lot of bossy people are assertive and oppressive but have little to no control over others.

[FilmGuy93]

Not really... Being bossy is more about being forceful about your own opinions, while being controlling is more about shutting down the other person's opinions.

[muscularbumblebee]

Bossy is typically linked to attitude and controlling with behaviour I believe but both are pretty similar and negative

[Adam1978]

Yes but both are unwanted so it's often irrelevant.

[horatiohornblower]

They are a similar pattern. It's a matter of degree. Bossy is far less a degree than controlling.

[Anonymous]

Bossy is wanting things to go they have you think they should at minimal effort, controlling is forcing with no regard to the negative impact it will have on other at maximum effeort.

[Flower7]

I feel like they’re two different ways of saying the same thing.

[TerryT]

Men need to be given boundaries or they'll be like dogs sniffing around other females! Tight leash!!!

[kmg9150]

Maybe consider not giving him a reason to sniff around. We dont like smelly pussy. Everyone needs boundaries. Hopefully you date females, because your toxic to any male that you date.

[Iron_Man]

Not really stand your ground Or it gets worse down the road

[AndrésC64]

There's no difference. If you are bossing someone around you are trying to control them.

[TsAubreyKate]

Example most women are controlling
but most men are bosses

[Gwenhwyfar]

Not really. Both are bad.

[exitseven]

it is pretty much the same thing.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

"Bossy" is a more fearless form of "controlling."

[FinalFantasyBro]

I feel like they are basically the exact same

[noohair]

Two sides of the same coin.

[appsolutely3322]

they are both annoying lol

[jahaims]

Nope

[Uptowngirl88]

Nope

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Yes it have