Do you think that you know when someone is into you?

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YollyM · Accepted Answer

Yes, I'm a very observant person. If I seem oblivious best believe I'm doing it on purpose to avoid giving the other person the courage to tell me point blank.😄

SecretsofKB · Accepted Answer

Nope! I just always assume that they are being nice.

Moose304 · Answer

This is one of those subjects where most folks lose focus. Yes, there is always going to be a sexually charged atmosphere when men and women are around each other, this is very normal. One thing though is men and women can misinterpret the actions and words used by another person. So, unless that person actually comes out and says I want to sleep with you, unless you know them you can never know what's going on in their heads. This is another reason so many men get into trouble on the job. Back before I retired I had an executive assistant who was really friendly and outgoing. never met a stranger. She would go make a coffee run before a meeting. She was not hitting people up, but I had two males in my office that mistook her for the office 304. I had to fire both of them. One after I personally saw him grab her butt. The other because he kept asking for oral! I have always been of the opinion if in doubt ask that person! If they are willing go for it. If NOT leave them alone! To me, this is very simple!

CaptainOverthink · Answer

I usually think I do by intuition but I rarely trust the feeling even though it seems I was right many times.
I know I should trust it and make a move but most times I just get too causious and find reasons for it not being that way more compelling to trust. This is a damage I have, am working at it.

Reality is I am just afraid they would feel targeted should I make a move and depending on how I do that and whether they liked me premptively, they either see it as harassment or interesting. The room for error seems small and unforgiving.

But really it's just me backing out too early, if I don't want to die alone I must get thicker skin and stop thinking female behavior will change to more proactive in my generation, change takes time. And even then it still need to be 50/50 or balanced fluctuations of 70/30. Right now I do about as much as the regular girl, flirt with the eyes and then go about my day. No real effort. Can't blame anybody really.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

For me when I was on the market, I struggled. I assumed most women weren't interested in me and I just talked with them normally and was more animated and fun when I had good chemistry with them.

I was able to pick up signs more frequently when I started to figure out indicators of interest. They will text/call you more. Want to see you more. Will flirt or be playful when around you. Will make time for you. Stuff like that.

The trick is just being authentic and finding women that in turn like you back enough to see where things go.

Finchie40 · Answer

For the most part yes but it can be tricky sometimes , Body language is usually the easiest way to know someone is into you , or locking eyes with you , if I see a beautiful girl and she is looking at me with a smile that usually indicates she finds me attractive but you never really know unless you approach them and talk to them , some people are just naturally nice and sometimes that can confuse people as well, so it’s usually a 50/50 shot , but you will never know unless you try and you are not shy , Most people are shy or they already think someone is taken or they are out of their league , my thing is I rather try then to just go home kicking myself in the ass for not trying

JDAC2209199 · Answer

Sometimes, if I suspect it and I like them I'll let them know by getting close to them physically and mentally *I mean mentally like by connecting with them and talking to them a lot about things we like and what we should do together" usually friendship turns into more if you're both willing, other times a girl could be infatuated with me and I'd be so blind. Usually it's because I didn't even consider them an option like they're too good for me or we're quite different it's so out of the blue I only realise it when I second take after it's too late.

magiusX26 · Answer

nope. its believed that i have a very mild form og aspergers (a common sign is missing social cues) because that is pretty much only time I completely miss social cues is in the area of romantic relationships. have had times women have overtly flirted with me while othets were around and i did not notice at all only to have others point it out afterwards (and a few try to point it out while its happening) . so i spend my life having to second guess if "it" was flirting afterwards. an example would be years ago when i did food demos (i sold sausage links and meatballs) , i had one overtly comnenting "i want to taste your sausages and meatballs. i want them on my mouth" and i did not get the hint she was flirting.

Lliam · Answer

I'm pretty good at picking up cues, and sometimes they are pretty obvious. I mean, if someone brightens up, smile, and say "Hi!" whenever they see you and/or finds opportunities to chat on a personal level, they're probably interested. If they sit next to you or, better yet, say that they're going for coffee or lunch and wonder if you want to join them, it's definite cue. I had one girl bring me a souvenir from her vacation. Another bought a new car and asked if I wanted to drive it.

But people who are shy or bad at sending signals might really like you, but they are much harder to read.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe - I don’t see anyone giving signs that they’re interested, but that could be because it’s likely that no one is into me.

