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It's kind of pointless. It doesn't matter if my girlfriend looks at other people because in the end I know she's going to cheat on me eventually. It doesn't matter if your boyfriend or girlfriend looks at other people because eventually he or she will eventually leave you because someone else is much more handsome or gorgeous than you in a relationship. It seems people can't stay with one person and chooses to have multiple love interest at once. I blame Joseph Smith for all this, he is the reason why polygamy became a such a popular and terrible thing to do while trying to have a relationship with someone. Instead of him just sticking to one woman, he prefer to have 4 or 5 of them in a relationship or in a marriage. Apparently in some men's Minds, why have one woman when you can have more than one. This is why people like me can't find a decent person to fall in love with knowing that there will always be someone else much more beautiful or handsome then you causing your partner to leave you and find someone else who can live up to that expertise even when the person you are in a relationship is trying their hardest but their lover is still not satisfied no matter what you do. I hate Love sometimes. It seemed to just staying single and dying alone if the only way your heart can be saved instead of trying to find someone.
Yeah, I’m fine with it. It’s usually celebrities, not real life people, but I’m secure enough to know she’s not going anywhere. That prettyboy white kid in Cobra Kai, the one who looks like a grunge kid from ‘94 time traveled to 2018 or whenever season 1 was…. she always says how, if she were younger, she would have been into him. That’s obviously code for “he’s hot but 15 years younger than me so I don’t feel like I can fully acknowledge it”, lmao, and I don’t care. I’m usually like “you want me to leave you alone for a few minutes? Should I hit the lights on the way out?”😝
Bottom line: it’s wildly unrealistic to think someone will be attracted to you and only you. That’s not the same thing as loyalty and fidelity and all that. There’s certainly a point where it could become disrespectful, but that point is at a place most people aren’t going to take it to anyway. So I wouldn’t worry about it if it’s just looking, unless it’s like shameless ogling, haha. But just a quick check-out…. that’s just guys being guys, or really just humans being human, but maybe dudes do it a little more. “Look but don’t holler”, you know?👍
No, you're not wrong. Straight men are designed to find women attractive. This doesn't change just because they're in a relationship with one. The only time to start getting annoyed is if they start obviously looking at other women, not caring if you notice, and basically having a lack of respect for the relationship and your feelings. My b/f is always checking out other women. He thinks I don't notice, and he tries to hide it, and that's fine by me. The only time he can't hide it is if he's sitting around in his dressing gown after a shower, and someone he fancies appears on the TV, at which point it's kind of impossible not to notice the large obvious indicator. When that happens I just laugh.
@all_hayl Yes, you're right of course, even though literally all people in couples, of whatever sex, harmlessly notice other attractive people sometimes, it's much better for them to say "Phwooarr!! Look at him/her over there!" if they happen to notice when with their partner... because otherwise it's dishonest and they might be hiding other stuff. LOL
No. That would be extremely hypocritical. I do catch myself looking at other guys but there's nothing to it. I feel nothing. I do think other men are attractive, because I'm human, but I will never be attracted to other guys like I am my boyfriend. Of course he too would find other women attractive. It's a little worrying if someone feels like they have to supress their human nature just to not upset a partner. Attraction is normal and harmless. As long as It's not acted upon while in a relationship.
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I would feel the same, don't get me wrong, I know that there will be other people out there that are taller than me, better looking than me, have better hair, better physique, but I would say there is a difference between looking and desire. They can look at them long but if they are desiring it then that becomes tricky because intention changes. So it's okay to not feel okay and get mad, but it is also one of those issues where you can't really help it or else you come off as controlling and insecure, as long as you know their intentions are nothing bad then, no harm in it, but also acceptable to feel how you feel, I think anybody would feel that.
I have my mother to thank for this little piece of wisdom she taught me: "Just because check them out doesn't mean I want to be with them."
And it makes sense. I can look at a piece of art, a nice car, a beautiful house and like them, but that doesn't mean I want to buy them. So why can't the same be for people. Based on that no, I don't mind nor care if my partner finds other people attractive because I do the same.
Now if me or my partner acted on that attraction, then that is crossing the line.
It’s like a loyal fan of a singer, they could love the singer and their music but still find other music cool or nice to listen to. It’s a matter of seeing more things and not a matter of loyalty, because as long as they are loyal to that singer than they won’t let go of their music. It works with people too. If someone loves/likes someone else, them looking at other people is common, it actually helps. For if a person listens to more music it will increase their tastes and understand of the music.
