If Cheating Was A "Punishable Offense" What Form Of Punishment Would You Choose For Cheaters?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

[Nomina]

Not that I condone, promote, encourage or agree with any of the measures that had been taken in the past or that are still taken today - legally - but here's what I found on what used to be done in a few different places: stoning (still done today), the scarlet letter, whipping, prison time, fines, drownings and well... death.

But yeah. Punishment used to be pretty severe. Can't recommend this book enough but A Hangman's Diary shows how extreme punishments were, not just for cheating but other stuff as well.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I liked the suggestions to either brand their forehead with a C or the one that suggested have them in a list, like sexual offenders who have to register on a list, so would cheaters, then you could look and See if that persons on the list

[Nomina]

They all sound psychotic and sadistic to me, I can't get on board with any of them.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

How would putting a cheaters name on a list be sadistic?

[Nomina]

I don't see it as a criminal offense. It's a moral and ethical offense, but not one I would encourage punishing legally.

There's a line there that I wouldn't want crossed into the legal system. I can't exactly tell you what it is, but my gut says "bad idea, that's something that would bite others in the ass later on".

There's a hint Draconian measures in there. What happens if the list doesn't work? What's its purpose actually? To shame or prevent? Does it go on some kind of record? It would have to if it were enforced by the law.
But let's say it does none of that and the cheater continues to find willing and unwitting victims if you want. What then? A list turns to what? A fine? Then maybe some jail time? Then maybe inability to work? Stoning for women who cheat like they do in some countries?
That would go in someone's record. It's not on the same level as going to jail over a joke although many are being jailed for that... but it's close, in my opinion.

Maybe I'm paranoid but I see it as one of those teeny tiny steps to authoritarianism (when you want to involve the law) and a bit telling of a culture that revolves too much on retribution/vengefulness disguised as justice (When you think of it ethically). To me it appeals to people's sadism, machiavellianism... their dark side essentially. I see that many would be happy to go along with ideas like that, as the green light they're waiting for to act on that dark side with the stamp of righteousness on it.

And maybe I'm crazy but even if I were cheated on, I'm not gonna have someone legally punished for having essentially hurt my pride and feelings.

[Lynx122]

This made me think about this Black Mirror episode where they're all trying to get a high social score. In games they have a separate queue sometimes for people who leave games or champ select a lot or are toxic etc. And then you only play with people like yourself. I thought about that but honestly it's probably better if things stay as they are. Isn't learning how to trust and open up in a world that can stab you in the back a big part of life? If we have a system in the future that tells us who the good and bad people are based on reviews or whatever then maybe humans will lose their gut instincts over time ^^

Also here's a random anime opening that I heard today

https://www.youtube.com/embed/oFhwaOiAOKY

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Why shouldn't cheaters pay for the pain and suffering they cause others?

[Lynx122]

Well any system that punished them would be pretty weird in my opinion. If you think about the actual implementation. And I kinda just believe in Karma that people who do stuff like that get what they deserve usually. Also like I said I feel like it's part of life to deal with bad things and bad people.

[Adam1978]

Well before you can decide punishment you need to set the criteria for cheating and how to prove they did it. Is it only for married couples? Otherwise how can you legally claim they are a couple. Since there is no legal contract to be faithful too. Second is cheating to have intercourse with another partner? Because some people thing it cheating to think about another person and that can never be proven in court. Personally I think it's even more scary to have to file a paper trail to the state about all your love affair then deal with cheaters. And I am not a cheater or a person with high body count.

[Some_Goof]

They have to remain celibate for a period of time like 6 month or more.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That would be good idea

[Jamie05rhs]

Incarceration with zero conjugal visits should do the trick.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Jamie05rhs As long as they don't "drop the soap" or they may get unwarned "visiters" 🤣

[Jamie05rhs]

@Brainsbeforebeauty That would be icing on the cake!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Jamie05rhs If you into dudes

[Jamie05rhs]

@Brainsbeforebeauty 😂. No; I meant for us! The people punishing him!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Jamie05rhs Ooohhh okay lololol

[Mofunfour20]

For women 6 months is a long time but for guys thats not really that long. Some guys go five years without. Men dont crave attention the same way women do

[jennifer_bloom]

I would force them to eat raw garlic or a tablespoon of wasabi paste every day or pay the people they cheated on alimony.

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you ever known a cheater who was truly happy with their life?

