Can you tell when someone is into you?

[7Phoenix7]

[DishLady]

INTO YOU is simple... a guy is usually demonstrative about being into a girl --> Gives the girl a lot of his time and attention, chats her up about literally anything under the sun, blah, blah, blah. He's pretty smitten when he goes a step further, like...

• He switches from occasional to daily time and attention. It's so hard to get quality time out of some guys, but when they're smitten they'll find any moment they have to call/text/be with you.
• He finds reasons to mention you or use your wording with things. You're on his mind, so some mention of you or of something you said might make its way into conversation whether he wants it to or not.
• He'll call you pet names and offer kind/sweet words. Guys will say nice things and sound sweeter towards a girl when they're "sweet on" her. Their tone, facial expression... everything about them kind of switches over a little, sometimes overtly, sometimes just enough to be noticeable.
• He finds excuses to be close to you. Guys will find reasons to suddenly be in your personal space, to brush past you or touch you, hold a door or chair or anything to be helpful in a way that keeps them close to you.
• He lets down his guard for you. Guys can be on the grumpy, tight-lipped side in general. When he let's you tease him about stuff, starts joking with you and such, he's left his armor at the door to come be with you (so to speak).
• He asks and cares wtf happens to you (either in your past or present) but also knows how to give you space. He wants to know about your day, your life, etc.
• He's open to your opinion and doesn't (or TRIES not to) get defensive about feedback, opinions or stories you share with him.
• He looks over your shoulder to see what you're doing. (Not in the creepy/clingy/toxic way, but in a cute way because he's curious, like a little kid, often also using it as an excuse to hug you.)
• He gets physical with you. PDA becomes a thing even if he's not much of a PDA sort of person in general. He'll make the exception bc you're his girl.
• He shares and confides in you, walks alongside you through his troubles, and asks about/helps with yours. Once he's comfortable with you and knows you are as well, a guy will start sharing deeper stories about himself as a show of faith and trust.

There's a bit more, but you get the gist. There's "into you" which is preliminary (possibly not permanent) and "smitten" which is something he'll invest his heart, mind and soul... so you have to respect that about a guy and not take it for granted.

[Account]

I can very much tell when others are flirting with each other or when they are into each other or when someone likes a person I know, or when someone I know likes someone, but when it comes to me I am usually fucking clueless and surprised if they become more direct and express it.
But maybe that is because it is not something I really focus on.
That is possibly because I am not very much in touch with my feelings in general, let alone the feelings of others - especially romantic feelings towards me.
Damn I hope I explained it well since my thought-pattern is very chaotic.

[JonesT10Apr]

same for me as well..

I can understand others easily rather myself and my closest

[HawkPerception]

Funny thing is I'm usually good at judging someone's character/personality by their exterior features (how they dress, move, and speak), but I've never been good at picking up if a girl is into me unless she was being super obvious about it.

[TeatimewithCowboys]

Same here man. Either way I would rather a girl who knows what she wants and makes things clear than one who hints and beats around the bush

[HawkPerception]

@TeatimewithCowboys Absolutely agreed with ya man. Wish it was more of a societal norm for girls to approach guys and not just have them waiting for a guy to approach them

[DishLady]

While I understand what you’re both saying, and I myself do prefer the guy reach out or initiate at least certain major things as we move towards a relationship, sometimes the first greeting or contact does come from the girl….

(Also, tbh, looking at a lot of what’s on the site, I don’t think that many girls do wait anymore… not for the right guy anyway.)

[MrOracle]

If you are a girl talking about a guy, it's usually pretty simple: he'll be paying you a lot of attention, more than the average acquaintance. That's the biggest and most obvious indicator.

[GeminiDiamond]

Giggity giggity. Or if he keeps looking at my boobs. 💋

[paledreams]

Oh right 👍🏻▶️

[paledreams]

😎🆒 gig.

[MrOracle]

@GeminiDiamond Yes, that's also a pretty positive sign...

[Finchie40]

Usually yes, if she is trying to see me or hear from me as much as possible , that usually indicates she is into me , also the way she looks at me or acts around me as well. I am pretty good with picking up on body language

[CrazyGirl2]

Yes! I can absolutely tell when someone is into me. Most guys are not exactly subtle with their “peacocking”, or their flirting skills. But when you have to tell a guy 4 or more times to eff-off it’s pretty obvious he has no respect for your current relationship!

