Would you feel comfortable if your partner went to a strip club?

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NicoletteXO · Accepted Answer

Sure, they can do what they want. I'd hope they enjoy themselves!

For those who are uncomfortable about this, there is either a jealousy or a trust issue going on.

That is, they are jealous of the strippers (thinking their partner will be attracted to qualities of the strippers which they don't possess). OR there is a trust issue - fear that boundaries will be crossed - ie. if he goes to a strip club, maybe he will end up getting drunk and sleeping with a hooker... etc.

However, for me, I have no jealousy of strippers or other women in general - they have their beauty, I have mine. Why not celebrate it all? I don't think controlling what my partner's eyeballs can land on is going to make him believe I am more special. If anything, it will show him I'm a control freak. And if you want to decrease a man's attraction to you, try to control him. I know I feel less attraction to men who try to control me.

The trust factor is also significant. Again, corralling where my partner goes is not going to provide trust and security in the relationship. If he's untrustworthy and has no respect for our relationship, he'll find a cam girl or have an affair or WHATEVER. 'Disallowing' him from attending a strip club won't do jack shit. However, if he respects the relationship, and is trustworthy, that is not going to falter based on his circumstances or situation. If it does, he's not the kind of man I want to be in a relationship with anyway. So let him do his thing. I don't need to control him or worry about him - his own actions will demonstrate whether he deserves to be in relationship with me.

FlutteringFeelings · Accepted Answer

Not at all. However, It depends on the persons values and beliefs. For instance, I’m not too fond of a man that smokes or drinks and that doesn’t make him less of a man. I’ll address our differences and we’ll go our own separate ways. The same thing goes for the strip club. That’s a deal breaker for me but if a guy decides he wants to go to the strip club that’s fine, but we’ll no longer be together.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

No, that is out of bounds for our marriage.
Neither one of us do that and if we did there would be hell to pay from the other.

It is funny how so many believe that is "normal".
Hey, my relationship partner that I love and am committed to... I'm going to go pay money to some other man/woman to take off their clothes for me (whore/prostitute) and dance for me to give me a sexual thrill. I'll see you in 4 hours.

It is just odd how many consider that a "normal/healthy" relationship.

Kaneki05 · Accepted Answer

I mean depends on the context.
Them going by themselves to a strip club by themselves to just see the show, seems weird and off putting. Like explain why?

If a reason and context was reasonable sure. Reasonable stuff been like, my mate is having a bachelor party, or i've just never experienced one before (To me trying stuff once seems like a good reason due to you only get 1 life and if you want to see or do something before you die do it) then etc on other examples.

Mishan97 · Answer

Definitely not. Tbh it’s something I would break up with someone over. I find it weird. if u have a woman at home what’s the need to go and spend money to ogle women who are only giving you the time of day bc it’s their job? Wouldn’t you rather spend that money on the women who is in a relationship with you? I just find it disrespectful. I know some people are chill with it & some couples even go together but personally I am so not okay with it. Especially once you realize that a lot of the girls are there as a result of trafficking, etc it just becomes depressing to go to these places.

AndrewMG · Answer

I've only been to one strip club and that was in error... was on holiday in Vegas and at the end of the night we got in a taxi and asked the driver to take us somewhere that was still serving alcohol, the driver then took us to a bar miles off the Vegas strip which was more strip and far less club... it was an interesting experience when in the middle of the desert I ended up arguing with some stranger I just wanted a beer and wasn't a big fan of guys that essentially were pimps. Remarkably I'm still alive lol

CasuallySamsonite · Answer

Sure, depends on the club but yeah... those places are usually pretty good about not letting patrons touch the merchandise (unless they pay for the privilege)

I'll be honest, as a guy those places don't interest me at all. I'm just not a fan of the waste of money it is in my mind to go a oogle women who are off the menu by profession and generally so nipped and tucked that you can hardly tell what's left of their real selves under all the silicone and Botox.

Stripping is a fine profession, when done well it is a dance art form of sorts but yeah... not something I care to drop several hundred dollars on when I don't even drink either.

Now, would I date a Stripper? Sure, dancing and draining other men's wallets ain't cheating, as long as that's all it is and she doesn't lie about it.

chriscdi · Answer

No I wouldn't waste time and I'd probably break up with them, you can go to so many places to have fun and if it's for the drinks, there's bars, there's liquor stores, what would the reason for her being there be, whatever it is, I wouldn't wanna be around her to find out

MTC29 · Answer

I've taken women to clubs before. One visit and they understand that strip clubs revolve around the dancers and not the men. In any case, one of my female colleagues is a lesbian and she had a great time! The dancers pay particular attention to the ladies, often asking if they are enjoying themselves.