[Jag555]

That's damn gold

[PunkinAnnieCurtis]

@Jag555 nope

[NathanDavis]

you have to introduce yourself and specify you've been a cheater... to every new person you meet with the intentions of dating

and it would go like it does in the movie Liar Liar... when asked about it, you will be uncapable of lying about it for the next five years... lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Nice!!

[Mangospacho]

Well, obviously they need to be castrated, for starters. If you misuse a car, you get your license taken away. If you misuse a firearm, you also get that taken away. Basically, there should be two options. Either you take the same penalty as First Degree Murder or castration.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I've always said they should castrate rapists and child molesters

[Mangospacho]

Oh. I agree too

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[Mangospacho]

@Brainsbeforebeauty Oh, you know that guy using the fake account was a cheater too.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣 Probably

[Miristheiss]

Banishment from the marriage with nothing. Must move out of the residence. The faithful keeps the residence... cheater gets no equity or share. No alimony, just whatever clothes are furniture or car they came into it with. Their escapades are revealed to everyone, job, friends, family, community.

Be gone

[Shamiah02]

First time they cheat. A 1 yr ban from dating/sneaky links.
2 yr for 2nd offense.
4yr for 3rd offense.
8yr for 4th offense.
Eventually they get it together or die alone🥴

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Nice👍👍

[Shamiah02]

Yes ma'am

[Retiever]

I really don’t know but I would think that being made to remember the people they hurt. Most of the time they don’t have that in them they try to blame it on someone else or something else. They never own up to the people they have especially the children.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

So very true

[PoopyPoop]

Nothing. I'd be the last to cast the metaphorical stone. I'd only do it if I thought they were an immediate danger to society, and I'd still aim the stone directly in a way that would try to kill them as quickly and painlessly as possible.

[PoopyPoop]

Well, one thing I might subscribe to is if there is a sort of counseling or education program that shows high success rates in rehabilitating cheaters into faithful and honest types. Then I might think that's a good idea for a cheater to rehabilitate them.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[PoopyPoop]

To be clear I do not approve of cheaters whatsoever. Their morals or struggles to stick to them (I have my own struggles, but it's not with fidelity) are so different from mine. But I also don't understand them so well and their motivations for cheating as a result. So I cannot assume the role of a god and cast such confident judgment that I would inflict harm on them unless I can almost guarantee that it will have positive effects on society. Cheating is disgusting to me but so is a used car salesman peddling junk and making it sound reliable only to break down soon after purchase. Laws often have some perverse side effects. The more practical solution I see which doesn't involve any violence is emphasizing a greater need to raise consumer awareness. Shop smart.

[AviatorTom]

Having to deal with your spouse is usually punishment enough, especially if it ends in divorce.

In history, many forms of punishment have been used:
For women: chastity belt, death by stoning
For men: castration, death by stoning

I'm not suggesting any of those punishments be resurrected.

[Kaneki05]

Burn them with iron rod which has a C carved onto it so then it goes on there forehead. Then everyone knows they are a cheater.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Not a bad idea👍 cuz most cheaters won't tell the new person in their life they cheated on the last one... This way they couldn't lie about it

[dustybiker]

Vicious. I like that one.

[Kaneki05]

I didn't want it to be too extreme, because at the end of day i do think a cheater can grow and learn why that was wrong and not make the same error by admitting they made that mistake. Which a lot won't, and this would make them have to hopefully make them change for the better.
And if not well it lows the chance of them getting away with cheating since everyone would know and then cheaters could also just get together really and sort something out that way.

If it was prison or mutilation well i don't think it would help those learn. And not to downplay cheating cause of course it's really bad, But it's not on the level of rape and other things that i would deem unforgiveable and would for deserve these such things and not given a chance.

[jasco]

Honestly their isn't really a punishment that could stop cheating. I mean being caught and being made fun of would be a great punishment but other than that their isn't really a punishment out their for it

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

There user who said they should be put on as list, that's a great idea.. Might not stop people from cheating, but it would stop them from being able to lie to, hurt the next person they try to get with

[jasco]

Yea changing your name or simply making a fake profile could change that. As long as you don't say your real name your good. Unless you put a picture of him/her but even than theirs always people who aren't capable of using technology to the fullest. Some people don't know how to.

[t-8900]

Well you could put a brand on their forehead 😜 😂

[jasco]

@t-8900 yea try doing that and see how it gets ya

[t-8900]

What do you mean?

