How do you feel about your partner going to the strip club?

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I’ve never been to a strip club and we don’t have any in my country and I have no idea about it. Do you get mad if your partner goes to a strip club? Do you think it’s cheating?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

In a committed relationship and without your partner’s approval it’s disrespectful, Just like partners watching porn behind their partners back , if you really loved and valued your partner you shouldn’t need any of that shit in your life and that’s where most relationships encounter problems because most people are selfish and only really care about themselves , they don’t wear their partners shoes before making decisions , they just assume it’s ok and that’s where most relationships fall apart , you can’t expect someone to sacrifice for you if you if you can’t really sacrifice for them , my thing is if I am tempted to resort to that stuff while I am in a committed relationship then that tells me something is wrong in the relationship and it needs to be addressed and fixed , me personally would rather make my own porn with my partner then watching someone else getting off or watching my partner dance nude over watching some other girl dancing nude , so if making porn with my partner is not occurring then something is wrong in the relationship that needs addressed apparently my needs and wants aren’t being met if I am resorting to things like that cuz I would question myself why Am I resorting to those things if I have a loving partner in my life? The thing is we are all imperfect people and we all make mistakes if you can’t admit to yourself that you are wrong then you really shouldn’t be in a relationship , it’s hard for most people to admit to themselves they are wrong especially when they make excuses for their actions , they are the type of people that can’t say sorry or apologize cuz they think they aren’t wrong , they will try to turn it around that you are the problem and that you are just being an asshole or a bitch , so they are not good relationship people , because they are only thinking of themselves and selfish , people need to realize whatever they do in a relationship your partner can do the same so don’t do shit that you don’t want your partner to do , if it’s not ok for you to do then it’s not ok for them to do , When you both can admit you’re wrong and you both can apologize for your mistakes love will grow, if you aren’t capable of doing that then stay single and you won’t have to answer to anybody Having to lie and keep secrets from your partner is not love, you just like the thought of being in love on your terms that isn’t love

CuriousJC · Accepted Answer

When I was still dating, I only went to the strip club as a last resort whenever my woman doesn't want to spend any time with her man. I don't think it's fair that I come home exhausted want to spend some time with my girlfriend and she's just not in the mood for it. In any relationship, they say looking at other naked women touching kits in the whole nine yards is considered cheating but how is a man supposed to enjoy his relationship what's the woman he likes or love if she's not going to even try to make him happy especially putting money on the table for her?

AwesomeCookie · Accepted Answer

I'm not a jealous individual. I would say it depends on the occasion as to why he is going to a strip club. And no, I would safely assume I would not consider it cheating if it were a one time deal kind of visit as long as he didn't do anything that conveys cheating. Yet, some men have been known to frequent these joints because of an infatuation of a certain floozy and that is cheating. I say once he starts spending more time and money on any women other than me or his mother then he clearly is cheat lol.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Yes, I would be very mad at him if he went to a strip club. He has no business being there! I was furious when I caught him watching pornography! He watched it for years, and I had no idea. 😡

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn’t care. I’d probably be home watching sports eating a pizza. As for cheating. Not very likely a stripper is going to screw one of her customers. But that doesn’t mean it can’t happen. As for going, it’s been a long time since I’ve gone. But she. I went it was more so just to hang out w my brothers in arms. Looks at some tits, a few nice looking ones but that was about it. Drink some liquor, talk shit to each other. It was t an emotional thing. Well I guess it was in a way but not in the way you’re thinking. A different type of emotion, an instinct. I don’t know what you’d call it.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Are you talking about girls going to watch girls strip and guys going to watch guys strip? Or girls going to watch guys strip and guys going to watch girls strip? Maybe this is hypocritical, but I think those are all very different questions. I guess the main thing I would say is that while I've never been to a club where men strip, I've heard that those get far more out of hand than clubs where the girls strip. So I'd be a bit more leery about that situation. But if I trusted my partner then I hope I wouldn't have a problem with it. If she wanted to go to a "regular" strip club, where a girls strip, I'd probably like it to be honest.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Nope, there is a thing called trust, however needs to be a valid reason for going,

20yearsolder · Answer

I have no issues with it, everybody is worried about their guy going to a strip club, the majority of the women get more turned on if there is a woman there than they do if there is a man sitting there. They're there to make a living, most of them are only trying to milk more money out of a guy. Stop worrying about your guy going to a strip club, most of them you're not allowed to touch, if you do you get your ass kicked out.

HighlyVolatile · Answer

Funnily enough, I took my wife to a strip club for my bachelor's party. I never understood the point of seeing strippers right before I'm marrying the woman I'm smitten with, but my guy friends really wanted to go.

So I told them I'll go only if my wife and her friends can come along, and so we all went together. I could swear she enjoyed it more than I did making it rain and tipping the girls on stage left and right!

Dinklex3 · Answer

I think it's fine.  I'd like to go with them so i can see all the hype though.

petitedollbabee · Answer

We’re both attracted to women, and I support sex workers/pole dancers. So I’d be happy to go with him.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

I find it disrespectful. What pride can you attain from going to the strip club? I'd have to find someone who understamds where I am coming from with this.

