Why someone that loves you just going to leave you for long distance?

[Anonymous]

We only have 1 hours of distance (with plane) he just start up saying "It's been a year i want you to here with me" "If you can come here we can continue this relationship but if not we can stay as friends" "Don't give me vain hopes" "Even just for a hour come here" "Stop agonize yourself" "There isn't another girl if there was this relationship wouldn't last longer" etc. etc. i know he's in this mode because he's sad and i plan to go there when i finish university and there is only 3 years left for me to finish university, I'm trying tell him to this but he's not listening me

[DaveJord]

Long distance relationships are tough, I am pretty honest and upfront with ladies I meet. And that is that I keep long distance relationships casual. I don't see myself ever getting serious, falling in love with,, or being in a committed relationship with anyone I can't see more than a few times a month.

Thats what you're man is saying to you, he tried and its not working. If he finds another women he will pursue it... so he looking and honestly being a good man by telling you upfront before straight cheating.

[horatiohornblower]

Well, if he wants to live in the same area as you so much. Why do you have to move and screw up college?

[Asker]

I'm not planning to move there just planning to visit him actually he was the one who thinking to move the area i live months ago he was planning to live in his aunt house until he founds a great job i even remind this things to him but he's still saying "I can't stand long distance anymore let's just end the relationship"

[horatiohornblower]

Well, that's all on him. As it'll be easier for him to find a job where you live and get an apartment. Than for you to move and transfer to a new college. Because that causes a whole mess of transferring credits and getting bumped late in the list of choosing classes. Making you get a crappy schedule. If you can even get all the correct courses you need that semester. Possibly having to repeat something because some credits wouldn't transfer.

If he really wanted to. He'd find a way to make it happen. Of course to go through all of that. You two would have to see very long term relationship or marriage in the future. To make all that hassle worthwhile. If you don't see that. I'd just end it.

[Asker]

Yes like you say i told similar things to him the only things he say was "I don't have money to came there and i know you don't have too but and my aunt is not letting me live with her because of my father but if we're still talking in future we can be together again" and he said some stuff like i wouldn't go to another women bla bla

[Asker]

I would wait him actually but i feel like hope and happiness inside me just died

[horatiohornblower]

He works right now right? You said he found a great job. So, he isn't a total pauper.

He could just cut all his expenses to the bare minimum for a few months. Such as, making all his food, not drinking booze, no going out on the town with friends, dropping all his subscriptions, &c. Saving up his money.

Then look for jobs in your area and do video interviews.

Toss everything he has in storage. Then hop on a train and stay in a fleabag motel for a few weeks while he finds an apartment. Heck, you could even be looking for an apartment for the two of you. While he's busy saving money and looking for work.

Anyways, where there's a will there's a way.

[Asker]

No he's actually in the last 2 years of his college but he was saying things like "I would find a way to find a great job" but for now it just seems like he just wants to have a break or something like that I don't know anymore

[horatiohornblower]

Oh, didn’t know he was in college too. He’s probably just drifting away. Wants to see someone near him.

[Sam_The_Savage]

Honey it's just a hour traveling..
If you were my girl I can travel every month to see my girl after all she is my priority. 😘❤️