Would you mind if your spouse didn't want to wear a wedding ring?

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Craftsman · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't mind if my spouse (were I to have and be one, which is not the case) would not wear a wedding ring. There are a few reasons for that.
Marriage is a union of two hearts and souls for mutual benefit. Wearing or not wearing a ring is a poor indicator of the level of commitment. Look at the number of people who cheat, even while wearing a wedding ring.
We work with our hands. Whether one is a stay-at-home person doing laundry and dishes or out 'on the job' in whatever capacity, a ring, any ring, can get painfully in the way. I've had my middle and little fingers bruised by too firm a handshake. Anyone doing manual labor knows to take off the ring before working in the shop, changing a tire, or even washing hands thoroughly. Bacteria can thrive in damp skin under rings.
Then there 's the expense of the ring, and the financial loss if it gets lost, broken or stolen. Men don't usually have diamonds in their wedding bands, though women often do. Not only can the diamond scratch precious glass and china, it can cut through dishwashing gloves, driving gloves, and dress gloves. Sometimes the stone gets loose and lost.
All reasons to put the wedding rings in a safe storage place. The love they symbolize is best expressed with hugs, kisses, mutual support and mutual respect.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

I'd scratch my head about it for sure.
Like why would she not wear it? Is she ashamed of being my wife? Is there someone else? Yada yada yada.
Now I probably wouldn't end our relationship over it but it's certainly a dinner table conversation if her reason makes sense I'll live with it but ideally if I do end up going all the way to marriage one day I expect the full song and dance

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

Yes! I would not like that! However if my husband had a job where the machinery would tear his finger off it the machine catches it, then obviously he can’t wear the ring during the world week! But the whole “I don’t want to wear a ring BS, is just that BS.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Accepted Answer

I’d be a little sad lol.  I wear jewelry 24/7 whether it be rings, earrings, or a necklace… My boyfriend does too. So, if I saw my boyfriend NOT wearing his ring, I’d 100% question it

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Most of the married couples I know tell people they are married or show people they are married instead of wearing a ring which is uncomfortable and bad for blood circulation.

godfatherfan · Answer

I was really pissed when my (ex) wife didn't wear her ring. She was a nurse and they have restrictions. But I went and bought her a simple band. She thought it was no big deal but I should have realized it was because she was cheating on me. In the 20 years we were married, I didn't wear my ring exactly 10 days. It fell off my finger at night right after we moved into our first house, but I found it first thing in the morning. Then about 15 years later, I tried to clean it and left it in bleach overnight. That almost destroyed it. It took 9 days to repair it.

DaveJord · Answer

Well I lost my wedding band at work early on in my marriage. I worked on vehicles and it slipped off inside some engine block when hands were all greasy. But I had a job were wearing rings in general were a hazard and potential for getting caught in machinery and losing a finger were high.

My wife lost hers as well, and even though I replaced it she did not wear hers all the time either... and yes it bothered me a little. I didn't make a big deal out of it, but in retrospect yes it bothered me. She never replaced my wedding ring. So that kind of bothered me to, I though she would be a little more into wanting to do that. I went 20 years before divorcing and never wore a ring.

Pasiton5 · Answer

No because we both know we're married God knows we're married the wedding ring is just a a thing so I wouldn't take offense or feel any indifferent if she didn't want to wear it if that's you know if that's how she feels why why should I she's her own individual person she's not a robot she doesn't have to as long as we know we love each other committed to each other no she doesn't wear one way we're awake that's fine unless you have self-control to you know fight off the wolves it's going to be coming at her seeing that she's not wearing one but other than that I'm cool with it

MrOracle · Answer

I would have to wear a silicone ring, as I work with power tools and a metal ring can pinch or be crushed in some situations. But I would wear the ring, and I would certainly expect her to wear hers outside of occupational necessity. She wouldn't need to wear the engagement ring if she didn't want to, but the wedding band would be important.

HighValue · Answer

I'd want her wearing it whenever she goes somewhere without me. It is a sign that she is taken, so if someone goes after her and ignores it, any consequences or violence that comes upon them is their own fault. there would be no excuses for them like, "Oh, I didn't know she was taken."

libsaretards · Answer

Depends on if it is being removed to do a task then put back on or if we are talking about NEVER wearing one. There are times when it is practical to remove the ring.

However, if they NEVER want to wear the ring, that's a huge red flag. The ring is a signal that you are married, loyal and taken. The ONLY reason to object to a wedding ring would be if you plan on being unfaithful and do not want to get caught.