Remember, it's all make believe inside of a strip club, where guys pay a bunch of money to pretend.

Browneye57 · Answer

What's this 'comfortable' bullshit? And 'partner'? Your man, your lover, is your 'partner'? Dear lord.
And now you think you're your man's boss?

Wife of thirty years..."I don't care where you get your appetite as long as you come home to eat."

Why don't you strip naked and lie in wait for him, then fuck his brains out.

Anonymous · Answer

those places are a bunch of bullshit. they act nice nice to you in the club but out of it they do a complete 180 with their personality. i did that stupid shit when i was younger and have no interest in doing it again. it's a bunch of crap and a complete waste of time. and when a person does go they need to have other people there to watch their back at all time. those places suck. the waitresses were hotter than the strippers. you couldn't pay me all the money in the world to ever step foot in a place like that again

Kabluie · Answer

It's fine. When I was traveling for this one project, it was mostly us guys and we'd go out to the strip club after dinner sometimes. I never did anything beyond have drinks and talk to some women, because girls at the hotel desk were hotter and easier to have sex with, for free of course.

crazysassypaws21 · Answer

me i never really get it, like why people with girlfriend's or boyfriend at home that could probably be way more fun would reather go to a place that at the end of night ur going home with blue balls bc i hate to be this guys 98% of people go there the dancers probably in the normal life wouldn't want , but we all get to believe in that movie scene will happen, anyways when im in a relationship that a enough for me , single chris sure not single chris not my cup of tea

FitCarmen · Answer

I am admittedly a bit of the jealous type so I would rather he not. He does not enjoy them so I am happy. Besides he got a sexy women so he should not require it.

jasco · Answer

Honestly I don't know. I mean first off lol i laugh because I find funny that how people would willing go to such a place. Yea its great for fap content but its not like your gonna be getting any sex so yea no i wouldn't step foot in their. As for my girl doing I don't know. To be honest I more than likely wouldn't care, I would be curious as to why tho

dustybiker · Answer

It’s one way to prove trust and encourage you to relax. You being okay with a partner going to a strip club can be enough for them to be more faithful to you. Trust is a powerful thing. They come home wound up. Best part.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Hell No id break up with him! We had this conversation he understands how I feel abd he expects the same of me... I have never been in one.. he has but has no desire to go back so everything is good!

Jake99999 · Answer

I don't like strip clubs in general. I don't like the entire concept. I think strip clubs are kind of sad. I have zero interest in it. I would not want to be with someone who was into that scene.

DonkeyDan · Answer

Absolutely no problem with that. My ex wife went to one a bunch of times with her friends and she would come home super horny and want to do some really dirty stuff. I used to encourage her to go just for the amazing sex afterwards.

jackster95 · Answer

Hypothetically I think it could be fine if everyone's talked it through and is on the same page. Practically though it might upset my sensitive self, but I would do my best to communicate it to my partner and work it out.

Taylah9 · Answer

Personally no I wouldn't. Especially if they did it behind my back knowing that I wouldn't feel comfortable with it

elizamichale1 · Answer

Yes absolutely 😊😊
Well my partner works in the strip club as my manager so we are both there everyday hehe
But even before i joined stripclub i never had a problem with 2 of my ex boyfriends going to stripclub

KrisPW · Answer

Not really. As long as he knows who he is coming home to. The girls are just giving a show for money, and he knows that, so I'm not worried about anything more happening there.

Littlemissbrat · Answer

I'm glad mine hates this sort of thing BC I would leave him 🙆‍♀️

aliali8 · Answer

The types of guys who visit strip clubs do not tend to be the boys that I would Deem fit bring home to my mama.

Petermorgan34 · Answer

Id feel very uncomfortable becuase it means something is wrong or weird going on with her because she can't even handle going out to a bar or party together without her being uncomfortable and anxious

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I used to go to them more often, but not frequently. Maybe once every 3-4 months. My wife never cared, and even came with me a few times. It's harmless fun, for BOTH of you.