Anonymous · Answer

Shit, my G/F took me for my birthday, we fed the dancers ones, she got me a lap dance, and then took me to a motel and fucked my brains out.

Mad? No. Chasing? No. I never really had to go alone, so none if it was an issue. She kept me quite entertained. I haven't been since and it's been 10 years. There's really nothing to miss.

Anonymous · Answer

Women at male strippers are disgusting.
They will suck off the male strippers behind a towel, I have seen them lick and bite men. They claw at them and act like wild animals.

Men at Female strippers sit and talk to their buddies and occasionally look up at the naked women dancing.

sucking a random guy off is cheating 100%
sitting and chatting with buddies while a woman dances is not.

DonkeyDan · Answer

I have no objections to it at all. My ex wife would sometimes go to a stripper night or strip club with some friends, and she'd always come home gagging for it a dripping wet, yeah so it's all good for me.

Miristheiss · Answer

It has never come up because neither of us are into that but it would be a big no no.
My wife doesn't go to strip shows or to tacky, sleazy bachelorette parties where that would go on. If she tried it she'd no longer be my wife.

Angeliki1996 · Answer

If you know before hand that it’s not cheating. If I don’t trust you or you don’t trust me. We don’t need to be together.

Jadethedream · Answer

I Would only let him if he agreed to do a dance first lol 😆 and give me the time and attention.

Darine123 · Answer

I would be so mad, what you gonna do at strip club? She prolly suck his d in the club

Sook420 · Answer

Depends on if they allow me to go to one ( if interested in things like that). If they are trustworthy in your eyes and those who they'll be with at that club. Cause not all people you surround yourself with are looking out for your best interest

MrtoddsWildRide · Answer

Strip clubs are not my thing. I don't see a point in them. However if my girl wanted to go I would be okay with it.
If it was male strippers, I would tell her to have fun
If it was female strippers, I might go just to watch her

Anonymous · Answer

I would probably want to break up with him. It’s disrespectful. I just don't get why a committed man would want to go ogle and lust for other women. if you were good enough for him, why would he even go? He sounds like he has eyes for other women.

StrawberryShake · Answer

Of course I'd be mad, I'd be more than mad... heartbroken more like. I would leave him. That's most definitely cheating. He's going for sexual pleasure so?

Phoenix98 · Answer

Yeah that's not gonna happen. And it's not that I wouldn't trust her I just personally find it disrespectful in my opinion to go run off to a strip club when you have a partner.

bowenw · Answer

I wouldn't mind if she went to a male stripper show with her girlfriends. It's good fun. I find those kind of things make a person horny so she'd likely return ready for a lot of sex with me.

NiListicIntelectual · Answer

I don't care. We're all gonna eventually turn to nothing but dust in 200 years. Why should I care? Haven't got the energy to care

dustybiker · Answer

They go because of a bachelor party and come home riled up to you. What’s not to like?

jshm2 · Answer

To be honest, think of it like an expensive, seedy, bar. Some "score" most just go for a bit of distraction.

exitseven · Answer

if it was a one off for a bachelor party or some other group activity I would not mind but if it was a regular thing I would be upset.

Heartache0405 · Answer

If I had a partner and they went to a male strip club for women, we wouldn't be together anymore

Adam1978 · Answer

They have no reason to go there. Because I don't date strippers. So that clearly not acceptable.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Plan to take my girlfriend to the club for her first time. To see females ofc. Not men. ain't nobody want to see that shit.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Happy enough though currently saving for house so bit of a waste of money

skytatoe · Answer

Why not, hahahaahha If she likes watching the girls, I'll come with her, never been to one too, it'll be an experience

The1Girl · Answer

I would just think it's really pathetic

elizamichale1 · Answer

My partner is always in strip/sex club n i m alright coz we both work there hehe

humanearth · Answer

That would be awesome. At least she got out the house and did something

girlwithglasses01 · Answer

lmao though i have never been in a strip club, nor do i have a partner. But i have always wanted to go to a strip club with my partner.

Andro36 · Answer

I would not like it. Not because it makes me angry that he admire other females but because it is dumb and I expect a lot more from him

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Great, I'll go with her. We can pretend we're Donald and Melania Trump.

Magarmor64 · Answer

well i just hope she doesn't go to the one i work at 😬

Xtendable · Answer

She has a friend who works in a club so we go together. Or she goes. Its all good

Kelly6 · Answer

It’s not cheating  it’s entertainment

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

Only if we are together

Andres77 · Answer

I don't go alone. We've gone together a few times.

nannnnssss · Answer

I will be mad and break up with him

abc--123 · Answer

Wouldn't bother me at all

Wise4myage · Answer

I hope she’d go with me.

donnny2367764 · Answer

Nah... it's all eye candy

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

*huge Rock reference*

Kurdistan1991 · Answer

I would definitely leave it

hakan_ist · Answer

Her choose.. no problem

Logan_V96 · Answer

Unacceptable

Anonymous · Answer

I would feel hurt, like she wanted someone else.

msc545 · Answer

Don't mind

QuietRunner · Answer

I'm fine with it

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