Itsmeeeee77 · Answer

A woman gave me hope lured me in and rejected me and I went distant lured me again hugged me tightly and made me believe that she is into me and dumped me again. In both cases she insulted me pretty badly and watched me and I feel she enjoyed. She then uses her boy friends to post what I told her and made me think that she loves me but indeed she was playing me. What’s more important is I knew what she was doing and I told her. I always told her the truth and she always faked me lied me. I have now blocked her but I really loved her honestly and wanted a family with her. Now since 2 years I was chasing her and I decided it’s time.

dragoblack · Answer

Depends on their reasoning.
•If they want to go out to the bar without it on, that's a red flag.
•if it's for a reason like not wanting to lose it, they can always wear it as a necklace (i highly recommendthis for those who work in the food/restuarant occupation. It prevents it from slipping off at any time)
•if it is for reason or metal allergy or reason of "gets stuck on finger", there are ways to go about still wearing it in other ways. some involve epoxy resin to turn into a necklace, keychain, ear gauge, or earring. Others are like bound on the back of a leather glove or keyfob

Hulk30 · Answer

no because marriage is spiritual it's not legal and many people dont understand that no where in the holy bible can ya find a couple that was legally married before they fucked each other proof of that from the easiest version of the holy bible to understand the new living translation from genesis4:1 now adam had sexual relations with his wife eve and she became pregnant and alotta people dont know that legalized marriage was originally designed in order to keep black men and white women seperated that's why marriage liscences exist it used to actually be illegal from 1661 to 1967 for black men and white women to get legally married so from that perspective i dont feel like my wife would need to actually wear a weddin ring in order to prove to me that she's my wife i really dont need that specific neurotic feelin

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

When I was married, at times neither of us wore our rings.

working on aircraft and other stuff in the Air Force, ran the risk of it causing damage to me or it getting damaged (it has a deep scratch in it).

my ex never when she was working on cars or racing them etc.

we did wear them a lot but was not end of world if we did not.

molonski2 · Answer

Im never able to wear rings , so for me that would be known upfront , its a ludicrous idea that somehow a ring makes you " unattainable " outdated and idiotic quite frankly , so , Id love to find a woman that didn't want to wear it..
Think most guys couldn't care less if they themselves wore..

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

I'd be confused bothered about being out in public if she doesn't want to wear it.

But in the bedroom, not wearing it during sex would be totally fine. It would spice things up. If I married her, I'd want to make sure everyone could tell that her and I were married. I'd be proud to finally be married. To feel like I'd accomplished something. Why would I ever want to downplay that? And why would she?

laurieluvsit · Answer

The ring is to let other girls know that he or she is spoken for.

To not have one on is saying out loud..."I'M AVAILABLE"

No, I think I would pass on that one if I were married or in a committed relationship :)

Would you mind if your spouse didn't want to wear a wedding ring?

Cassie_94 · Answer

If it was because they didn’t like wearing jewellery generally then I wouldn’t have a problem with it 🤷🏼‍♀️ although if I felt that they didn’t want anyone to know they were married, then I would have concerns 🙋🏼‍♀️ but generally speaking, no, I wouldn’t mind because jewellery is a personal choice really.

TheBootyChest · Answer

I wouldn't mind if she couldn't wear her ring for work. But I would mind if she didn't wear it because she didn't like it, but couldn't tell me.

If it's some other reason, I would like for her to help me understand so I can be okay with it. And if she wants to wear it as a necklace instead that's fine too.

Anonymous · Answer

In my opinion if you’ve chosen to become committed, there are rules that everyone follow and you’d have to follow them too. In what situation you’re going to need to take your ring off.
It brings a sense of security. But a ring isn’t a magic ring! Wouldn’t prevent cheating.
Maybe it’s a symbol of trust. A reminder that you have someone’s heart in your hands.
Many times trust has been broken.
It’s complicated. If a relationship is rotten you can’t save it.
A ring isn’t a leash either. Honesty is the best approach. Be honest with yourself and your partner in life.

exitseven · Answer

I only wear my wedding ring when I get dressed up. It pinched my finger when I workout and I don;t want to be putting it on and taking it off all the time because I know that I will lose it. My wife has some arthritis in her hands and doesn't wear her ring much either.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

Yes, I would have an issue of them not wearing there ring. Is there a good reason for them not to wear it?

magiusX26 · Answer

somewhat. a small part of me would like her yo wear onejust for the sake of tradition. likely i would not keep mine on either as am not used to wearing any jewelry all the time, especially rings (really hard for me to wear one after anything gets any sort of wet feeling under it)

Massageman · Answer

My wife really wears her rings even when she shouldn't - heavy cleaning, gardening, etc.