Anonymous · Answer

Go with him and work it to your advantage. If the place has private rooms with private lap dances, buy him one. That can be a lot of fun.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Only a few times maybe both of us can make an arrangement but I have to make a certain schedule about how many times she could go to a strip club. Others wise I would get seriously annoyed knowing she is constantly going to the strip club.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

No, women arnt to be trusted around male strippers. Thats why I workout so much now, i know whats up

JustAnj · Answer

Nah and he wouldn't want me to either, he gets jelly.

VDrago14 · Answer

I don't have an issue with it if my wife wanted to go to one. However seeing as how it's not either one of our things, that likely won't happen anytime soon.

SuqqMaddiqq · Answer

That’s smt you should discuss with your partner, every relationship has different boundaries. Personally I wouldn’t love it, but he wouldn’t love it either so we’re on the same page.

Pj1981 · Answer

Never been to one before and I don't really care if I ever go but if my partner is the one that wants to go I would have no issue going and I don't think I'd be uncomfortable.

Backseatvibing · Answer

My boyfriend is not allowed, I’ll give him a show if that’s what he wants lol

t-8900 · Answer

the people i surround myself with would never be caught dead in those places.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course not 😂 i can have anxiety attack 😂 if He wants so much, i can be a stripper for him for a night, he doesn’t need to go 😂

Anonymous · Answer

I would not care for it. Too many lapdog instances. Not that he would even go into one of them hoe places. hahaha

exitseven · Answer

If it was a one off bachelor party it would be okay. If it was a regular thing I would not like it.

Subarugirl · Answer

I wouldn't really care... go have fun tell me about it when you get home lol

tomtom05131 · Answer

I went with a female coworker while on a business trip before #metoo. She was in her 20’s engaged and wanted to know what they were about. A little awkward at first but we both loosened up and had fun.

TrueConfection · Answer

Yeah! I would be super comfy with the house, car, and bank accounts all to myself!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I would (and have), because I trust her. And because when she does go to those places with coworkers or friends, she always comes home horny and in need of some good sex, which I am happy to handle for her. What could I possibly object to?

FreeOhSeven · Answer

I think that maybe the only reason a person wouldn’t be comfortable with this is that they lack security in themselves or their relationship.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Some young people are curious. I know I was and went a few times, but it’s a waste. Nothing healthy comes out of it. I’m sure there is that rare occurrence. Their always is.

CharlieDuos · Answer

Yes, I have been with work colleagues on many occasions over the year. Frankly I find them a little tame and boring, and designed to rip off desperate men who get willingly exploited

smølf · Answer

No, I would be ready for the breakup talk, it is one of many dealbreakers.

Anonymous · Answer

It was my wife he first took me to one and taught me the ropes, so no issue. Of course those clubs around here are 100% no touching and no lap dances or anything like that, it is strictly visual.

CasaNorba · Answer

No, I stay out of relationships because I frequent strip clubs and if I am in a relationship I expect the same from her

Grubhub · Answer

Yes I’d feel comfortable if my female partner went to a female strip club. When I went 😂 them girls are whores. I’d be lying if I told you I didn’t like it

worldscolide · Answer

No, but only because I'd be afraid she would catch some nasty disease from the chairs.

humpbackjack · Answer

Not a problem cause she’s coming home ready to go like a beast

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, if my wife went there and showed off her huge boobs and got paid, I’d probably be comfortable with it. Plus, if they have a good enough buffet, I could get a discount and still see my wife naked. Win-Win.

TheGuyInJs · Answer

Absolutely not, if you are in a relationship I personally feel like you should be focusing that energy on him/her.

Sarairocketship · Answer

No. If he wants to go there, then he's not my boyfriend anymore. Simple.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Hey, if her tips are good … Who am I to complain? :p

Anonymous · Answer

A strip club for women is not at all the same thing. So there’s going to be a gender divide.  Strip clubs for men are fine. But why would she be going without me is the question.

OddBeMe · Answer

Yeah, after 15 years I know she wouldn’t cheat. Year 2? Might be jealous…as she was when she found out about my bachelor party.

Iron_Man · Answer

No lol I don’t need her going to Chippendale’s with her friends

Dchrls78104 · Answer

No; that would probably be the end of our relationship.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

I’d prefer to join her, but definitely! That would be hot!!!

SamFromFL · Answer

Yes. Not every weekend but on a special occasion with friends

AudreyV92 · Answer

Yes, I would go with them

Ms_Vanderquack · Answer

Without me? That’s just rude.

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