I've talked about this quite a few times on this website. I myself am too short to literally ever find another romantic partner. Although it's not just being short; it's being overweight, ugly in the face, not an "approved ethnicity" by Western standards, and not rich or cocky, either. Now, unlike others on this site, I'm not asking this for a pity party or to fish for compliments and emotional validation from strangers on the internet. I personally HATE that. I am asking the question:
How does a man who will literally never find love from a woman or have a romantic relationship avoid becoming bitter, angry, or misogynistic by this fact?
THAT is the question I am asking here. Not just for myself, but for other men like me, as well. The best thing that helps me is realizing it's not women's "fault" that they actually want attractive looking, tall, self-assured men. That just makes sense (although regardless, some women's standards are still way too high nowadays).
So I wouldn't ever become an incel or anything like that, because I don't blame women for naturally wanting what they want. I mean, why would a woman ever want a guy who was short, or weighed too much/too little, or was ugly, or anything they weren't attracted to?
I myself am not fully MGTOW or anything, but I do understand it and relate to it. Sometimes, I myself just get really lonely, as well as angry because I'm single almost entirely by things outside of my control. The one and only thing I could control is ego, and becoming as cocky and arrogant as possible. But I personally hate that attitude in people. And ego alone doesn't get a woman, although it does help. So I don't want to be confident and act like some hot shot, just to date someone.
I understand that NO ONE should seek happiness or self-worth in another person. I'm not asking that. I'm asking how does a man not succumb to negative and angry thoughts due to hopelessly being single and alone?Image is just for fun.
How do unattractive, hopelessly single men avoid becoming angry and bitter being alone for the rest of their lives?
By not valuing your self worth by your relationship status. There is so much more to who a person is. Build yourself up with success (not just financially) but your value as a human being. Find things that make you happy and pursue them. Learn to value the things and people in your life and it will keep the bitterness away.
People judge themselves based off of what others have or do. Instead of what they have or do. Begin looking at all the good things in your life and cherish them no matter how small they may seem.
Women literally never have to worry about being alone in the modern Age of Simps. That's why I specifically addressed men in this post. Women are alone entirely by choice.
Rewriting and cleaning up your internal dialog. We get the idea of being in relationship, getting married and starting a family beaten into our head. The majority of the time it starts when we are growing up and it becomes part of our inner dialog. We also the idea that not being in a relationship or starting a family makes us worth less then those that do. So that idea becomes part of our inner dialog. That is why both men and women can become so angry and bitter about having issues finding someone or being alone for any amount of time.
You have to just accept being alone/lonely and embrace it and be serious about it. People won’t understand. But it doesn’t matter if they understand or not. They don’t care about your happiness. Go your own way and be resentful. Why not? It keeps those women away. Which is what we want
I don't see being bitter for the next 40 to 50 years as really worth it. Then again, if women don't want men who are short or don't have the "right" gym body or ethnicity, then that's not really worth it either. It's a conundrum, for sure. (At least until Japan finally make those damn Sexbots an affordable reality!)
It is difficult to avoid bitterness if you lose hope. Perhaps it is better to go forward expecting nothing, but being open to happiness, a woman, etc., should one materialize. Making this shift would actually add to your attractiveness; a lot of women in their 30s would love to find a man who is content with his own life as it is, who is stable, who is confident but also humble, and not egotistical.
"Go forward expecting nothing, but being open to happiness, a woman, etc., should one materialize."
That's literally exactly how I feel, most of the time. But on some days, I just feel super-lonely, plus angry that I'm lonely due to circumstances entirely out of my control, like my height, looks, race, age, etc.
@mcheetah Well it isn't helping things that most people are having or expected to have these experiences either, experiences that we are missing out on, and that has arguably been exacerbated by the changes of the sexual revolution since the 1960s.
1) Lose weight 2) Get in shape 3) Find things that interest you and make you interesting 4) Find social hobbies. Video games are not hobbies. 5) Succeed in a career that you are passionate about. 6) Ditch the loser mentality. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If it makes me or anyone else feel better, I still read anectdotally about shorter guys or less attractive finding partners and even beautiful partners from time to time.
The 3% exception to the rule, doesn't negate the rule. Yeah, if some men are as handsome and talented as Tom Cruise or as jacked as Zac Ephron and under 6'0", then they stand a chance to POSSIBLY meet a halfway decent girl. Still lower than any everyday, out of shape dude who's 6'2", though.
Make your self busy in work and get rich and automatically blah blah single man problem solve.. Try that you have so much free time use that time instead of writing here..
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