[jasco]

@t-8900 freedom for americans anyway is something that they take very seriously. Not sure of any other country but i highly doubt anyone would want that, plus what if that person change. Everyone knows he/she is a cheater so we can't know for sure

[t-8900]

Well you know the saying "can't do the time, don't do the crime". Plus Americans are letting. ore freedom slip through their grasp with each passing day. I'd wager most would give up their freedom for materials and safety at this point

[jasco]

@t-8900 to each their own

[Anonymous]

Solitary confinement. Not allowed to leave home. No access to porn or lotion or vibrators. Nada. Zip, zero, zilch. No social media. Work, eat, sleep, repeat. Exercise too LMAO.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

There you go!!👍👍

[Opinion Owner]

I'm glad you agree!!! You break trust. It's a wrap. I can't handle it.

[Mortdikeuu]

A day with alec baldwin and a trolley of prop guns.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Damn that's cold🤣

[Jamie05rhs]

Damn.

[Jamie05rhs]

Honestly, a little too soon, though.

[Mortdikeuu]

@Jamie05rhs you're right to be fair. I was just in a stupid mood

[Jamie05rhs]

@Mortdikeuu You're fine; don't worry. :)

[Wester1967]

They all need to be put on a gulag planet and let them scam each other to death for the rest of their lives

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sounds good👍👍 they could call it Cheatersville🤣

[NicoletteXO]

The experience of the pain their actions caused their partner x 3.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍👍

[AndrewMG]

I remember hearing either a question or a suggestion that said if a man cheats he should lose an inch of his penis... I mean even without cheating I'm dangerously close to negative figures! lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I thought milk was good for bones, guess that doesn't apply to boners🤣🤣

[AndrewMG]

Lol!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😁😁

[AndrewMG]

Milk has calcium so helps bones but alcohol is a depressant so on one hand it gives and on the other hand it takes! lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Lololol

[Spookydood]

Odd question, but let the punishment fit the crime. First offenders should get a wrist slap like no sexual contact for a week or two. Maybe a known cheater should be made to stay celibate for a year or so per offense.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Chopping their dicks and tits off sounds pretty good to me.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I've always said rapists and child molesters should be castrated.. I like the user's answer who said brand a C on their forehead... Or the user who said put them on a list.. They'd have to register as a cheater kinda like a sex offender does.. That way people could look them up and see they're a cheater before getting involved with them.. Most cheaters don't admit that's what they are, they just keep lying to more and more people...

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Branding is good. Scarlet letter their asses. Cheaters seldom ever take responsibility. They just the people they cheat on and make it seen like it's their fault. Cowards.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Right!! Never their fault, always someone else's fault🙄🤦

[Ginevra1998]

Any cheater should have a huge tattoo on his leg that says he is a cheater.
For me if a guy cheats on me I would make sure his nuts and his broken nose remember it till the rest of his life. And before you say what if it was the other way around, I would totally accept and deserve such a punishment if I cheat, which I would never do

[ChiPaPa]

If in a marriage, they lose the case and any claim to the other's assets.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[Better_off_here]

i would say they need to be castrated in some way. or maybe put in jail maybe serve like 6 months in jail for cheating you would most likely think different about doing it again.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[t-8900]

Public humiliation and if the spouse wants a divorce you MUST pay alimony to them and they automatically get the kids. You can visit them on the weekends if you behave.

[Laura456]

Make them have a tattoo on their wrist with the word cheater

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Not a bad idea

[DCooper]

Okay, so I actually took the time to find, clip, and upload that dude from Memphis Street Outlaws just for a tongue-in-cheek response... Well, I'll probably use it for a bunch of future tongue-in-cheek responses too :)

https://www.youtube.com/embed/_LizoG63Uww

[Anonymous]

Find some way to permanently remove their enjoyment of sex and to be at the beck and call of their spouse for the rest of their life and be unable to refuse any legal order. That would be a minimum I'm sure I could come up with some other ways of making their lives miserable.

[Jonny59]

well I think maybe 1 to 5 year prison so people think before cheating

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[collie22]

a good punishment i think would be a good swift kick in the crotch!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[collie22]

glad you agree

[Dragonpurple]

I'd say they should end up with someone just like them. Someone they can never trust that WILL cheat on them.

[imfreeze95]

Are they Married if so they should be able to be divorced immediately without consequences to the faithful spouse

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍👍

[Dragonpurple]

I agree with that concept but in reality, they start accusing each other of cheating... as cheaters themselves often suspect their spouse is doing exactly what they are.