I’ve been able to tell if it seems pretty blatant - I’ve had girls flirt without interest so even flirting doesn’t mean I will respond to it. I’ll usually just assume they are trying to mess with me, or they’re just flirty with most guys (that’s usually what it is). Too subtle, and I’ll just think they’re being nice.

- But IF women ARE flirting with me, they’re extremely subtle. Not many would pick up on it. I assume no one is interested because no one seems to be making any effort. No flirting, no one is exactly calling me or texting me. There’s no one liking all my posts, no giggling at my stupid jokes; no hints whatsoever.

Anonymous · Answer

Most men rarely know if a woman is into them because women are almost never clear about it. They drop subtle hints, which can easily be confused for her just being friendly. This creates obvious problems for men, but also for women because they often complain about men not picking up their "obvious" cues, but also complain that they can never be nice to guys for fear they will misinterpret it as something more. So by rarely being direct and clear about their intentions, women create problems and frustration for both sexes.

Tylerstevenson1974 · Answer

I can generally tell if someone has an interest but what gets more challenging is sparking simple innocent flirting with real interest. Many people flirt as a default but not everyone is willing to go to the next level. For this reason I will not act unless the girl makes it obvious she likes me likes me.

Anno2 · Answer

Widened eyes, dilated pupils. Increased blood flow making touch feel hot.

Easiest way knowing is if the body acts weird and all senses act towards you. Like a robot. Paralinguistics will be softer and immediate.

Human love ritual is something that's been grinded for thousands of years so it's quite obvious.

GingerGuy · Answer

Know... never. A few times I've questioned it. But I think very few women have ever been with me, and of the few that maybe have been, they've been too subtle to know for sure. Or I've misread it completely as some I've asked out, only to be rejected so I guess I misread it completely lol

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

I can tell if someone is attracted but it is difficult to tell if the person likes me enough to spend time with me and get to know me as a multi-faceted person.

Adult friendships are hard and everyone is busy

TheBMG · Answer

I was always clueless. Most of my longer relationships were when the girl just asked me out. I later found out that several girls wanted to date me in high school. I had no clue. I feel bad, because I thought I was the nice guy that got friend-zoned all the time. Fate is cruel sometimes.

Anonymous · Answer

This might be sad but mostly they wanted something from me one advice I knew for sure if he's nice fuckboy or not is he never ever disagree on anything I said or paid attention a little too much. It happened a lot to me and I can easily cut them off so the answer is I probably don’t know if someone is into me with pure intention.

Guccigabbana18 · Answer

Generally my instincts about people liking me are usually right. Not always though.

But sometimes I overthink and rationalise them obviously flirting with me as “being friendly” to avoid embarrassing myself 😂

Anonymous · Answer

I can pick up on this a lot better now than I could 15 years ago. Hindsight is 20/20 but it would of been nice to have that insight back in the day. It would be even nicer to know for sure someone is NOT attracted to me or most important of all trying to friéndzone me.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Women play so much I don't even try to discern it anymore. If she's interested she has to just say it to me. Because otherwise I'm just going to ignore it. My take on it is if she can't have the balls to tell me, clearly she's not that interested.

Mikeysoda · Answer

I overall want to say no. We think we do but people lie, through behavior and verbally. So it is really hard to know for sure smh. However, i am a fan of letting time tell and their overall patterns of behavior and words. That will tell you!

TrueConfection · Answer

I hope not because otherwise it would just mean I am very unattractive. 😳

Realbanger87 · Answer

Ngl at 34 and I'm still so dumb at picking up if a girl is into me. Women stare a lot since I am muscular lean, but I have no idea what to do with these stares or whether or not to approach her fml

Jasmine-Darkfire · Answer

I am better now than a few years ago, I can tell when someone notices me. I tend to be a people watcher sometimes and can usually tell. I cannot say they are really into me though without a doubt.

menina · Answer

Nope, I have no clue 😂😂😂 I wish I could sense that. That way I would know what happened yesterday...

