How do I get my first real girlfriend at age 27?

[Inthecraphole]

I turn 27 in a few weeks and I never had a real girlfriend before.

I am wanting me and a woman to be each other's first loves. Although difficult, I have managed to find women here and there without a romantic past, but I blow it everytime and they end up blocking me.

What can I do to win a woman's heart?

[opacarophile]

If you really want to have a girlfriend, maybe you should be more intentional. Look for the negotiables and non-negotiables qualities you have for a girl. Be a brave man who is sincere and committed. We, girls would always admire this kind of man. We're done with the immature boys who only know how to flirt, but are afraid of commitment. 😎

[Little_Bumblebee]

Get to know her. If you get to know her, it will be easier to find out how to win her heart.

[Inthecraphole]

How do you make that initial step? How do you grab her attention and keep it going?

[Little_Bumblebee]

Find something you have in common and start up a conversation and hope you can find some chemistry. - You cannot force a connection.
And just because you are into her because of her lack of.. romantic partners, doesn't mean she will be into you.

[moviedude714]

The burden of taking action will fall on your shoulders since you're a guy but unfortunately there's no other way

[GlovewithLove]

You have to figure out where you we'regoing wrong in your previous attempts and corrected going forward.

[Anonymous]

A woman around that age without a sexual past good luck with that

[Inthecraphole]

I have found quite a few. I don't care about her sexual past as much as I care about whom she shared her heart with. She can of course be as young as 18.

[Opinion Owner]

Well that's a lot easier then

[Anonymous]

What did you do that caused them to block you?

[Inthecraphole]

Well one girl didn't respond for a while, and I messaged back and said something on the lines of "if you don't want to talk... fine" sort of thing

[Inthecraphole]

I said this too:
"Here's the thing, I have had such a heavy burden on my shoulders for years. I haven't been truly happy in a long time. No medications, no therapy, nothing has been able to help. I feel alone. I have been longing for a girlfriend, a wife, a family, and a future with a woman. I am watching my peers day by day get married, have kids, or both. Meanwhile, my dream of having a special someone seems so out of reach. I know I am capable of having a significant other. I know I will be good to her. Walking the halls of my high school was so rough for me growing up, watching my peers holding hands, kissing, and the guys holding their special girl in their arms. I missed out on young love. That is my greatest regret. But I feel I will never get to experience a real girlfriend at all. I am hurting inside so badly. I need some relief, something I have been hoping for years."

[Opinion Owner]

Do you usually meet them online? I feel like dating nowadays is just too difficult, there’s a lot of rules to follow and most people lose interest before you get the chance to develop anything…

[Inthecraphole]

I feel like all women lose interest in me. It is so difficult it is almost impossible.

[Opinion Owner]

Also I feel like girls with no romantic past will be harder to open up since they’re still super cautious about letting someone in for the first time and they don’t know what to expect / what they want romantically yet

[Inthecraphole]

I am still hoping I can find a girl like that and really hit it off.

[Opinion Owner]

Well did you tell them your dream early on? It could’ve scared the girl off as it could’ve put pressure on the girl so maybe try sharing something lighter next time while you’re still in the talking stage.

[Inthecraphole]

I did. I started off with small talk. Cannot remember the entire conversation though. But it was OK on day one. Day two she responded a little. By day 3 I was blocked.

[Opinion Owner]

Dang that sucks… hope you’ll find someone soon