Why would a guy in a relationship with you, begin to search for someone else?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's happened to me, where a guy has been messaging other girls whilst we were dating. Not overly-sexual conversations, but clearly to have some 'back up' options in case we broke up. Soon he had to move back to his city and he had the audacity to ask for a long distance relationship! 😂 It was a no from me.

It's not always because you're 'not good enough' as some people might say, it can also be because he is a horny dickhead who needs to have something lined up, or because he is so insecure that he needs to have someone to fall back on once you do break up. If he is acting this way then make the decision to dump him. Even if it's hard, don't let someone treat you as an option.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

Because he’s not faithful. If someone tells you it’s because you’re not doing something for him or you’re not enough, then that’s not your problem. If he’s going to date you and love you, he should be accepting you as you are. If he’s not happy then he should leave you instead of playing games with your head. Dump him, he’s wasting your time.

Guido · Accepted Answer

Because they don't move on unless they have somebody to move on to. This applies to both men and women. The only exception to that is abuse.

The person choosing to end the relationship has already found somebody to move on to. Sounds like he is in the searchi g phase and as soon as he does, it will be over with you Knowing that he is looking, you could dump his ass and at this time he would have nobody which is not what he wants. Hope you didn't have too much invested in this relationship.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Uhh. . . because he has decided that you are NOT The One. Isn't that obvious?

Desconhecida · Answer

Because he's using you as a temporary company until finding someone better.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Because he isn't satisfied nor commited to you, and he's having you there until a better alternative comes around.

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

From my experience, my ex had a time line on when he wanted things to go and I was quite on the opposite schedule. So I personally think when things aren’t going the way a guy was planning them to go, that’s when they start to find someone else

sage2021 · Answer

Like they say "A leopard never changes his spots." It was all on him. He was addicted to porn, dating sites, and meth. He was probably a cheater while he was married too. Who needs a guy like that? Not me!

Seangreen · Answer

Because you ain't doing something that he would want you to do and I don't know what that is I mean it could be a lot of things but you're not fulfilling whatever he wants that the only reason

Jintendo18 · Answer

There’s something he wants that he’s not getting from his relationship with you.

TheAfrikan · Answer

⚫ Once a guy in a relationship starts to search for someone else, definitely means that something is really missing in your relationship and he wants to look for it somewhere else.
High time you ask him what is failing to add up with you both.

Finchie40 · Answer

Maybe because his needs aren’t being met , and he doesn’t value you, the fact that he is looking elsewhere should be your answer to leave him

taylorallen · Answer

Guys are never happy with what they have for a partner. Be gay. Lol.

MannyFrs · Answer

if you aren't putting out of if he thinks you are cheating on him or if he is a pos "player" and the biggest reason is because he's a coward and doesn't know how to tell you its over

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why a girl in a relationship with you, would begin to search for someone else.

Heartache0405 · Answer

Probably because he’s too weak to break up with you.

Anonymous · Answer

Diversification. Any wise investor will tell you it's unwise to put all your eggs in the same basket.
When a relationships shows signs of failure and attempts to save it have proved futile. For a guy it's only prudent to seek other investments.

VikingWarLord · Answer

Because Monogamy ain't natural, that's why. Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan

cookiecrusher · Answer

Just using same tactics as women. Keeping his options open or checking the market for better options. Not a decent thing to do but pretty common, usually done by women though.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Takes longer for men to find the next person than it does women so he's simply being proactive.

LegendaryIcon · Answer

he's likely falling out of love, if it even ever was love

Anastasia1998 · Answer

To see what’s out their possible to see if he still has it.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

For different vagina.

jahaims · Answer

Because he is using you as a place holder

Citizenkirk · Answer

He's a dishonest, two timing, bigamist🐌!!!

Hangry06 · Answer

Cause you're not enough

Wise4myage · Answer

Sounds like he has decided to replace you?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Are you sure that he's in a relationship with you?

whosnumber1 · Answer

because he's not completely satisfied

scott04sa22 · Answer

Compatibility issue

devoygf · Answer

if it's boring

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