It's kind of pointless. It doesn't matter if my girlfriend looks at other people because in the end I know she's going to cheat on me eventually. It doesn't matter if your boyfriend or girlfriend looks at other people because eventually he or she will eventually leave you because someone else is much more handsome or gorgeous than you in a relationship. It seems people can't stay with one person and chooses to have multiple love interest at once. I blame Joseph Smith for all this, he is the reason why polygamy became a such a popular and terrible thing to do while trying to have a relationship with someone. Instead of him just sticking to one woman, he prefer to have 4 or 5 of them in a relationship or in a marriage. Apparently in some men's Minds, why have one woman when you can have more than one. This is why people like me can't find a decent person to fall in love with knowing that there will always be someone else much more beautiful or handsome then you causing your partner to leave you and find someone else who can live up to that expertise even when the person you are in a relationship is trying their hardest but their lover is still not satisfied no matter what you do. I hate Love sometimes. It seemed to just staying single and dying alone if the only way your heart can be saved instead of trying to find someone.
Yeah, I’m fine with it. It’s usually celebrities, not real life people, but I’m secure enough to know she’s not going anywhere. That prettyboy white kid in Cobra Kai, the one who looks like a grunge kid from ‘94 time traveled to 2018 or whenever season 1 was…. she always says how, if she were younger, she would have been into him. That’s obviously code for “he’s hot but 15 years younger than me so I don’t feel like I can fully acknowledge it”, lmao, and I don’t care. I’m usually like “you want me to leave you alone for a few minutes? Should I hit the lights on the way out?”😝
Bottom line: it’s wildly unrealistic to think someone will be attracted to you and only you. That’s not the same thing as loyalty and fidelity and all that. There’s certainly a point where it could become disrespectful, but that point is at a place most people aren’t going to take it to anyway. So I wouldn’t worry about it if it’s just looking, unless it’s like shameless ogling, haha. But just a quick check-out…. that’s just guys being guys, or really just humans being human, but maybe dudes do it a little more. “Look but don’t holler”, you know?👍
No, you're not wrong. Straight men are designed to find women attractive. This doesn't change just because they're in a relationship with one. The only time to start getting annoyed is if they start obviously looking at other women, not caring if you notice, and basically having a lack of respect for the relationship and your feelings. My b/f is always checking out other women. He thinks I don't notice, and he tries to hide it, and that's fine by me. The only time he can't hide it is if he's sitting around in his dressing gown after a shower, and someone he fancies appears on the TV, at which point it's kind of impossible not to notice the large obvious indicator. When that happens I just laugh.
No. That would be extremely hypocritical. I do catch myself looking at other guys but there's nothing to it. I feel nothing. I do think other men are attractive, because I'm human, but I will never be attracted to other guys like I am my boyfriend. Of course he too would find other women attractive. It's a little worrying if someone feels like they have to supress their human nature just to not upset a partner. Attraction is normal and harmless. As long as It's not acted upon while in a relationship.
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I would feel the same, don't get me wrong, I know that there will be other people out there that are taller than me, better looking than me, have better hair, better physique, but I would say there is a difference between looking and desire. They can look at them long but if they are desiring it then that becomes tricky because intention changes. So it's okay to not feel okay and get mad, but it is also one of those issues where you can't really help it or else you come off as controlling and insecure, as long as you know their intentions are nothing bad then, no harm in it, but also acceptable to feel how you feel, I think anybody would feel that.
I have my mother to thank for this little piece of wisdom she taught me: "Just because check them out doesn't mean I want to be with them."
And it makes sense. I can look at a piece of art, a nice car, a beautiful house and like them, but that doesn't mean I want to buy them. So why can't the same be for people. Based on that no, I don't mind nor care if my partner finds other people attractive because I do the same.
Now if me or my partner acted on that attraction, then that is crossing the line.
It’s like a loyal fan of a singer, they could love the singer and their music but still find other music cool or nice to listen to. It’s a matter of seeing more things and not a matter of loyalty, because as long as they are loyal to that singer than they won’t let go of their music. It works with people too. If someone loves/likes someone else, them looking at other people is common, it actually helps. For if a person listens to more music it will increase their tastes and understand of the music.
You're not the only good looking person on the planet at your partner's eyes. As long as all he does is looking and maybe comment, play along and discuss on the comment he did.
I know I and my partner do this quite regularly, and this lack of absurd jealousy with the added extra of playfulness never made me consider the idea of betraying her ever. Seems like it's the same for her, that, of course, also comments on hot studs crossing our way.
As far as looks go, you might not even be his ideal woman, so of course others could pique his interest.
They did a study, in Germany, that found than men that willfully avert their gaze, to avoid looking at women they found attractive, had spikes in blood pressure from the stress for trying to not look.
Looking isn't touching. We can't help sexual attraction, we can prevent acting on it. As long as he's just looking then I don't see any harm in it.
And while the study was only done on men, as we tend to be more visually oriented when it comes to sexual attraction, I don't see a problem with women looking either.
Any partner of mine is free to look at anyone they find sexually attractive, be it man or woman, because I will be doing the same.
I've caught several boyfriends checking out other women. I try to use it as a method to improve, what is it she has that I do not have. Is it better cloths, is it cause she is dresses all up with make up and I've got comfortable, so I'm not anymore. I study other humans to improve.