No sorry you invest much more time and they invest much more time in you to second best their virtues with someone else while they are with you and dishonor them while they aren’t. Get a grip
You're not the only good looking person on the planet at your partner's eyes. As long as all he does is looking and maybe comment, play along and discuss on the comment he did.
I know I and my partner do this quite regularly, and this lack of absurd jealousy with the added extra of playfulness never made me consider the idea of betraying her ever. Seems like it's the same for her, that, of course, also comments on hot studs crossing our way.
As far as looks go, you might not even be his ideal woman, so of course others could pique his interest.
They did a study, in Germany, that found than men that willfully avert their gaze, to avoid looking at women they found attractive, had spikes in blood pressure from the stress for trying to not look.
Looking isn't touching. We can't help sexual attraction, we can prevent acting on it. As long as he's just looking then I don't see any harm in it.
And while the study was only done on men, as we tend to be more visually oriented when it comes to sexual attraction, I don't see a problem with women looking either.
Any partner of mine is free to look at anyone they find sexually attractive, be it man or woman, because I will be doing the same.
I've caught several boyfriends checking out other women. I try to use it as a method to improve, what is it she has that I do not have. Is it better cloths, is it cause she is dresses all up with make up and I've got comfortable, so I'm not anymore. I study other humans to improve.
If he notices that I noticed him, I will politely state its okay and ask him what he thought. Ge his opinions on it.
I also may check out a nice looking guy or woman on occasion. It doesn't mean I want to be with them over who I'm currently with.
To me it seems weird that people usually think their partner is checking someone out if they just look at them for a short time. It is natural to look at people around you. Are they also checking out a passing dog or cat too? I mean, come on people, just because someone looks at the people around them, that doesn't mean they have any interest in them (sexually or romantically) .
If they are staring or doing something obvious then I could see it being a problem, but too many people think their partner is checking people out when they aren't.
Nope! As long as she's not chasing after them. I told my future ex-fiance right after we started seeing each other that "I'm GONNA look at other girls but, to me, they are just like going to the museum and seeing great works of art. Just something to admire. The point is, I'll look at them but, I'm NOT shopping for a better deal, I'm madly in love with YOU!! NO ONE'S EVER gonna take me away from you!!" And, AMAZINGLY, I HAD 3 other offers!! 2 of them were my previous girlfriend's!!
10 years later, that little mini-bitch started cheating on me!!
Many girl’s check other girls out and say they don’t. Yet, they don’t have to admit they do. Sexiest. Humanity is a sight worth seeing. Just because u look at another individual, doesn’t mean u won’t have intercourse. S e x. Do you as a female have issues of why u feel this way? Consciously or unconsciously? Sometimes, hay, it is okay. Communicate what u want in a sex life or just in a communication relationship. What do u do not enough of? What can u do more in a relationship? What would you like to have more of in a relationship? Do u do a good job in 4 play or do the other individual he or she or it. Depending what 1 calls themselves….. smiles mmmm
A former teacher of mine has a big tattoo of his wife on his arm. He said she is the kind that doesn't cheat or dump.
One day at an assembly hall, filled with companies that had their own oroduct booth and each company hired a model for eye candy to hand oit broucheres of the factory machinery that the assembly was about. Cheapest product was about half a million euros. Our class was there to meet possible employers.
In this event, the teacher said that there is a girl on one booth thats everyones type. I asked him isn't that kinda cheating to notice more atractive women when you are married. He said he will remain loyal to his wife but he is not blind. You will see what I mean when you see her.
I often forget I'm speaking to a very secular audience. Look how many issues people have with this, people get jealous, which they should, people get mad. People die! These looks can lead to more and these things are dangerous. My religion teaches many morals and one is for both genders to lower their gaze, i. e. don't stare at the opposite gender if they're showing something they shouldn't or things that are turning you on. This prevents these issues. Whether you follow a religion or not this is a good moral to keep. It also helps people, especially women, feel safer.
Ofcourse I do!! Also, it's not wrong to be bothered because it's like he is neglecting the fact that he already have a beautiful girl!!
If he noticed only few times then it's normal, but if he frequently glances at attractive women, then dump him. Men are action oriented, if they frequently look at other girls then they're bound to cheat!
Yep I am the jellybelly type and with bad experiences, it would bothered me. But I am learning that as long as it is just a quick glance, it should be okay as human nature, we do notice attractive people. As long as he makes me feel known and sure I am the only person for him.
