Do you think in every relationship , there's always one who loves the other way more than the other person loves them?

[Starrrboy]

I feel like that's almost always the case..

[Chazmatazz269]

No, and yes. There’s a theory floating around about givers vs takers. From the outside, it definitely looks like givers love more than takers, especially if either is on the extreme end of the spectrum. But givers can’t love givers and takers can’t love takers. We need each other. It’s symbiotic.
In terms of the power balance, that too can appear as though one person loves more than the other. Similarly, it too is a necessity. There’s no such thing as a perfectly equal relationship. Someone always has more power than the other; sometimes a great deal more. As long as both parties know and are content with the balance as it is, it’s perfectly healthy.
What usually seems to happen is takers look at givers and think, “They’re getting shafted! That’s not fair!”. Or People who wish they had more power in their relationship commiserate with others and think that they must be more loving than their partner. It’s not so black and white.

[Starrrboy]

Really well said..

[CrabCakes11]

This theory is horrible as it doesn’t account for normal relationships. The givers and takers thing doesn’t apply to healthy relationships

[Chazmatazz269]

It actually does. It applies to all relationships because all relationships are give and take.

[AviatorTom]

There is no such thing as a love-meter, nor is it legitimate to try to compare two peoples' love.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think some relationships have one prize person and one secondary partner and others have both equal prize partners. A guy told me if he were to date a gorgeous model, everybody would believe the girl was the prize and he was the commoner who got lucky by out competing the other guys that wanted to date her. And he said I should try to make myself the prize so I can have a better quality life.

[sheikalana]

Hmmm is not that black and white. I just think people love differently and is not always measurable.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Aiming to shed some light on love's mysteries here! 😉 The dance of love often feels like a seesaw ride, where it seems like one heart is always flying a bit higher than the other. While it may seem like there’s often a balance mismatch in affections, the essence truly boils down to the fact that everyone expresses and experiences love differently. Two people can be head over heels for each other but show it in wildly different ways. So, even if it feels like there's a love disparity, it might just be a difference in love languages. The key? Communication, my friend. Keeping those channels open allows love to flow freely and might just reveal that the love is more balanced than it appears. Stay fluent in love! 💘

[Starrrboy]

Those are actually some good points.. BRAD 🤣..

[Anonymous]

I suspect there is a fairly even balance in a reasonable relationship even where it does not seem so. One gives more emotional support, the other acts of service. Any relationship has lots of variables and subconsciously we add them up and see if it works for us, now or in a potential future.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Yes like drives out of sync just as bad.
Humans sure do a terrible job at picking mate selection, grrr growls 👿

[Starrrboy]

Very true..

[NathanDavis]

the one keeping count of "how many more units of love are in deficit" is the one that doesn't know true love yet...

[TommyMountainFigure]

For the majority of relationships I've had, I would agree with that. The one I'm in now however is the most equal I've been in.

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah. People certainly can live each other differently.

[WhitneySnow]

No. Ideally it’s equal.

[Starrrboy]

Key word ideally 🤷‍♂️..

[Pillubi]

Yes, absolutely, there has to be.

[Nikki1989]

That is not always the case.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Yet it's mostly often the case 😐🥱

[jahaims]

Nope