Do you feel suffocated in a relationship?

[Starwitch23]

[ludorock]

If you're feeling suffocated I'd say it's very important that you talk with your partner about that, and explore your own feelings a bit deeper. Is it because they're clingy? Is it because they set boundaries that you don't feel are appropriate? Is it because they seem to like you more than you like them? Only you can answer that, and you can only answer it with some good, thoughtful reflection.

What moments cause that feeling? What types of interactions? Are there times you don't feel that way, and if so, when are they?

Once you have it straight in your mind, go talk to them about it. If you want it to work out then it takes work, effort and commitment. If you realize you don't feel strongly enough to want to work through it and stick around then you have an answer right there.

Overall, no, I don't feel suffocated, no one should. It's a sign that something is off or wrong, and you should work towards figuring out what that something is.

[Pinay_ako]

Only when you let it… if you feel suffocated in a relationship then you should break from it. It’s not healthy. Both of you will suffer and it’s not worth it

[NathanDavis]

No... I've never felt like that but... I am in charge of my relationships, I never give them the power to control me or affect me in negative ways, not the relationship ant it's dynamics... my partners, sure... they have the potential to do wrong but, I am very selective of who I am going to be with, then I do not have to worry about these things.

[Starwitch23]

Do you not feel that you're losing your independence?

[Starwitch23]

I feel my freedom is taken away

[NathanDavis]

I never really felt that way... I am very into people, even with friends... I can do it both ways and feel okay with either, I could spend 8 hours talking with a friend... and I can also go 8 days without seeing the same friend.

So, when I am in a relationship I just feel great being with that someone, to me it feels like I am sharing my freedom, my time, and who I am... with the one I am with, giving me the same.

[haooy]

When you are not the right one, yeah. It's annoying because sometimes we are too scared to let it go. But if you are true and honest to one another it sure feels great.

[haooy]

Thanks.

[ArrowheadSW]

I was in one relationship where I definitely felt that way. I discussed it with her but to no avail. She had such a fear of abandonment that made her overly clingy, and I felt smothered by her behavior. I didn't like it at all. On the other hand, maybe some people need a relationship like that?

[Starwitch23]

Yeah I felt that when my ex was not breaking up with me. Even if I broke up with him. He would come back and again we are together.

[MedAsianGirl]

We have fear of abandonment because some guys tend to stay with us even when they have no more interest. They won't tell until we have had enough and figure out on our own.

So for me when I notice that the guy starts not opening my snaps or not replying to any of texts, I would go aggressive to make sure he is still interested.

For me when I completely lose interest, I'd def tell the guy and won't want to waste any more of his time. But sometimes I feel like some guys are not brave/honest enough to do the same when they completely lose interest. They just know how to blame us for being needy. They never want to learn why we behave like that.

[ohshee]

No if I felt that way I wouldn't be in the relationship. Know if I am not happy then I would feel suffocated and then I would have to just say I'm sorry but I have to go. No I love being in a relationship because I love what I'm capable of doing for my girlfriend significant other whoever and I love making things work and bringing out the best in the both of us

[JBlade]

I haven't been in a relationship yet but just based on many of the friendships I've had... I would assume it is a very likely possibility.

[Starwitch23]

Do you have short term relationships?

[JBlade]

No, that's not fulfilling to me. Why do you ask?

[Starwitch23]

I was confirming if you had commitment issue

[barefoot_babe]

Shortly, yes every single one, given I suppose I'm just not into closed relationships I feel like thats when they but pressure on you. And make a big deal about you and the relationship, when life itself is so much more then your relationship.

[charlean]

I did but it turned out I was just with the wrong guy

[GoldenAxer]

A little bit, but I feel the same way outside, so I might as well have some company while I'm suffocating.

[mooky06]

Only if my partner were to be controlling and overbearing then yes

[Anonymous]

No, not at all. I felt loved when I was in a relationship ☺🥰
You know... the love I didn't have when I needed it.

[Starwitch23]

That's sad.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes. My mother didn't hug me. But that won't pose a problem for a relationship.

[Starwitch23]

I'm sorry to hear that. Do you know we tend to date people who remind us of our difficult parent?

[Opinion Owner]

Well, that's definitely not the case with me. That could purely be a coincidence if anything at all.

[Starwitch23]

at least you feel loved. That's more important and you are able to love.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree. I want that.

[Anonymous]

No but looking back, after I was sexually assaulted I stayed with and practically suffocated my brother with platonic affection (a shoulder to cry on would be an understatement).

[MysticDevice]

I did in my first 3 relationships. They were not so great and gave me so much anxiety. The last two were fine though.

[MedAsianGirl]

What did they do that gave you anxiety?

[MysticDevice]

They did a lot of intentional guilt tripping to get me to do things for them. And they'd give false information in an attempt to play people against eachother in the friends groups.

As soon as I figured out what was happening I told them to hit the road.

[MedAsianGirl]

Those sound terrible!

[MysticDevice]

Yeah. That was highschool though. Ancient history basically.

[varan69]

If you do then something is wrong and you need to fix it. You shouldn't feel uncomfortable in any way

[lizchill]

Nope if you do feel suffocated in your relationship than you should end it.

[Anonymous]

Depends on how smothering the girl is. Some girls are more needy than others.

[Anonymous]

It would depend on whether the relationship if it was me was going well or going through a rough patch. I think it's hard to answer broadly.

[legalboxers]

Id like if I was.. I dont mind being clingy or suffocated..

[Anonymous]

Yes
Because i keep getting mixed feeling from my boyfriend

[lycanthrope3]

if you are, you are in the wrong relationship

[Starwitch23]

Is it every time?

[lycanthrope3]

maybe you are a free spirt, and need an open relationship

[Starwitch23]

I thought about it a lot. But, I can't live in an open relationship.

[lycanthrope3]

Are you the jealous type

[Starwitch23]

Not really. Why do you ask that?

[Starwitch23]

I just don't want third party to get involve.

[lycanthrope3]

What causes you to feel smothered

[Starwitch23]

Like every time talking now and then. I feel that what if he gets bored of me.

[Starwitch23]

Constant anxiety that I'll reach in a stage of boredom in a relationship.

[lycanthrope3]

Then do not get serious in a relationship

[Ironic_Method]

I feel amazing in my relationship.

[Jouth]

Hell ya! Awesome!!

[Esti1703]

I only realised after the relationship that I did

[scooogy]

Depends on whose love is greater.

[Jjcatt]

No, I love my lady

[SenseiSeptred]

Not at all.

[Caramelpie]

Not at all.

[EaterPeter]

Yes.

[EaterPeter]

Thank you @Starwitch23 for like!

[Anonymous]

no..

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Yeah