Oh my... Been there, done that. I mean, from the standpoint of the gay guy. I've been an-out-and-proud gay boy for so long, and my closest friends have always been girls like you. I'm quite effeminate and have zero sexual attraction towards girls. I have always been the "girl" in my relationships with men, always a bottom during sex with them. Many people who know me say I should have been born a girl...
So, I said all these things to emphasize how far I am from being a sexual threat to a girl for any reasonable person to see... This always gave me comfort in creating close friendships with girls, and to them with me. For crying out loud, we even talked about our boyfriends' penises, let alone exchanging makeup tips...
Yet, none of these are convincing enough for the "jealous" straight men who want to control their women. The events that happened in your case did also happen in a few cases with my female friends. Just because I was being close to their girlfriends and happen to be born with a penis (that I never use for sex), I have seen jealous men asking their girlfriends to stop seeing me.
For the record, there is nothing strange for a girl and her gay friend to laugh and dance, and kiss each other on the cheek. Girls do that with each other, why not do it with their gay male friends? Hell, some of my female friends sit on my lap when we're drunk, and even I sit on their laps (I'm smaller in size and lighter than most women, so some can even carried me around).
It should be obvious to anyone that girls and gay men can only be friends by nature. Any straight boyfriend who cannot see or tolerate that is just a selfish, controlling freak...
Please feel free to write back if you'd like to vent your frustration. I can totally sympathize with your situation. Good luck, honey!
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Keep your gay friend. Dump the boyfriend. His request is unreasonable bordering on abusively controlling.
So you take on whore like behaviors and wonder why your boyfriend doesn’t approve. Them being gay doesn’t mean you need to be a lousy drunk either and I don’t blame him for not approving when you choose to act that way around those friends
You need to sit him down and set things straight. It is NOT okay for him to expect you to end friendships for the sake of your relationship. Not cool.
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