How high are your expectations for a partner?

[Anonymous]

Very high

Moderate

Pretty low

[Aethereal]

I think mine are moderate. But they could be seen as high by some:

- Believes in mutual happiness in the relationship i. e. each person's opinion is just as important as the the other's. No one prioritizes their happiness if they know the other will be unhappy as a result. Communication with the aim of compromise or consensus is a must.

- Likes to give and receive a lot of attention. Basically someone who will make me her top priority, as I will make her mine. This of course implies by it's wording that I don't want kids to be in the picture.

- Introverted. I'm an introvert who loves being an introvert. I doubt I'd have had a happy relationship with someone that needed to constantly be going out, partying, being around many people all the time, etc.

- Straightforward/direct. I suck at reading subtlety. Someone who relies on it and expects their partner to easily read it will lose their mind with me.

- Has the one physical requirement I allowed myself to have, on condition that it was something that she would have been able to change (rather than something like height or race).

[t-8900]

You tell me then I'll vote with what you think.
1) Needs to be working but doesn't need a college degree (prefer if she could make 30K+)
2) Is okay signing a prenup in a state that honors it with lawyers present
3) wants 2-4 kids
4) Is okay if I decide to light up a cigar on a Saturday evening in my lounge chair outside
5) likes/wants dogs
6) likes/will use a pool :)
7) is willing to move to a different state for my career
8) is Christian
9) Puts her family before herself
10) can give me the bedroom action at my request (as long as she's not sick or something)

[Mousey54]

If a man is not willing to be open and pushes me away intentionally, then eventually I will send him out the door.
I’ve dealt with one person who was emotionally guarded and not reciprocating. I had too many expectations that time but now I’m more smarter.
There’s really no control when it comes to trying to change a person’s behavior. Your personal happiness and worth is more important than standing off guard while waiting for a person to make a choice to be with you. Thinking about a specific person’s sadness/negativity hurts yourself on some level because another human’s experience comes with different concerns. If I considered that person’s emotional baggage first before anything else, I’d be stuck unchanged, and taken for granted. Learning from the hurt will make me stronger and shape me into a new person that I am capable of becoming. The answer to the question is yes I’ve got real expectations towards dating and future partnership.

[Screenwriter]

I'm not perfect and I don't expect someone else to be.

Want someone who's funny, good, compassionate, kind. Has good energy, likes the outdoors, gardening, taking care of their home, their car. Can dress well, when it's called for. Knows how to fix a few things, as I do too!

Someone who has broad interests, cares for what's going on at home and in the world. A renaissance person, I guess. I think that's moderate and reasonable. Someone who reads, thinks, considers.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Only for a hook up I say moderate but if I actually have a romantic relationship I would want to have the best girl, I ain't the one who looks for mediocre. Also it is hypothetical how some people attack men for having standards but they don't do the same for women.


Me a man who is aiming to be a success is looking for a woman who is also successful. My girl don't need a high paying career like me but she better pull her own weight, I ain't going to be doing all of the work while she only stay at home and watch tv.

[Ailaw22]

I don't think of having high expectations from a partner like be my best friend , lover , porn star everything in one person.

Just a strong attraction good mutual understanding can't expect from one person to play the role of what everybody is providing me till date.

[Rob17792]

none because you're only setting up for failure and you can't have somebody act the way you want them to since each person is their own individual self. it's pointless and foolish to expect somebody to live up to your own expectations it's only setting yourself and that other person up for failure. Go in situations with a clear and open mind and wait and see what happens

[worldscolide]

Dunno. I expect her to be intelligent, capible to taking care of her self, not because I won't take care of her, but more because I want a partner, not someone who I have to supervise constantly.

I want her to be honest, caring, compassionate, have a life, hobbies, goals, and some kind of future planned.

Of course she must be both physically attractive as well as mentally attractive (personality)


But I already have all of this in my wife.

[libsaretards]

Let me put it on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being unreasonably high. On that scale and compared to women my age in general and how my generation acts, my guess is my standards are about an 8.5/10

[maggie_c]

My expectations: that I will be respected, loved, my partner will not be silent about his feelings and will talk to me. And if he is not satisfied with something, I expect him to discuss it with me.

[GoldenAxer]

I guess extremely high but only for a lifelong partner, like my wife. And my standards are more about "us" and less about "her". I have abnormally high standards for things like mutual compatibility, trust, and communication.

[TremorJay]

High expectations are not a bad thing, as long as they are matched with high levels of support

[qwert1234]

Pretty high but different.
I prefer her to have a good paying job, educated and not that clingy aka independent.

[FilmGuy93]

My expectations are moderately high. I don't have many requirements, but those requirements must be met.

[Commander_Shepard]

Quite high maybe. I need a girl who likes to take care of me just as much as I like to care after her.
Her knowing what she wants and not being a ho also helps.

[Jamie05rhs]

Not high at all. She just has to be a nice person and not be an alcoholic, shopaholic, drug addict, smoker, or gambler.

[Iron_Man]

Once they are my official partner it’s pretty high and I expect excellence and for it to continue to be that way because that’s my wife my every day partner and I’m a no nonsense guy when it comes to that

[Veronica21]

Very high to the point where i start thinking of having his babies

[Chthou95]

I'm not like woman. My standards aren't high. She doesn't have to be perfect. Average looking with a nice personality im on board

[Ironic_Method]

Very high. I don't settle, but I do give people chances to be the best versions of themselves.

[Browneye57]

What exactly is an 'expectation'?
You think they're going to 'complete you'? LOL

[Anonymous]

I'm just asking for a kind, caring guy who has an awesome chemistry with me

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

It heaven type of high...

[pretyyygirl]

Not unrealistically high but pretty high