Laura hug 🤗

[7Phoenix7]

So true

[CheekyAF]

How are they peacocking?

[CrazyGirl2]

@CheekyAF Well like they'll walk up and say something like “can I buy you a drink, and even though I say “No thank, but I really appreciate the offer” they’ll say something like, “Oh, I’m just celebrating because an app i’ve been working on, just got a major investor, and we’ll be launching in the Apple, and Google Play Store next month! I mean it’s possible that three guys in the club that night all got investor for an app that will be launching, but I highly doubt it. It’s basically like saying, sure I’m broke now… BUT I’ll be getting a Lamborghini in six to 8 weeks! You would be amazed how many guys claim to be coming into a LOT of money like any day now! it’s insulting, not only because when I go out I make sure I’m wearing my engagement ring, so they clearly know I’m not single, but assume I’ll screw a guy if he has the “promise of millions of dollars in a few weeks”

Obviously there are other ways guys peacock, the most common is dressing well, but we all do that, and there’s nothing wrong with it. But that’s just one of the newer things i’ve been seeing lately.
Take care, Laura 🤗

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@CrazyGirl2 you go to the club without your fiance? Sus💀

[CrazyGirl2]

@PrettyCrumblBb Yes, I don’t see any issues to a club w/ female and gay-male friends, if Lee is working, or if it’s just a special occasion girls night out, and I go with his blessing. If you think a 21yo woman going with friends, all of whom are in committed relationships, is “sus”? Then that speaks VOLUMES more about your character, than it does mine, Karen. I think you are projecting there just a little TOO much, sweetie. Maybe YOU cannot go out with friends without cheating on the man you “love”, I don’t have any issues going out with friends, most of whom were his friends first, and then going home to the man I love with a clean conscience. If you can’t, then I think you need to spend more time correcting your own character flaws, and less time projecting them onto women you don't know.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Calm down snowflake, I'm a Christian woman with morals. I've never even been to a club. Nice try though. The only one projecting is you. I can't believe I triggered you. 😂 This is the Internet lady. You don't have to get mad at a stranger. All I know is sleezy people go to clubs. ✌️Take care.

[CrazyGirl2]

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@PrettyCrumblBb How on EARTH would you KNOW that ONLY "sleazy people" go to clubs, If you are a such morally superior person who’s never even BEEN to one? Also, you really should learn the difference between triggered and disgusted! I’m disgusted that someone who claims to be a Christian, passed judgment on six women, ALL in committed relationships, and one who is engaged to be married, and just happen to enjoy dancing at a club, are ONLY there to cheat!

Although I’m Jewish, I was in the process of converting to Christianity when I was 13 but when I realized JUST HOW MANY, judgmental hypocrites, there were in the Church, (especially the women), I was SO disgusted by it, I left the church completely! So I hope you DO get to stand before your judge one day and answer for your Anti-Christian judgmental treatment of others! (especially those you know nothing about!)

Remember, that as a Christian, you are supposed to live your life as an example to other’s. So that they can look at you, and see Christ within you, and WANT to be like you! Yet you choose call me, (someone you know NOTHING about) names, you insult me, and you impugned my character, by publicly stating that going to dance at a club without my fiancé was “sus 💀” (meaning I was there to cheat on him, since “sus” means very suspicious!) Yet… Even if I DID go with my fiancé, by your OWN words, you would have judged and condemned us BOTH as being “Sleazy”! (Since you have already clearly written that "All I know is sleezy people go to clubs” (by the way, you misspelled sleazy).
Continued...

[CrazyGirl2]

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I would say that was not very Christian of you, but that is EXACTLY what I would expect from someone like you. (meaning a judgmental Christian, who believes that going around telling everyone you're a Christian, while carrying a Bible big enough to choke a mule, makes you literally BETTER than them!) When it was Christ himself commanded his followers, to NOT proclaim their faith publicly! And that when you when you give, give in secret, and when you pray, do not pray out on the street where everyone can see you, and say "look there goes a righteous man" for that man has received his reward on earth. Instead, when you pray go in to your room, close the doors, shut the windows, and pray silently in the dark, so that only the Lord may hear you pray! THEN you shall receive your reward in heaven” Mat 6: 1-8.
I love how Matthew 6 begins in verse 1, when it states "“Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.”

