I've found out that my girlfriend had casual sex with almost every man in our neighborhood before starting our relationship. How can I handle this?

[Anonymous]

Since we started dating, about 3 years ago, I noticed some very strange glaze from other men. We both know most of them, because they are from our neighborhood, so when some of them talked to her they looked at me with certain despise. This kept happening during all this time, until last week, I went to a mini market owned by a man way older than me, and while chatting he asked me if I am in love with her. When I told him that, yes, indeed I am, he asked me how long did I chase her. I replied him the truth, that I did for a long time because she was very hard to convince, so there he started laughing, telling me that both him and his brother had fucked her and that everybody he knew had sex with her in the past and that she was quite easy to convince. I was furious and attacked him, but some random guys who entered the shop stopped me. I was shocked, I couldn't imagine my girlfriend with all those douchebags, so at night I asked her about the certainty of all that and she told me, crying, that yes, she had a very turbious sexual past and she had sex with almost all of them.
Now, I think that I really love her, I've always felt good with her, but at the same time I feel humiliated, not because of her experiences but because I feel everybody is mocking of me when they see me with her. I thought about the possibility of moving to another city with her and start from zero, without the pressure of being surrounded by people who had sex with her.

[hahahmm]

1. If she was whoring with every dude in the neighborhood it's unlikely she switched to being loyal to you on day one. She was probably a sex addict.
2. It's not unheard of for a woman to be whoring with dude (s) who just want sex while pretending to be a nun with that guy who treats her with respect. You wanted that type of woman... and you got it. You just didn't know you were getting a time share.
3. Get STDs tested.
4. Make sure she's hasn't been cheating since you've been together.
5. It's probably just jealousy on the part of the guy who tried to make fun of you. If he was banging her now he wouldn't have spoken to you. If he was trying to save you from getting into a bad relationship he would have spoke up 3 years ago.. and without mocking you.
6. Feel lucky/blessed that she didn't discover she was pregnant a few months into your relationship. You'd have way more issues to think about now if that were the case.

The main thing I'd be wondering is how likely is it she goes back to being a sex addict or is she still one. See #4.

[apokolips]

My guy, you don't take her serious after that information. Men don't wanna pay full price for something that others got for damn near free. You are paying full price by giving her a long term relationship, but In the past, other men easily got in her pants for almost no effort at all. Think about that.
Have you yet asked yourself why you had to put in way more effort to convince her but these men got it easily? It's like buying a car for 100K but then you come to know that other people before you have bought the same car for like 10K.

Women that have a sexual past like that come with a lot of baggage and are more likely to cheat. Woman have way more options when it comes to dating. Therefore they have way more options to cheat. And if you're telling yourself that she hasn't cheated on you in these three years, I suggest you to rethink. It's up to you to make a decision now.

Also, you should never, ever move places because of a girl. Alright? Respect yourself, brother.

[MadinaHasABensheer]

Ohhh honey. You do love her because i didn't read anything about leaving her or breaking up with her after finding out her past. You should move to another city. You both love each other and i can see that you're willing to start a new fresh life with her despite knowing her past. 💕 you should move. It might be the best decision.

[Hangry06]

If you were chasing her for a long time, shouldn't you have known what kind of a girl she was?
Just seems impossible that it's just you who didn't know this

I once saw a hentai like it. Doesn't end well for the guy

[Asker]

She was very careful about her personal life. The problem is that those guys seems they talk a lot each other about their sexual achievements I've always been a very itroverted guy, with just a couple of friends who are like me, so I've never been able to know what others did. I guess the fact that I'm this type of person makes them be so aggressive towards me

[Hangry06]

That kinda makes sense. But most promiscuous people aren't that private.
Besides like someone said better to check if she was faithful once you got into the relationship.

[bolverk]

STD test ASAP,

Leave ASAP or if the house flat is in your name throw her out and change the locks, get prepared to leave if it is a shared rental, she is using you as her 'Safe Harbour',

Lock out financials and immediate credit lock, change all the password to your devices (social media accounts etc) and bank accounts as she might try to open credit cards bank accounts in your name the immediate credit lock will flag this to the banks and card companies,

If you have a joint account (you should not have one except for household bills) change any payments going into it set up a new account that she has no knowledge about If she has access to a debit/credit card drawn on any accounts that are yours have your bank card company block them , go NC if no children, LN if children are involved, record ALL interactions with girlfriend preferably with neutral third party present.

[devilish-cutie]

i mean, in the end you got her, not them, have that mentality
they may had sex w her but they never had her heart

[Asker]

I agree, but I feel bullied by these people. Read my description and you'll see what has happened.

[devilish-cutie]

i read it, so u gonna let them ruin what you guys have? fucktheir opinon

[bamesjond0069]

Read my post for more clarification but be doesn't have her heart. Just none of the men she was actually attracted to wanted her probably because she's a slut. So she found a introvert man she can take advantage of who would take her. He obviously hardly turns her on if he had to work a long time to get sex when she was banging random men the whole time.

