In quarantine with a verbally abusive husband. What can I do? And how can I protect my oldest from this as well?

[bellamoose1984]

Ok so I am in the process of leaving my husband, unfortunately he got covid and the flu and got myself and my 2 boys sick with covid as well. It has been 5 days now and things are not going well. My husband gets off on calling my son (his step son) names and treating him like shit, my youngest which is his bio child repeats everything that my husband says to my oldest and instead of talking to our youngest my husband laughs it off and says that my oldest needs to grow a pair and that our youngest us only 4. Well this gets me going and I step up and defend my oldest because that's my job to protect my kids from bad people. I tell my husband that he is being an asshole and how can he be ok with treating my oldest like that. He would then look at my oldest and ask if he is happy now that he got me yelling at my husband. It's sick really. Then he plays victim, like he didn't do anything wrong, and that my oldest and I are together in making him out to be the bad guy. I try I do, I try to explain to him what he is doing or saying is hurting not just our oldest but everyone else in the house as well. I bring up scenarios that have happened in the past and he claims I'm lying and making it up. We have to quarantine for another 7 days. I don't know what I'm going to do. Please any advice at all would help.

[SnakeBoop]

i'm so sorry you're stuck, but you're being great in knowing and in the process of leaving him.
playing victim is a manipulation tactic, he knows exactly what he's doing wrong so save your breath of explaining it to him.
You can call the police and there ARE places you can go regardless of the covid situation. Please contact them and ask for help.

[nachosaresexy]

I'm so sorry for what you're dealing with. I'm glad you have the courage to leave this toxic situation, for both yourself and your children. One questionable thing you said is that you're in the 'process' of leaving him... I know the logistics must be extremely difficult, but the sooner the better. It will take a scary step of faith but just get out of there, with as much help from friends/family as possible, but GET OUT and move on with your life and begin the healing process.

[FunkyMonkee]

Remember Elaina Bobbett? Get yourself a very sharp pair of scissors and warn him that if he does anything abusive, he can kiss his dick, goodbye!!

[jennifer_bloom]

Tale record your conversations with him and use it as evidence in court or when CoVid ends, get a family member to live with you and act as your witness when you battle for custody in court.