If someone is constantly defensive over anything, what does that say about them?

[WowwGirl]

Ex: can't handle criticisms

[Avicenna]

There can be a number of reasons for that:

1) Lack of confidence in general or about that one thing
2) Guilty conscience
3) Psychological residue of bad emotional experiences
4) Personality in general (thin skinned)

[WowwGirl]

Thank you sir

[Avicenna]

You're welcome.

Thanks for the MHO

[WowwGirl]

Course

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Them kind of people are miserable with their own life best to stay away from them

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for Most Helpful Guy :)

[WowwGirl]

Anytime

[Finchie40]

The thing is no one really likes to be criticized period , especially from someone they have feelings for or care about , usually the person that is doing the criticizing is the one that is suffering from low self esteem and insecurities so they project their negative feelings on to someone else to make themselves feel better about themselves , criticizing is a form of abuse , and we as humans are prepared to defend ourselves when we feel we are being attacked our defense mechanism comes into play , and bottom line no one likes to admit to themselves that they are wrong , most people can’t admit to their flaws so it feels like a stab wound from a knife when we are criticized by someone we gave our heart to , My ex use to criticize me a lot and made me feel that I wasn’t good enough , she constantly compared me to others to make me feel that I wasn’t a good man a good father etc. , which lead me to distance myself from her , when the criticizing from her started in the beginning I would defend myself and lash back at her to defend myself, to realize it didn’t solve anything , her projecting her negative insecurities at me made me realize she was the one that was suffering to the point I would just walk away, it hurts when someone you love and care about all of a sudden criticizes you and puts you down when you have done nothing but being good and loving to them , it usually stems down from a person dealing with depression and their own insecurities , when you become a constant punching bag from someone that you gave your heart to , it damages the relationship you have with them because the person being criticized starts to feel they aren’t loved and respected by their partner , which in most cases the person being criticized will walk away and be open to meeting someone that makes them feel positive , We are all imperfect people and we all have some sort of insecurity in us , it’s hard for people to fully trust someone especially these days where people are very selfish and only really care about themselves , so giving your heart completely to someone is going to take work from both sides , removing selfishness for each other is pretty much the only way a relationship will survive these days sadly to say

[TheBootyChest]

If I was defensive about everything it would be a sign that I feel like people aren't even bothering to hear my side of the story. Like if I ask to make a suggestion at work, but the boss says they don't want to hear it, then I get defensive and passive aggressive.

[drdank518]

They are toxic to be around and if they don't change their behavior, then you need to cut ties with them. It's annoying

[LinkxPeach]

Insensitive, delusional, and making assumptions over something you think someone gonna do something to you. You viewed them as a bad guy, guilty, or wrong person which is probably the opposite. Your basically attacking them over something that isn’t true.

[Mehzmeh]

They don’t have confidence in themselves. And people have always made them feel like everything is there fault. And they have not had a chance to fix themselves.

[jasco]

Usually means they aren’t good at self reflection either which means they either don’t wanna realize their problems or just don’t like it when people tell them

[Dontaaaa]

The first thing that comes into mind for me are "insecurities".

[Neilbud]

Could be how it was said it. Or they could have some issues to work out.

[Pete671]

imho they can't cope with it and they are asking for help to deal with it,

[Love_some_chels]

Insecure and low self worth. They are not confident with there chooses of have been criticized it the past a lot and think they are under attack. This is a emotional trauma reaction that they need help resolving.

[AndrewMG]

I'm not defensive! What makes you think I'm defensive! I mean I might be defensive but what's that got to do with you? lol

[Quigly]

People that defend themselves aren't a problem,

It's people that portray themselves as the victim all the time that you want to stay away from.

[Quigly]

In other words:
Constant criticism is an attack against someone. So of course they defend themselves. Especially when it's not constructive criticism.

The question is really why do you feel the need to attack someone all the time?

[jahaims]

Little to no self reflection which will make them immature.

[WowwGirl]

Even if older

[jahaims]

Especially if they are older.

[WowwGirl]

That's amazing

[Luopio27]

Unsettled scores with hinself or his past, that involved other people. Or something unknown to me.

[whatulike]

It would seem if as they have or have had... a, guilty conscience

[inked2014]

Usually guilty of what you are talking about.

[DaviRon]

Maybe they're light hearted

[skeetskeetskeet]

They are an insecure little fuck

[Sam_The_Savage]

Wowgirl 😘

[WowwGirl]

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[Sam_The_Savage]

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[emperor90]

Just walk away