[devilish-cutie]

@bamesjond0069 I said my opinion. You dont know this guy or if he also slept w tons of women. You also dont know if this woman changed and really loves this man or what her reasons were for sleeping with so many man. By that logic none of those men she slept with are worth any girls time cause they sleep withsluts. Anyways, he obviously stated he loves her and that this isn't a dealbreaker for him to break up.

[bamesjond0069]

Whether he slept with tons of girls or not is irrelevant. Although in another comment he said he didn't. So she found some poor sap who is terrible with girls, the only one who got all pussywhipped over her.

[devilish-cutie]

@bamesjond0069 how his experience doesn't matter but her does? And besides he is an adult man that can make choices for himself. He knows the facts and chooses to stay with her.

[bamesjond0069]

Because we are talking about her. If he was a murderer how would it be relevant on judgeing her if she now commits a murder? she's bad... but but but he also murdered... ok and? Thats totally irrelevant. We are talking about her and if she's someone he should be with.

[devilish-cutie]

@bamesjond0069 murder comparisson cannot be applied here, in any case its hypocritical to judge someone for something you did ysf. And there is no need to discuss if they should be together when its clear he wants to be with her. He asked how to deal w her past not shall he leave her

[bamesjond0069]

Well either way he didn't sleep around. So this is irrelevant. She was being a hobag. Everyone is laughing at and making fun of this man. If he has literally any self respect he isn't going to just hide his poor actions of being with someone so terrible and he will do the hard thing and break up with her and find someone who respects herself and him.

[devilish-cutie]

@bamesjond0069 i personally wouldn't date a man that sleeps around or has kids. But some people dont mind that, who are we to judge their choice? Besides we dont know details of their relationship and its generally hard to find someone you even really get along as a person, not to mention love. He says he loves her, maybe he won't ever love another that way again. People make mistakes, noone is perfect and if she was good to him, her past might not matter.

[bamesjond0069]

Her past matters a lot if he is considering moving because of it.

[Asker]

I've always had sex within relationships, never casual sex. I have nothing against it, but it's not my thing. Her past doesn't matter a lot, what matters is the attitude of those guys towards me

[bamesjond0069]

Yeah i think you're just lying to yourself. Either be proud you have the girl of your dreams or be ashamed of her. Its nonsensical that you are totally fine with her past yet are embarrassed other people think her past is bad. you're not being honest here. If people laughed at me because i eat tacos for lunch why would i care? Now if people laughed at me for eating dog shit id be embarrassed i did such a thing. you're only humiliated because deep down you know its humiliating, otherwise you would stand tall and proud and not care one bit.

[boggboss]

Either u move get over it or break up the choice is yours

[Asker]

If you read the description of my question, you'll see that my problem is not her past, but the fact that the guys she had sex with bully me constantly about the fact that I've taken her seriously. Last week I was almost in a fight with one of them because he told me that both him and his brother had sex with her easily while I tried several months until dating her because she was very hard to get. Said that, I have no problem with her past because I know that she loves me and I love her, too. My problem is with these people. I've lived the greatest part of my life in the same neighborhood and if I keep living there I'm afraid that this bullying will keep happening indefinitely

[boggboss]

I did read it my comment still stands more likely then not situations like this will continue to happen

[Asker]

Thank you!!!

[Neilbud]

Tough one. I wouldn't do anything rash, you definitely want to talk to her more about it, several times. But time will tell what happens. Everyone makes mistakes, but your feelings matter too. Also try to think less about what they think and more about what you want out of life.

[bamesjond0069]

Your girl is a slut. Just end it is really the best option. She also was very disrespectful to you, why did she fuck some man she just met but made you chase her a long time? Its because she thinks you're a piece of shit. Why is she with you then? Because all the men who hit it know she's a slut and wouldn't accept her as a girlfriend, just you.

[Agape93]

You suck it up and get over it, or you leave her. It's not hard.

[Otakugeek]

Dump her
she cheated your better off to find someone else who won’t lie and. Trust

once a cheater always a cheater
Those tears are fake it’s a tactic woman use.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

She didn't cheat in this story, she had sex with them before they started dating.

[Otakugeek]

@Ez-Bri-Z oh

[Yahall0]

it's great to start everything from beginning focus on how can you enjoy every min of your life with her that's all matters

[ChiPaPa]

Well, if it's that much of a big deal for you, end it.

[REDHOTLINE]

Past is past my dude. If you can't deal it. End it.

[Anonymous]

Accept that she is a sexual being with her own needs.

[bamesjond0069]

That sounds like something a cuckold would say.

[Anonymous]

Get over it it happened before you 2 were even in a relationship so she hasn’t done anything wrong like she hasn’t cheated on you if you can’t get over it than break up with her so she can find someone that won’t have an issue with it

[Asker]

Did you read the whole description of my question? If you did, then why do you accuse me of "jealousy"?

[Anonymous]

I would feel like a goof... I dated a girl with a high body count and it bugs me knowing how many dudes slept with her

[Anonymous]

Oh man, not my kind of girl.

[billmunch]

Just act casual.