Do you agree that in every relationship there's always someone who loves more?

[Desconhecida]

[StephBelsten]

Not every, but most. It's the same as saying that in every relationship there is a "settler". With nearly 8 billion people on the planet there will likely be many people out there perfect for you, but its unlikely you ever meet. So a lot of people just take the best around, and there's no shame in that.

You can find happiness with someone even if they don't tick every single box.

[Flower7]

Yep, that’s true. I mean, think about how rare it would be for two different people to have the EXACT same feelings and EXACT same level of interest toward each other.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I think that's too big a generalization to make. That can certainly be the case in some relationships, but no I don't think it applies to all

[VIVANT]

People express love differently, I didn’t known how could we possibly measure who loves more? We’d be measuring actions that are popularly thoughts of as expressions of love actions actions thought of less so, but that’s not a measure of an individuals love, that’s just someone else’s perception.

Equally, people feel love differently. Someone’s feelings may or may not be proportionate to the care they other person feels towards them. Some people from bad experiences, feel uncared for no matter what. Others don’t require much to feel love. there are just too many variables in emotional expression and reception with many constant fluctuation between separate individuals. I think it also isn’t very useful piece of info in assessing the strength of a relationship (not that you asked im just going in this direction here 😊).

Some people love selfishly others love rely on both cases the love can be given freely. I’d say it’s more helpful to look at the relationship objectively, if some one feels taken for granted, that should be addressed. Love can’t be measured but in a relationship both people should be working to meet each other’s needs. If that’s not happening, communicate, Weigh the variables and re assess if this is relationship the place for you.

Love can be beautiful but it’s not what makes a relationship. Desire is an incentive to build, not really a building block on its own. I think putting a lot of emphasis on something we can’t really measure can put negative energy into something that is actually working or inversely, give false positive of something dysfunctional.

[ohshee]

Sure there is just like there's always one that eats more ice cream than the other there's one who drinks more soda than the other you're the one that's always going to be something so in the one that's always loves more seems like they're always the person that gets hurt so what I suggest is only love as much as your partner loves I know that kind of sucks but if you only put into it with their foot into it and that even sucks even more because that's not who you are that's not who I am it always seems like one person grows one person has confidence the other person doesn't so that's why they call it making love you make a relationship you make it work by putting into it what you put into it is what you get out of it that is the goal

[t-8900]

I don't know if it's that or that people feel and express love differently. Our brains work differently person to person and our lived experiences reflect how we dish out our love. And sometimes guys are too afraid to show too much because then a lot of women get bored and move on (in my experience and that of my friends).

[ManOnFire]

Not all relationships but in a lot of them, yes. It's called the energy dynamic. When you love someone so much and put them on a pedestal more than they do you then they will always expect that and they can even take advantage of it.

Also, an evil part of the human heart is that when they know that another person cares a lot for them, they can use that as the other person's weakness and be cruel.

[Aerissa_Jade]

This goes along with the love language question I asked the other day. There is no way to know how much someone really loves the other. Yet if a couple is not the same love language, or maybe a little over lap it may appear as if someone loves the other more.

This is due to one person not being able to keep the love tank full, due to differences in how they love each other.

[DizzyDesii]

Almost always. Like i mentioned in your other question, I often choose the guy who loves me more and then im not as happy. But when i choose the guy who I love more, i’m happier but short term because his love for me isn't always on the same level. Its just best to not be in a relationship until you love eachother equally

[IveGotNoName]

No. People love differently, it's not always comparable

[petitedollbabee]

Exactly what I was going to say

[Dinklex3]

This.^

[katiesmuff]

No I do not think that is true and I've seen couples so in love for each other, some young who haven't been together all that long yet, but more from couples I have met who have been together for decades.

[Not_Average]

Not really because that suggests that love is of a constant linear trajectory. In reality, my wife can be difficult to love during some seasons of life. The same can be said about me. Sometimes she’s more loving and other times I am.

[globetrotter22]

Yes but it depends on how big the gulf is. In my opinion it’s better when the woman slightly and do emphasize slightly loves more. It gives a firmer foundation for her to deal with her negative emotion moments.

[charlean]

Yes but it’s not always the case.
Sometimes people are just more physically affectionate than the other, among them look like they love the other person more.

[DaveJord]

Nope I do not agree in every, always or never. Probably in most relationships some cares more than the other, but 41%of marriages end in divorce right?

[doyoutwenty2]

Yes, initially I loved my boyfriend more and I knew it. Although he did say I love you first. Ultimately, it led to our break up. Apparently absence made his heart grow fonder and he persistently made his day back to me. Now, I can honestly say he loves me more than I love him. It feels strange now that roles have changed.

[Adam1978]

Since you can't really measure love, and anything you can measure will never be equal at all times. It's a given fact that who ever claim this is materialistic and measures in transactions.

[Luopio27]

It's hard to measure love in a marriage. Both have already sworn to please each other for eternity, in sickness and in health.


But yea, just because it can't be measured, doesn't mean their love is equal.

[Hannah591]

Not always but in a lot of relationships I think so yes.

[Msputiton]

Probably.
Doesn't mean that they aren't both deeply in love, but most likely someone will love a little deeper

[Lliam]

No. Definitely not always. Many people love each other equally.

[Nigjt]

Usely the Women love very much deeper then Men do.
Is for Men we just learn slower but then when we caught on how to love in the wright way Women can't help but to become our's in heart , mind , body an soul.
God Bless