So you are free @prettycrumblbb to call me whatever you want. I no longer care what you faux righteous people have to say! I’m a moral person, and I did not need Christianity to make me know right from wrong! You however, just 3 months ago, actually told a man to throw himself under a bus! How “Christian” of you to tell someone to commit the ultimate sin, of suicide! I guess you really can judge a tree by the fruit it bears!
(source: Why can't I think of hurting this girl? ↗ )

I doubt you read this far, if you didn’t, that’s a shame. You might have learned something, about what being a truly moral, non-judgmental person really is.
Laura.

[Levin]

It would be interesting contrasting an American's woman's dating experience with Brits versus Americans. Brits are meant to be much shyer and less willing to be bold and approach.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Levin I don't know about that, sweetie. My dad is British, and he pursued my mom. She asked him for directions to a train station, and he offered to walk her there. By the time they got to the train station, after mom bought her ticket, dad bought one for the same train. He said she gave him a “stalker-vibe” look, but he told her “I was enjoying the conversation, but if you would prefer to be alone, I’ll understand” They spent every day together for the entire week. He visited her in Germany (where she was based) the following weekend and every weekend thereafter. They were married three months after they met! I would say in my experience British men are extremely forward and charming. My family still live there, and have an estate in Ibiza. It’s my favorite place on earth, and I’ve personally had a LOT of British guys hit on me while I was vacationing in Ibiza, especially when I was 14, 15, and the last time I was there during spring break when I was 16. (My parents took me, when I was accepted to college 2yrs early.) Plenty of British guys approached me, I just turned them down, b/c I had a boyfriend.

[Levin]

hmm, that is interesting. I'd like to think I'm charming, especially on the rare occasion I like a girl with all of my being. Like I said, I met an American girl at the start of the month and it would be interesting to know how she perceived my Britishness. That interaction felt so nice. Like it was just me and her and none of the world mattered. However, it was probably one sided and I was fangirling as she was touring with her band. ha. Ah well.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Levin The only way you'll ever know the answer to that question, is to reach out to her, and ask her. Maybe not directly ask her “so… how did you perceive my pursuit of you?” But reach out, trust me, as a girl who has wondered if a guy liked me, if she was impressed by your charm, she will be very happy to hear from you. I mean why not? What do you possibly have to lose, versus what might you gain?

Take care.
Laura 🤗

[Sharkstealth]

So if I've never been told to fuck off I'm OK? A woman I like recently says nice to see you and another always smiles at me and moves close. She also lifts her shirt to show off her ass which by the way is very nice.

[Crimsyjo]

No! Haha. I was gonna say yes. But actually I think it's massively hard to know if someone is just being friendly, is just a flirty person, or actually really likes you!

It's why dating is so damn hard these days!!

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, I'm pretty observant, and plus I like to only pursue women if I know for sure that they are at least fairly attracted to me, so I look for those signs..

[IslaTheWitch]

I think we all can... consciously or subconsciously...

I'm an observer... I see it often :D

[Insecure2]

I cannot tell if someone is into me or not. I always think they might be, but then I'm not so sure anymore or IT turns out they aren't. Sometimes it's the other way around. IT would be great if there was a manual for this🫤

[coxoabean]

I can sometimes, especially when he makes it so obvious. Although at times boys behavior can confuse me... I wish I could just read their mind sometimes.

[MicahRaine]

I can tell when someone is flirting with me, but not when they're into me.

It's hilarious because I can tell when someone is into a guy or girl friend from a mile away but when it's me, I'm blind

[Nxtawm]

Nope, I usually have a hard time believing someone is into me too so doesn't rlly help

[Insecure2]

I totally understand. I have the same problem too.

[RebelinSteel]

No im really poor at that, I default to them just being friendly and having a laugh.

[Account]

A 100% this.

