Do you know when someone is attracted to you or you only suspect it? Do you not notice at all?

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Explorer91 · Accepted Answer

Depends what type of attraction your talking.
There’s attraction where you technically find the person attractive, but that’s all. You don’t see yourself with that person in any way. so in that case then no you probably won’t be able to notice, because people can find a lot of people attractive on a daily basis especially if out and about.
but if someone’s into you then usually you can notice,, even if they think they are being subtle. Kind of like if your in a bad mood but try to hide it. Never really works.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

I am as dense as a brick wall, haha.
Ironically I can read when someone else has someone they're interested in, but for myself? Not even a little.

I assume no one is attracted to me unless they outright tell me, "Yes, I'm attracted to you." Because in the past when I assumed a guy liked me? Nope. They only wanted to be friends or the feeling wasn't mutual.

Andres77 · Accepted Answer

I'm so clueless...
It's happened a lot before. I'll tell my wife story from when I was a teenager and she'll look at me incredulous...
What?
Then she'll say "she was flirting with you".

Basically she's said the following many times: "you could have had so much more pussy if you hadn't been so clueless... maybe it's better that way...".

red324 · Accepted Answer

I usually can't tell unless she's able to look me in the eyes etc. These occurances are so rare that I get caught off guard. Like I was mowing the yard one time and this cute jogger girl came by and I was pushing lawn mower down the sidewalk. It wasn't even on, but she shot me the cutest wave and smile. Definitely don't see that often. Lol

Pinay_ako · Answer

Yes when they’re too obvious and no if they’re genuinely nice to everyone. I don’t want to assume until they tell me but I have no problem telling someone I like them

AmandaYVR · Answer

Nope. I hardly ever know. I always assume not. They have to club me over the head, practically.

EnglishArtsteacher · Answer

It depends on what type of attraction you're talking about.

I can tell when someone is attracted to my personality, and wants to talk to me. They usually start the conversation, talk to me with a smile, and are excited to see me. Even if it's not from a romantic, and/or dating standpoint, I can tell.

When it comes to physical attraction, it's a bit trickier. I do catch women sometimes staring at me, and blush at me when they talk to me. I don't have it happen too often, but it does at times. For whatever reason, women between 18-25ish years old find me much more attractive than women in my age range-and when I was between 18-25 years old, it seems older women found me more attractive than my age group.

Hmmmsomething · Answer

I'm completely oblivious, mainly due to low self esteem, I refuse to believe any girl is interested in a ugly fuck like me,
There's have been a few times when I was jus sitting chillin in the corridor.. and some girl comes up n smiles, or smiles n sits next to me and tried to talk to me.. and even invites me into her house if I want... But I jus think they're just being friendly and not sexually/romantically interested in me

The only way I'd know if a girls interestd in me is if she straight up jus tells me that she fancies me... That's the only way I would know

I'm still a virgin at 24

_Troian_ · Answer

Sometimes, because some girls are very good at hiding it. There was a girl once in my highschool, I wasn't even aware of her existince lol then one day my friend told me about her and she said that girl is really into me, she wants to meet etc and I was surprised, she was a person who i didn't even see her in my life but it turns out she was seeing me everyday lol.

Anonymous · Answer

I am stupidly oblivious, I had a friend that woke up early (like 5:30am) to send me a good morning text everyday before I had to go to work and would let me call him nicknames (he hates nicknames with a passion) and when I asked why he lets me call him nicknames he said it's because he just doesn't mind it when I say it and that it is cute when I do. I look back and think oh that those things were probably a sign that they liked me and only found out because two of our mutual guy friends told me.

Adam1978 · Answer

I would say all three is true, it just depends on the woman and her behavior. There can be women out there that i can't read. And then there is people who is obvious what they want. And then there is some in between.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

Oooh,

A Danish pretty face - with a promisingly large head! I like :-)!

Re: the q - usually, yes. That being said, 'attracted to' means many things to many people - some expect you start by feeding them, some by playing the 'let's string each other along and see where we end up' fame, some simply expect a flirt back as confirmation something real can come out of it.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

It depends, if a woman notices me and is kind, I know there's something there even if it's small enough it will never get acted on; I'm kinda bad about picking up on high levels of interest though because every time I've gone after a chick with that energy, it has turned out poorly for me.

15_Debo · Answer

Well sometimes I am right but usually guys are hard as shells and are not easy to interpret but I EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED so a sudden confession doesn't surprise me.

Rachelspiks · Answer

Unless the person actually told me, I would have no idea they were attracted to me. I just do not see the so-called signs of attraction, or any of the other non-verbal signals that people apparently emit.

lightbulb27 · Answer

nope, I was dumber than a door nail... that's an old expression. has something to do with deflecting any sense of interest in me... avoidance personality. apologies for all the girls I hurt by avoiding them rather than being direct.

MrCommodore · Answer

Sometimes I sense that a girl might like me, but its difficult to be sure.
Other times I have been totally unaware, a few girls kissed me and I hadn't detected that they liked me, maybe I wasn't paying attention fully.

Cherry234 · Answer

I don't always know. But if a guy is always flirting with me or it seems like he wants to be around me a lot then I suspect he's attracted to me. But I definitely notice the flirting and the compliments

krin_m · Answer

I normally make sure that I convey my attraction to the woman without being vulgar.
Like nice compliments on her looks, smile etc. If she responds positively then I can make sure that I'm attracted to her. If it is mutual I always get a clear response!
If it is not mutual, I drop the effort and just have a normal friendly interaction.