Then how would the court know who cheated, especially if there is no hard evidence.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Dragonpurple But a lot of times there is proof, or evidence

[Dragonpurple]

@Brainsbeforebeauty I know of a case where the guy hired a PI to track his wife, even had recordings of her going into a hotel room for several hours with this other guy.

Thrown out in court, as it was not definitive that they actually had sex or anything. They could of just been hanging out talking is what her attorney said. So unless there was a illegal video recording of them in the room, it was not enough.

As a result the judge changed it to irreconcilable differences rather than adultery in the divorce in order to proceed.

I suppose someone could have a recording in their own house that might work.

Cheating is also subjective, emotional cheating or physical cheating. Should someone be punished for emotional cheating even if nothing physical ever happens?

I tend to think of cheating as the physical part, the other is pretty tough to prove.

[Juan_Curious]

I would obligate them to divorce and make them offer free sexual service to the community for the sexually needed ones: the Women for the Men, and the Men for the Women.

[TonyMetal___86]

Send them to my cave so i feed them to my hungry saber tooth cats 😈 🦁

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣🤣 you sure you ain't gonna make broasted chicken or of them🤣🤣🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

"King Tony, why does this chicken taste weird"🤣🤣

[TonyMetal___86]

Cause it's made from cheaters's meat, damn even their meat is awful 🤢

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Aha ha ha yeah that's cuz it's "spoiled meat"🤣🤣

[TonyMetal___86]

@Brainsbeforebeauty yeah i saw that spongt forehead and i said who's this b*tch trying to pick on the all mighty sweet lady 😁

I saw her profile so i report it and they said that this user's account has been deactivated!

He or she are just a troll who wants some attention claiming that your a guy with a fake pink account, when i read that i laughed 🤣🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

It's funny people do that when there's a female user on here that has met me in real life, has been to my house, has met my kids... So I actually have proof I'm real 🤣🤣
Pretty sure it's because of a post yesterday by someone with multiple accounts and me and another user called it out, and I reported that account, and then this lololol just childish people lolol

[TonyMetal___86]

I know that your real spongy forehead, especially when i'll bite your jello forehead 😬

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Quit picking on my forehead.. I can't help it's big cuz have a big brain🤣🤣

[TonyMetal___86]

That's for sure and that's why your miss BRAINS muffins 😂

If you didn't have this big spongy forehead maybe i wouldn't have liked you this much 😁

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Lolol

[Likes2drive]

Sign on the lawn seems good, my ex wife would have been humiliated

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

She cheated? Sorry to hear that

[Likes2drive]

Yeah and got married again 2 weeks after the divorce

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Oh wow.. that was fast

[Likes2drive]

Yeah she knew him for quite awhile

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Then you're better off without someone like that

[Likes2drive]

Yeah but didn’t think I would be alone for so long while she is in a house on her third marriage and moved along like it was nothing

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sorry🤗🤗

[Screenwriter]

Wear a T shirt with the Scarlet "C" on it EVERYWHERE for a YEAR!!!

[Screenwriter]

Oh, and be kept in isolation and re-education camps for that year!!! ahahahahahaah

[hammeronfire]

I want both of my cheating exes tk have the word cheater tattooed on them

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Right!!

[roy_ricky09]

To stay away 100 feet from opposite sex... 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😂😂 and no sex, has to wear a chastity device lolol

[roy_ricky09]

Oh yea. That too. :D :D :D :D :D

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[bruno17707]

Wouldn't be a problem in you are gay lol

[Shizunk]

Any actual mechanism to punish cheaters would open the doors to abuse against people who didn't cheat. I am not a fan of punishment as some sort of a solution to the problem. And vengeful thinking also doesn't seem to have many benefits.

[TheAfrikan]

For women chopping off there Boobs lol.
For men chopping off there dicks.

[Jonny59]

I think ur being too brutal haha

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Jonny59 Like cheating on people, destroying their trust isn't brutal? But selfish people don't think about that aspect of cheating, do they 🤷

[tiajoka]

A free breast reduction? Sign me up! 😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@tiajoka 🤣🤣

[EaterPeter]

Depends on the type of cheating and numbers of strikes.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Welcome

[horsenrhinounicorn]

Be put on a list of Registered Cheating Offenders. When they change their name they must be re-registered. Dating sites require Identification and required to search the registered cheating offenders list and label them.

[Custard505]

Men get their penis run over by a steam roller women get maggots poured into their vagina and both face silent treatment from their friends a families for two weeks.