If he notices that I noticed him, I will politely state its okay and ask him what he thought. Ge his opinions on it.
I also may check out a nice looking guy or woman on occasion. It doesn't mean I want to be with them over who I'm currently with.
To me it seems weird that people usually think their partner is checking someone out if they just look at them for a short time. It is natural to look at people around you. Are they also checking out a passing dog or cat too? I mean, come on people, just because someone looks at the people around them, that doesn't mean they have any interest in them (sexually or romantically) .
If they are staring or doing something obvious then I could see it being a problem, but too many people think their partner is checking people out when they aren't.
Nope! As long as she's not chasing after them. I told my future ex-fiance right after we started seeing each other that "I'm GONNA look at other girls but, to me, they are just like going to the museum and seeing great works of art. Just something to admire. The point is, I'll look at them but, I'm NOT shopping for a better deal, I'm madly in love with YOU!! NO ONE'S EVER gonna take me away from you!!" And, AMAZINGLY, I HAD 3 other offers!! 2 of them were my previous girlfriend's!!
10 years later, that little mini-bitch started cheating on me!!
A former teacher of mine has a big tattoo of his wife on his arm. He said she is the kind that doesn't cheat or dump.
One day at an assembly hall, filled with companies that had their own oroduct booth and each company hired a model for eye candy to hand oit broucheres of the factory machinery that the assembly was about. Cheapest product was about half a million euros. Our class was there to meet possible employers.
In this event, the teacher said that there is a girl on one booth thats everyones type. I asked him isn't that kinda cheating to notice more atractive women when you are married. He said he will remain loyal to his wife but he is not blind. You will see what I mean when you see her.
Many girl’s check other girls out and say they don’t. Yet, they don’t have to admit they do. Sexiest. Humanity is a sight worth seeing. Just because u look at another individual, doesn’t mean u won’t have intercourse. S e x. Do you as a female have issues of why u feel this way? Consciously or unconsciously? Sometimes, hay, it is okay. Communicate what u want in a sex life or just in a communication relationship. What do u do not enough of? What can u do more in a relationship? What would you like to have more of in a relationship? Do u do a good job in 4 play or do the other individual he or she or it. Depending what 1 calls themselves….. smiles mmmm
I often forget I'm speaking to a very secular audience. Look how many issues people have with this, people get jealous, which they should, people get mad. People die! These looks can lead to more and these things are dangerous. My religion teaches many morals and one is for both genders to lower their gaze, i. e. don't stare at the opposite gender if they're showing something they shouldn't or things that are turning you on. This prevents these issues. Whether you follow a religion or not this is a good moral to keep. It also helps people, especially women, feel safer.
Ofcourse I do!! Also, it's not wrong to be bothered because it's like he is neglecting the fact that he already have a beautiful girl!!
If he noticed only few times then it's normal, but if he frequently glances at attractive women, then dump him. Men are action oriented, if they frequently look at other girls then they're bound to cheat!
Yep I am the jellybelly type and with bad experiences, it would bothered me. But I am learning that as long as it is just a quick glance, it should be okay as human nature, we do notice attractive people. As long as he makes me feel known and sure I am the only person for him.
I get jealous easily, I wouldn't even want him to talk to any other girl, but thats just me being insecure and uncomfortable thinking maybe I'm not good enough for him, but he had once told me, I was enough for him, and that helped, to me its the words of comfort (like an i love you, etc etc) ever so often which will only help me get better.
I don't really. He can look. I can look. We're coming home to each other and that what matters for me.
Funny story: one day as we're in the mall, we're at Spencer's and this guy with a bubble butt (I like butts) walks by and I stay staring with my mouth almost wide open without me realizing it. Suddenly my boyfriend walks up and says "you nasty bitch" (his favorite line from Bernie Mac) To which I look back up and say "I didn't do nothing!"
people can look but they shouldn't do more than that, NOR hold that gaze too long out of respect. You dont approach or flirt, it is what it is. I've never had this issue since I'm a demisexual. I find women attractive, yes. But once I'm with one she's my whole world anyways tbh.
No your not wrong... looking and touch is not the same thing. Do you look away from a beautiful sun set, just yesterday's sunset was just as good or less.
Its what men have been generically programmed to do. And if he's with you, then I am sure you're the apple of his eye.
Don't stress over it or make a bigger deal than nesscary over it. In the end its your issue not his, he should be aware of your feelings and be respectful... but remember those feelings are yours and not his.
I think looking and noticing a beautiful woman is different than ogling or blatantly checking out them out in front of a partner. I think looking at an attractive person is fine as long as you don't cross that line, it's natural to appreciate beauty in all forms for human beings, just show some semblance of self control as not to be a creep about it.
The world is full of attractive people, their will be others who are for sure better looking than you and your partner. Does it hurt? it does if your insercure and even if you aren't it may hurt. I understand that my girl when i get one will look and so will I, I love to talk about why she finds them attractive and why i find them attractive. Of course the only girl i need/want is her
Acknowledging that other girls are attractive and that his libido still works isn't the same thing as hitting/flirting on these women or not loving you. Men and women are going to look, but if you trust them, then looking shouldn't mean anything.
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