Interstate · Answer

There is a girl at work whom I see peeks my way a lot. One day I spoke to her, and her tone in return was "gigglish" w/o the giggle, and with a slight smile.

ohshee · Answer

Well if a person doesn't notice then they are either dead or they are sleeping LOL it's very very easy to tell when somebody is especially if they're around you all the time

Vikkrram · Answer

When the feelings are mutual, yes you can understand by their behaviour, expressions, awkwardness, eye to eye contact, eyes tells a lot about person's behaviour.

dustybiker · Answer

I’ve always attracted the awkward boys. Grown men tongue tied. You smile and it makes it worse. Have to feel sorry for them, but yes attraction stands out.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

The thing is I always wonder, could he be attracted, is he being nice or is it something more, is he starting at me in a good or a bad way etc. I guess I'm pretty clueless lol

Alyssa11 · Answer

I do... guys make it quite obvious lol. They just stare at you straight or keep glancing at you - like every 30 seconds.

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

Honestly I’m not really sure because I have body dysmorphia and probably 80% of the time I see myself as ugly lol

Dude_777 · Answer

I am pretty observant, observe anything and everything, even subtle green flags and red flags and figure out the truth. The key is to read their actions and not fall for their words. If you pay close attention, you can read everything clearly.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

I want to believe... Because I feel it around every corner. But I also know I can't be that attractive

Gingersnapz74 · Answer

I have ZERO clue when a dude is into me. They basically have to spell it out for me and say hey I'm into you. I don't get subtle hints.

beebella · Answer

Sometimes it's easy to tell when a guy finds me attractive (some guys are just that obvious), other times I think it's just wishful thinking on my end. 😂

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Men aren't as difficult to read and they think. Most the time they make it obvious but on the rear occasion I've had no idea

menina · Answer

I have no idea when someone is attracted to me. I actually need them to tell me, otherwise I don't get it.

AngelMegumin · Answer

It comes with gradual building of relationships, when you c a person in different life situations. This experience says much more then any words.

beachloverr · Answer

I don’t think there is a way to know did certain unless you’re told. But when suspecting it, I’d say long glances.. eye contact.. an inviting smile.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

No. I notice instantly if a girl is interested in me. I have just a problem to recognize if her interest is some kind of hatred or the opposite. That's why ignore girls a time long until I can recognize their intentions.

anniisa97 · Answer

I suspect it, but until they out right tell me I can't actually be sure

Seinna · Answer

I think I usually notice... at least I was never surprised by a sudden confession.

Browneye57 · Answer

I didn't when I was your age. It wasn't till I understood what made women tick, and what motivates them, and why they do what they do, that I began to notice.

KyleC19 · Answer

I didn’t know at first but she made did something and after that I started to realize all the things that she has been doing to me is because she likes me. But before this girl I never notice when a girl is interested nor do I really care

jj-bnobb · Answer

That really depends on the person in my experience. Some are obvious some like to play games and some are shy.

doopayo · Answer

When I was younger it was harder to tell but now it’s easier

Janessa2021 · Answer

From past experiences , I can honestly say I don't even know. cuz everytime I assumed a guy liked me they didn't they just lusted me and and wanted to make a fool of me so🤷‍♀️

Gothrocker · Answer

I don't notice one bit so it surprises me when they ask me out

BlondeGoneWild · Answer

I can tell when someone finds me physically attractive

IveGotNoName · Answer

Nah, I don't have the self esteem to ever know someone is attracted to me unless they say it

jessicarosen · Answer

I think so. You may have a feeling or thought that convinces your mind there is a sense of attraction.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Past experiences say I don't realise until they actually make a move on me Even if I get told, I still doubt it and so don't act

Youdumbeotch · Answer

I’m better at noticing attraction amongst two people rather than my own. I almost never get past formal introductions with people to even build attraction lol

TodsShadow · Answer

I never notice till later when they’re in a relationship. Why even admit that to someone if you are in a relationship? Why would that matter? But yeah I never get it the picture.

Relux47 · Answer

I think someone is attracted to me because what that person did one day and no girl that I ever knew or knows has ever done that but in reality they are not

fred_durst · Answer

i can't notice it at all until it is very obvious just because she is nice to you , doesn't mean she sees you that way , many men actually make mistake on this

anylolone · Answer

You can't ever know. But I got I good grasp on it if I care. Gosh, frequently I notice it even when I'm trying to force myself not to notice it.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I am usually 100% clueless. I do not know how many chances that I have missed over the years.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I honestly don’t know. I try not to assume as I’ve misread what I thought were obvious signs before.

Ke_vin · Answer

No I don’t know I just can’t tell when the look at me I keel looking around and looking at myself thing something is wrong with me

jasco · Answer

honestly no i more than likely wouldn't notice because i don't come off as attractive to anyone apparently

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I may notice something but I never can tell what it means. Whether it's attraction or something else, I honestly have no clue.

OpenWine · Answer

I don't notice it at all. the hints are so subtle it can be just someone looking at me because I look scary

PlaticXrealityx · Answer

If we are interacting I can usually tell. Maybe not at first but eventually.

Starwitch23 · Answer

I'm clueless person. I'm not smart in that department

ClassyMe · Answer

I’ve never had a guy be attracted to me like that so I don't know.

crazysassypaws21 · Answer

i usually have a hard time tell, but i'm pretty good at make a girl laugh so that one plus lol

Maxnanet · Answer

Its hard to tell for sure , but i think you know inside when someone is NOT into you tho …  If you look inside :p

will34 · Answer

Well if someone says hi to you it’s doesn’t mean they like you he or she is trying to know you that’s all if a person really likes you then you would have know

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