Can you really keep loving someone who changes?

[Joeshamo]

Yes

No

[Aethereal]

In my opinion, that is almost completely dependent on the change. We all (should) have our boundaries of what is and isn't okay. Good communication will make it much easier to deal with change.

I feel that selfish change (conscious change without communication or awareness of the impact on their partner's feelings) only breeds resentment. It can even be harmful.

[OlderAndWiser]

I sure as hell hope so because all of us change. . . to some extent.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Star_88]

So many people are LYING.
Will y'all still love your kind, smart and strong partner if they suddenly changed into lazy, aggressive and ignorant people?
Will y'all still love a person who shifts from being chilled/laid back to controlling/nagging one? Will y'all love someone who shifts from interesting and charming to a dull personality?

[Aerissa_Jade]

I would still love him through all the changes, doesn't mean I'd stay with him. I wouldn't stick around with a guy that decided he was just going to quit his job. Stay home and smoke peyote all day.

That doesn't mean I'd stop loving him though.

[kyleelyn199723]

Everyone changes and grows in relationships, and if you can’t get used to your partner growing and changing, then relationships won’t work for you. You weren’t the same person 5 years ago as you are now.

[t-8900]

Very, very wise answer! We all change and there is nothing wrong with the that

[Aerissa_Jade]

I'd hope everyone could love someone who changes, change is who we are as humans. We are not the same at 20 as at 25 or 30 and up. Everyone changes, sure there is basic things that stay the same. Personality but lots of stuff changes.

[exitseven]

Yes, I think I changed a lot during my whole life and probably will continue to change. Ithink I really changed during the pandemic.

[Anonymous]

Yes, people change more or less during a lifetime, you need to find a way to evolve together to keep the connection which can be tricky, like when having kids.
I don't want to hold someone back from improving/changing and certainly also not someone who holds me back.

[OddBeMe]

We all change. In fact every 2 years we get new bodies. Technically. All our atoms in our bones and cells from two years ago have been replaced. It’s like a car that had every part replaced.

But we change gradually and constantly. Like the hour hand, we don’t notice the change.

[exitseven]

Yes, who the hell knows why we loves somebody. mabethey change for the worse but the things that made you love them still persist. Or mayb you think it is just a phase and they will revert back to the way they were.

[HawkPerception]

Change is inevitable, however if the change means taking a turn for the worse in terms of chemistry and going from good traits to bad traits consistently, then it will be detrimental to the relationship.

[horatiohornblower]

I think it depends on the change. A profound change in religion of one partner will often cause major relationship issues.

[Ninani]

Of course, change is inevitable and a sign of growth. I'm not sure I could keep loving someone who doesn't change at all.

[sage2021]

I said no because what if he changes in a bad way? Like ke starts cheating on you.

[Anonymous]

Mostly no.
I think this is a main reason to not date children and why we encourage certain behaviors throughout a relationship.

[slatyb]

Depends a lot on how they are changing. Are they growing or regressing? Getting healthier, or neglecting their health?

[Anonymous]

negative or positive change?
negative change; i loved my ex still the same when he changed negatively, but of course, i didn’t like when he did change.
positive change; i’d love them the same or even more.

[Dragonpurple]

Depends on what kinds of changes, part of growing old together is growing and changing together, through the various stages of your life.

[Anonymous]

You can love someone who changes if you are growing with them.

[Manuel2]

That proves how strong your love is when things change and go bad.
Not when things are good

[lilaccc]

it's a tough situation 🙃

[Blackcupcake]

depends on the change

[ravagesavage]

Yeah unless they stop giving me head

[noohair]

Sometimes people grow in different directions.

[2021suckedass]

Like changes their mind? personality?

[jimmy2]

Everyone changes