JasM0 · Answer

Outside of them expressing it, no. The use of choosing signals in the climate of #MeToo is helpful and appreciated.  cheers

anon1903 · Answer

Depends on how subtle they're hinting at it. Like if you're shy, want me to flirt, then yeah I probably won't know. Though I'd casually flirt w you... It's complicated.

arodriguez664 · Answer

Yes and no. I have a feeling they might be into me but my negative self talk convinces me to ignore that feeling.

lilyanony1 · Answer

Not really. If we exchange details number etc then yea otherwise no!  I presume that it's just a friendly meeting between two people

EspressoTeen234 · Answer

I have had a few people flirt with me so yes. 13 really is the age where you first start getting flirted when at school.

Crepe_tart · Answer

Yeah, well the last time I knew. He kinda looked for me evrytime we came to school, always wanted to talk. Staring at you also

DaveJord · Answer

I think I know when there is a possibility that someone might be, but you will never know until put forth the effort to find out.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know how but me & girl both knew we had feelings for each other. I hate to love because she’s kind of an asshole. I kind of moved on from her though. I’d rather have girlfriends like her & prefer to be alone. I’ll have kids via surrogacy.

Ninani · Answer

Most often, yeah. I'm not the best judge of how into me they are or whether they want to move it along or keep it platonic, though.

AdithyaR · Answer

I'm totally oblivious to it. As a safe method, I generally assume everyone is being nice to me so I never realise that someone is flirting with me. Plus I know that won't actually happen.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

If they present themselves in a way that's not a weird way my problem is most young females dont flirt well I get girls in early 20s that don't know how to flirt in a way that makes me feel they want a date

Citizenkirk · Answer

When the doctor stick's his fingers inside an open wound to check for fragments before suturing you up.

cookiecrusher · Answer

Probably not most of the time.

Most women don't let guys know or just play their mind games, like i'll go follow him and stand in his personal space, without even looking at him, then he will know and stuff like that😗

Nigjt · Answer

No I am one of them dumb ASSESS who always finds out to late or never ever does it is really really hard for me to know unless she is really putting it on the table for me or if we are by our self's.
God Bless

Saville_Row · Answer

I guess, but usually they are into a lot of other women as well. So is not just me.

melanieeeB · Answer

I don't think i do, I know it for sure. Mostly you just know in your gut that someone is into you

MrCommodore · Answer

Sometimes, but I had a situation in recent years with a girl who really confused me.

Phoenix-gb · Answer

Not a clue, to the point I'm pretty sure no-one ever has.

DiegoO · Answer

I am absolutely clueless about looking for a partner; worst at guessing if someone is into me.  Honestly, with all the BS that's going in my life, I can't afford having a romantic relationship.

Northernlights25 · Answer

If they are fairly overt in their behavior yes. But the subtle hints I rarely pick up on. And some women's idea of subtle is just to completely avoid me lol.

MelonSoda · Answer

No, I'm too stupid to know when someone is flirting with me unless they make it blatantly obvious.

ajafaro · Answer

For me it's obvious, if I like someone I can't get my eyes away and look at her more than usual

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Most times, but always. Either that or I am Just being dismissive that they are which may be more likely as I think about it.

Medhat-M · Answer

Yeah very much... I'm aquarius... I'm basically like a radar

boobliker · Answer

that depends on how well they hide it it can take a good bit of work to find out a girl likes you as i remember from being a teen

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

If she shows it than yes but if she doesn't than no, cause not every person who treats you nice and smile to you means that he/she's into you...

jamesgoldman · Answer

Absolutely not, I could win an award for my obliviousness

AndrésC64 · Answer

Not at all. I don't think most men are. We don't do hints well. You need to hit us over the head.

McKellar · Answer

Either that person is into you, or they are just being way too sweet, nice & leading you on. ... which clearly they shouldn't.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

I always know when someone is into me, because no one us ever into me. That realy simplifies the process

InferiorElegy · Answer

Girls are never into me and that's fine, I've lost all hope and care towards dating. I'll just stay away from people until I die.

tango_mango · Answer

Haha , no , im autistic and im terrible with emotions , I've often confused a girl being friendly as that of someone who is becoming sexually attracted or flirting with me.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I can usually tell but I often choose to ignore it if I don't return the feelings.

Guanfei · Answer

Yes. Since no one is into me, I pretty much know.

vduong1988 · Answer

Yes some the guys try to ask me out I’m not interested of them

Gal67 · Answer

No, I wouldn't have a clue. I'm completely oblivious to it.

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