[coolcactus]

that just sounds like a good time for women

[CHadwww]

@coolcactus but the woman can get the maggot removed while the guy will be dickless how is this a fair punishment

[Jlegacy]

Writing a letter of apology to 1000 ladies with 5000 words as minimum.

[Anonymous]

It is a crime for men to cheat on their wife in many states. Unfortunately, in those same states, it isn’t a crime or illegal for women to cheat on their husband. That is double standards and sexism. It should either be illegal for both genders to cheat, or it should not be illegal for either genders to cheat. And if there is a punishment for cheating, gender should not play a factor in how severe the punishment will be.

[genericname85]

They should be legally obligated to tell people on the first date and have an increasing fine every time they don't.

Of course I mean cheating in a marriage. Not like when you're boyfriend and girlfriend that doesn't mean shit.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I would disagree.. Cheating is cheating whether you're married or in a long term committed relationship. If you promise to be monogamous/faithful to one person and lie/go behind their back to have sex with others it's still the same and still cheating

[genericname85]

A promise is not a legally binding contract

[genericname85]

If you want to involve the legal system, you gotta abide by it's rules. Meaning there has to be a contract that abides by the laws of your area that has to be signed by both parties and then in case of a violation, you'd have to proof that they violated the contract for any legal actions to be possible.

But if you try to do all that, i don't think any sane guy would wanna date you xD cause relationships should be fun and not bureaucratic... If you wanna get serious about it, that's what we have marriage for and there cheating is already punishable...

[CaptainOverthink]

I would have a register for such matters where it would be be logged for the public to see.

But I don't think its anyone's business really. I wouln't support such a law.

[Anonymous]

Automatic uncontested divorce for the spouse of the cheater, if that spouse desires it.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[Anonymous]

Life in solitary confinement prison with no chance of parole.

[Exterminatore]

Cleaning the floors and toilets of public restrooms and highway rest stops with a toothbrush for a lengthy period of time.


I’m of the opinion if you want to act like a turd you should hang out where turds are.

[HighValue]

If they are married and have kids together, the unfaithful one should be put to death. Only with video and audio evidence though.

[king-dom1]

I've never really cheated on anything in life to be honest, iguess when playing video games but nothing in the real world, if i win something I want it to be a genuine win, that shows I'm capsule of accomplishing my goals.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍I more mean when a person cheats on their partner

[king-dom1]

Oh, my bad ha, well uve never cheated but a good punishment would be for people around to know he cheated, so other people wouldn't be so interested in him or her anymore

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Right!!!

[SaoirseS]

Just kick him to the curb. He’s not worth the time and effort to “punish.”

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Hypothetical question as there's lots of posts about cheating on here

[SaoirseS]

Ah ok. Well I could go full crazy with ideas on that one then. Scarlet C? Nah, too cliche.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

But effective lolol

[SaoirseS]

Make the cheater listen to the Baby Shark song for 4 hours every day for a year.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

,🤣🤣🤣 that's extremely cruel LMAO

[SaoirseS]

Yes, devilishly so! I wonder if that would violate the constitutional prohibition against cruel and unusual punishment.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

For me it would.. I can't stand that song, 🤣🤣 too bad my grandson loved it😱

[Mofunfour20]

A man has to leave a woman that cheats on him. isn't that the usual consequence since She's mentally invested in another man.

[GoldenCage]

That's a dangerous proposition.. I don't think there should be punishment other than what currently exists in divorce courts.

[Visionary7]

The cheater has to pay a fine to the one they cheated on

[Robh55]

Infidelity is a publishable offense in a lot of states... just not enforced.

[DJB72]

In general every guy and girl I met who cheated was unhappy about who they are

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Is that an excuse to make others unhappy though?

[Seinna]

A visible tattoo branding them as a cheater.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[Jaximus-Lion]

I mean! Either hepatitis B or herpes 🤷‍♂️. 🤣🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍🤣

[PAcc92]

Just leave them? Why is this so hard.

They've made it clear they're incapable of commitment so just leave.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah but that doesn't do the cheater from doing it to the next person does it

[magiusX26]

find a way so that such cheaters feel that edge of horniness at all times but can not reach orgasm even from masturbation for some appropriate length of time.

[magiusX26]

trying to figure out what has been updated. got a notification that you updated this question but nothing new is hete.

[Alexa99]

By when you look them up In profile have cheater. Pay fines to the the person they cheated on.

[Mofunfour20]

So the relationship ends up amounting in money? You could just leave, most people would be upset having to pay their ex a fine. Not very safe