I get jealous easily, I wouldn't even want him to talk to any other girl, but thats just me being insecure and uncomfortable thinking maybe I'm not good enough for him, but he had once told me, I was enough for him, and that helped, to me its the words of comfort (like an i love you, etc etc) ever so often which will only help me get better.
I don't really. He can look. I can look. We're coming home to each other and that what matters for me.
Funny story: one day as we're in the mall, we're at Spencer's and this guy with a bubble butt (I like butts) walks by and I stay staring with my mouth almost wide open without me realizing it. Suddenly my boyfriend walks up and says "you nasty bitch" (his favorite line from Bernie Mac) To which I look back up and say "I didn't do nothing!"
people can look but they shouldn't do more than that, NOR hold that gaze too long out of respect. You dont approach or flirt, it is what it is. I've never had this issue since I'm a demisexual. I find women attractive, yes. But once I'm with one she's my whole world anyways tbh.
No your not wrong... looking and touch is not the same thing. Do you look away from a beautiful sun set, just yesterday's sunset was just as good or less.
Its what men have been generically programmed to do. And if he's with you, then I am sure you're the apple of his eye.
Don't stress over it or make a bigger deal than nesscary over it. In the end its your issue not his, he should be aware of your feelings and be respectful... but remember those feelings are yours and not his.
I think looking and noticing a beautiful woman is different than ogling or blatantly checking out them out in front of a partner. I think looking at an attractive person is fine as long as you don't cross that line, it's natural to appreciate beauty in all forms for human beings, just show some semblance of self control as not to be a creep about it.
You answered your own question. You said "you don't expect him to not find other girls attractive". How you choose to deal with that is up to you. You'd be wrong if you DID expect a man to "never" notice another woman simply because he's dating you. That said, "how" he notices them is important too. If he makes you feel like you're not good enough, or you're not special to him and he wants to be with YOU, that's not good at all.
The world is full of attractive people, their will be others who are for sure better looking than you and your partner. Does it hurt? it does if your insercure and even if you aren't it may hurt. I understand that my girl when i get one will look and so will I, I love to talk about why she finds them attractive and why i find them attractive. Of course the only girl i need/want is her
Acknowledging that other girls are attractive and that his libido still works isn't the same thing as hitting/flirting on these women or not loving you. Men and women are going to look, but if you trust them, then looking shouldn't mean anything.
I'm not insecure that he is going to cheat on me so I don't care at all. I'm actually a little BI so if I see an attractive-looking girl I will point it out to him and we both joke about what we would do to her.
Just because you're in a relationship does not mean that you stop finding others attractive. My girlfriend and I just try to make an effort to not look at others while with each other because it is definitely rude to be caught looking.
Why would you want to hurt your partner’s feelings by making them think you’d rather be with someone else?
My partner is an intelligent girl that is realistic and understands you don't lose your attraction to the opposite sex just because I'm dating her. I'm not sure how you got that I want to hurt my partner and that I would rather be with someone else. What are you reading?
Well my love is sincere. Sure there may be other attractive people. However, I have enough respect to give all my time and focus to the ones who love me while they are with me and honor the. When they aren’t.
And if you’re cool with her looking and potentially second vesting you’re virtues to someone else you’re trash.
Oh wait you have a girlfriend but you’re single. Yeah okay cheater trash.
Many guys are able to not look. They’ll reassure you until u feel you can trust him.
Many guys feel they have to look. If he feels he has to look and says he can’t help it, to hell with him. Because who knows what else he “can’t help it”
does drinking your pleasure water give you pleasure
You know in my own personal experience, I have been guilty of this, although my last 3 girlfriends have done this together. They would ask my opinion of a guy and then I would ask their opinion on a girl. If there is TRUST in the relationship then there usually isn't a big deal. This is my personal experience and not the norm I think but I can only share my experience.
I'm not blind and notice lot of things. Do I react? Not always. If he finally found his ultimate love I won't be an obstacle and he is free to go but he has to make a choice. I don't share my toys with other girls.
It's ok, in front of him, look at other guys and then see his face and also check out other guys in front of him ;)
Glancing is one thing, doesn’t bother me.. I do it too… but staring is another because guys don’t like it when it’s done back… I feel like that’s disrespectful.
When I was in college, the girl I was dating told me, "I'd get nervous if you didn't look at other women... cuz I know what you're getting from me."
I don't have a problem if my female SO looks at men.
It's alright we notice a lot of people in our daily lives out of which some are attractive too but as long as I know that I love someone and I won't leave them under any circumstances and she would too unless the relationship ends up in a fiasco. I think I won't go even if I notice someone more attractive.
