Found out my boyfriend is deleting messages between him and other gals?

[Anonymous]

I was going through my bfs phone because lately he’s been kinda shady... his phone is honestly too clean in my opinion. Until i saw his snap chats best friends list and it didn’t match his recent messages on snap chat. And i clicked on the chats to make sure they were recent. If it weren’t for that best friends list on Sc i wouldn’t been able to find out that i was right about him deleting.. what are other ways that give away signs like this like on Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, iMessage etc? I kinda want to speak up but at the same time i wanna see how far he’d go.
Thanks y'all!

[Michael49]

Tbh if you are in a relationship that you feel the need to snoop through his phone you are in a toxic relationship. You should have asked him if its ok if the two of you sit down and scroll through these sites so if you have a question like the one you posted he can have a chance to explain why he has deleted some messages, instead all you are left with is more questions. If he refuses to go through this with you then i believe your distrust is warranted and makes him more shady.

[Asker]

Honestly we aren’t even that type of relationship. I never find the need to go through his phone but like i said lately he’s been shady which is weird. It’s not a toxic relationship because this all together isn’t usual at all. I don’t even know the ins and outs of the social platforms because of how much off the phone time i get spending time with him.

[Asker]

This one time happened a long time ago and i was hoping that wasn’t the case this time. But i never continued that problem ever. We squashed it

[Asker]

I think because of the last problem (which was so long ago) he stays on his toes with his phone but i didn’t think it would be to this extent

[Michael49]

Well in that case the only opinion I have is follow your instincts. They are usually right. I just hope it doesn’t lead you down a rabbit hole of uncertainty. Good luck!!!

[Asker]

Thanks, i mean for a fact there are deleted messages between him and other girls. I just would hate to find out myself that they are just friends and blah blah blah

[Michael49]

If they were just friends i would think he wouldn’t delete them. That way if you ever found out he would be able to show you the context of the messages. in my opinion the only reason to delete them would be to hide what they were chatting about. Lmao on the “blah blah blah” part. Is that what us guys sound like when we are trying deflect shady suspicions?

[Asker]

Exactly what i was thinking! I don't know if this is worth something to break over with because there isn’t any concrete evidence.. and yesss that’s how y’all sound because I’ve heard it all from my ex’s

[Michael49]

It is human nature to protect yourself especially if you had to deal with guys who have cheated or deceitful in the past. I guess i am lucky that i realized when i was still a kid that i am the world’s worst liar so i don’t even pretend i can talk my way out of anything and just tell the truth when asked. So just a heads up: Never ask me to help u rob a bank cuz i will dime us both out. Lol

[Michael49]

Thanks for the MHO

[TheGuyInJs]

I completely agree with @Michael49 on this one a piller of relationship is trust and take it away it will fall