[RebelinSteel]

@Account yeah it’s sort of a thing with Demis. The shock is when they try to make a pass, that is really a woah moment

[sirderpsalot123]

Girls don’t like boys, girls like cars and money

[sirderpsalot123]

Sorry lol that song just randomly got stuck in my head just now

[7Phoenix7]

Smh lol

[sirderpsalot123]

I'll be waiting for my MHO 😎

[7Phoenix7]

You're gonna be an old man waiting lol

[paledreams]

I usually get some eyeballs 👀😁 or more intense eyeballs 👁️👁️ and it's not the type that are glaring - more like, staring (stare bear) lol 🐻🐨 - whether good or bad

[paledreams]

Sometimes I'm wrong, sometimes I am right, sometimes I'm half and half 🙂😁👀♀️😋 ahhh the ladies, the ladies, 20s women 😬☯️ they never learn that *my eyes spy eyes on me* lol (why so stare bear bro) lol 🥴😔☺️

[idonotlikeyou]

Of course, I can. But I rarely pay attention to it. It doesn't matter who is into me. What matters is who has sparked my interest.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yeah. They lick their lips, flick their hair, and it's just obvious.

[WhiteSteve]

If it’s overt, yes😂 Probably not as reliably if it’s subtle😅

[Sharkstealth]

Well smiles and moving close and showing more skin when near me then covering up after going away is what makes me approach. After that I'm confused most of the time.

[jack1924]

My response when someone tries to tell me that they are into me

cluelesssssss

[Bricealan]

Well of course, she tells me she feels "stretched and burning" ?

[CubaPirate]

Absolutely you should definitely feel it unless he's real small lol 😆 😂 😅

[7Phoenix7]

Hahaha 🤣

[Anonymous]

No, I'm not very good at reading "signals".

[7Phoenix7]

That's okay. Are you an introvert?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I am.

[7Phoenix7]

So am I... i understand you 😉

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the understanding ;)

[7Phoenix7]

Once again, you're welcome 😊

[Ms_Facesitter]

Easily. His eyes wonder. Lean in and smile and he starts tripping over his words. They'll love spending time with you, as if you're close friends. If you let him you might hear from him everyday. And if you want to see him, he'll be there.

[genericname85]

only if they are very invasive and clingy trying to be around me or if they are straight up telling me.

[Pohjolan]

This is a case of the dilemma of a broken sensor. We do not know if we don't get a reading because it is broken or because there isn't anything to measure.

[robocop666]

Yeah I am able to red body language. Are you not?

[7Phoenix7]

Yeah, most of the time.

[LiamJHayden]

If I approach her and we start conversing, almost always can tell. My blind spot is when she approaches me. I am always shocked.

[AydenHazor]

I can usually tell if someone is into someone else, but not usually if they're into me, then I turn oblivious

[PapaJedi]

Unfortunately no. I'm only good at my career.

[Anonymous]

You can tell. You just can't tell whether it's genuine or not. a lot of women just like to FAKE interest. When all she's really interested in is your interest in her.

[Booklover_90]

Nooo. I’m awful at that. I’ve always guessed incorrectly. 😅

[MrDaveAPSI]

Not at all. I know girls are really subtle with their signs, so, i just have a hard time reading them

[andy530]

lol I’m awful at this. I can always tell when someone is into someone else though I don't know why I’m blind to it when it’s me

[Emmytexrex]

Lol I know very well no matter how she tries to hide it I have been studying human psychology

[KrakenAttackin]

Yes, once you can filter out the cock teasing.

[Amur8711]

Apparently I wasn't when I was younger, probably not now either. I guess not good at showing interest either.

[IloveWinters]

I definitely cannot... It's tough for me to understand that

[Nikki1989]

Most of the time, yes.

[mandyfire98]

Usually yeah I can tell pretty quickly.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nah completely clueless

[12karen]

No unfortunately I can't tell

[NathanDavis]

yep, i

[NathanDavis]

The answer was posted before I was done. The answer is, yep I can.

[AdolfWasRight1488]

Yes, but I don't care

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes. Its obvious af.

[dragoblack]

Nope. Unless obvious, I'm oblivious af

[Darkest-Knight]

I wouldn't have a clue.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Yes!

[TeatimewithCowboys]

Yeah but I always miss it 😂

[eagle1951]

not on your life

[Anonymous]

Nobody is ever into me, and the feeling is mutual

[DJB72]

Not historically

[Con29]

Hey can I ask you something

[Con29]

Yeah you can

[7Phoenix7]

? You answered you're own question?

[sirderpsalot123]

😂😂

[Miah04]

Not usually