I agree with you. I don't love to see my husband get distracted, but I don't want him to be a machine either. Sometimes we "notice" other people for fun when we're together.
Noticing is different than flirting and making advances.
@Cheechee4me Yes it is very different.
When men mature they still notice beautiful woman, they just get better at hiding it.
I don't. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you're blind to other people's beauty what matters is what he does with the fact that he finds someone else attractive.
I find it disrespectful if my woman did that. I do not do that at all. I only focus on her. I don't need to or care about other women when I have a girlfriend. I'll look at her and appreciate everything she has to the fullest 😊
No
I can still remember my ex-girlfriend getting flirted with by waiters openly in front of me and after a few minutes she'd lean over and kiss me and leave a perplexed waiter trying to work out what I had that he didn't
I usually get mad if I see a girl look at him rather than him look at the girl. I’m not sure why I just do lol
You need to grow up. If you’re mad at her, you should be mad at him. He’s likely cheating on the side or will be soon.
@Cheechee4me okay babes
Looking is never an issue unless it was to become excessive, which is when you might have to ask what is going on.
I don’t mind, because it’s natural to notice other people as attractive. I myself even do it so I won’t hold him to different expectations
Don't care in the slightest. Everyone does it, some more obvious than others.
Looking is one thing... Everything else is another.
It does not bother me at all, she can check out other guys. Often she will point out other women and ask me if I think they are pretty.
My ex has a big butt and she was fine with me looking at other women's bodies.
She would even point out ones that she knew would turn me on.
Sounds like she was smart to leave then.
@Cheechee4me
Well, we were together for over 10 years, the relationship just kinda ran it's course and it didn't work out in the end. It had nothing to do with her pointing out butts for me to look at.
Yeah I think it did though. Lol. Any woman who actually wants a man will not point out other more attractive women. Sounds like you didn’t have much respect for her.
@Cheechee4me
She was just very secure in herself. She knows that she's the hottest woman I could get and I loved her and she trusted me.
Usually anyone who fusses about their partner noticing others is doing it out of insecurity.
Yeah no.
Nope. Like I told my step-son on his 16th birthday when we took him to Hooters (that's where he wanted to go) when he saw both me and his mother looking over the wait staff; "Son, we're married. Not dead."
I don’t like it, makes me feel I’m not good enough 😔
He gets easily distracted , or you notice because he makes it on purpose
Everybody has eyes and anything can catch anyone's attention so its very natural. It's not different if you notice a cute puppy. You're just simply looking at it.
It's only a tendency. Just thining like this is not cheating. Our brains are designed to think like this, so it's completely normal, as long as he/she is loyal.
He can look but he can' t go flirt with her and all that. I mean, he can, but I'll break up.
Wouldn’t be the best thing that happens, could imagine how inadequate it would make someone feel.
Not at all. I point them out to her, and vice versa.
I mean if u glance then that's fine but if you're staring like you not in a relationship then I will upgrade u to single real quick
When I dated Crystal and Kimberly I never looked at other ladies
I'd use the opportunity of them finding someone else attractive to flirt with them some more so they remember who they love. It's not an issue to me
You can't find a guy that doesn't look unless you date a blind guy. As long as it stays at looking, it should be fine.
We have an open relationship. I expect him to notice and talk to other girls.
Not really. Flirting or entertaining flirtatious advances is another story
I do not mind at all, I know what she is thinking "Thank God, I have already found a good man, he looks pitiful. Who dressed him anyway?"
my problem right now is that the girl i like, we're just talking right now but, the girl i like, is bi
really?
Yeah really. I went out with a bi girl before and right now I'm in the early stages of talking with another one.
They are not any different from straight girls, in fact most straight girls have at least pondered the idea of being with a woman at one point just felt like it's not for them.
You're a guy, just focus on a man to woman interaction and see if or not you will click
I was talking about straight girls, if they decide it's not for them they are not bi.
But the two girls I was with actually had exes who were women and are still into women today just not exclusively and we happened to have a connection, the whole bi thing doesn't even come up in conversation it's their business
Ohhh I see.
Well I wouldn't know for sure I wasn't with them as they slept with women but the first had purple hair and the whole Bi vibe going for her.
And the second is the shy innocent type who hates attention of anything. But they're both cute and not without their charm so it never bothered me
Not really, as long as they don’t try to hit on them.
No as long as he’s not flirting touching or having anything think sexual happen it’s all good.
If he notices someone other than me, this relationship won't work anyway. A man (if he really loves) never looks at another when the woman he loves is next to him. should not look.
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