I am usually doing things in the home/workshop/volunteering in which a ring can get in the way. Whenever we "go out", though, I do have a wedding band that I typically wear. (Of course with all the Wuhan virus shutdowns, we haven't been going out all that much.) sigh

MrtoddsWildRide · Answer

Depends on the situation. If her job prevented it, that's one thing. My ex-wife took hers off when she was pregnant because of the weight gain and I had no issue with it. I did take issue when she lost it and then the one I got her to replace it. Of course that was all just symptomatic of other issues we had...

RedStiletto88 · Answer

Oh yes I would definitely mind that! Rings symbolize our love and commitment to each other and i am always proud to wear any ring given in commitment. If he is not wearing his I would wonder if he was really committed to me!

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

If they give me a reasonable answer or just reason with me why they don't want to wear a wedding ring, I'd live with it.
If the reason doesn't make any sense, I'm just going to see how the marriage goes.

Lonewulf57 · Answer

Personally, a ring, a tattoo, or ink on a marriage certificate all mean the same to me. Nothing. A person who has feelings in their heart for you, won't cheat, or if they want to, they'll ignore their ring, tattoo, or marriage certificate.

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

Wouldn't mind at all and I am that spouse who doesn't wear hers. I actually don't wear any jewelry. Just feels weird to have it on. Doesn't make me any less married whether it is on or off.

menina · Answer

I wouldn't mind at all. It's just a ring, it doesn't make the person more or less faithful. If they want to cheat they will cheat regardless of wearing a wedding ring or not.

MissEm96 · Answer

My fiancée wanted an engagement ring never mind waiting for a wedding ring 😆 so yeah it would bother me. I look at it as a symbol of commitment though

dustybiker · Answer

No. Medical issues. Allergies to metal, etc. lots of causes to not wear a ring that are out of a persons control.

Heartache0405 · Answer

I'd fear that sense she didn't have a ring, which is meant to be a symbol that they're taken, other men will come around. They do anyway but some don't unless there's no ring.

Midori999 · Answer

Yes! I understand if he had to take it off due to accessory/job restrictions but he is wearing that ring as soon as he is done with work!

RobT312 · Answer

It’s not a big issue for me but guess I’d be a little disappointed. Haven’t run into this problem yet As My fiancée doesn’t want to take her ring off!

Cluelesswpg · Answer

well, I don’t wear mine so I probably can’t get upset if he doesn’t wear his. Although I guess I would wonder why?

ohshee · Answer

When I was married I cannot wear mine because of the work that I do all of you have to do is catch one time and There Goes My Finger

talka20 · Answer

No i would not mind... to me it is a fancy metal piece which is fine but not must at all... she can get n keep it just as her property... or wear it... or sell it... or dont even get it... all good

weysally · Answer

my husband doesn't wear a ring of any kind, to start with he use machinery and if there is a chance it could get caught then its a no no

SurströmmingLover · Answer

Yes, it would be a red flag and something very suspicious. Unless there was a medical reason behind it or it would be taken off to do sports or to cut onions, I guess.

Valso · Answer

I'll never get married by the looks of it, so I'll never be in such a situation.

But from my perspective that's more than a clear sign she want's a divorce bc she's ashamed of being married to the guy and she's trying to attract a new carp.

jshm2 · Answer

No. It's only a bit of metal.  The quality of relationship is more important than any trinkets.

josephinelcajon · Answer

Depends on their job. Some guys wear a simple band and only wear their real wedding ring on special occasions which I think is fine.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Why wouldn't she want to wear it? She must be proud wearing it in public... Also other guys would think before making a stupid move towards her knowing that she'a taken and not single!

Anonymous · Answer

I'd want my man to wear it. He might have to take it off at work since he works with his hands a lot, but I'd want him to wear it the rest of the time.

lrina · Answer

i don't have a spouse but yeah i probably wouldn't have cared too much. up to them honestly

Lynx122 · Answer

No I don't like wearing rings they get stuck on my knuckles when I wanna take them off ^^

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I never wear mine and i wouldn't mind if the Mrs does not wear hers.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Not at all. Many places do not allow you to wear any jewelry at work, and not everyone is into jewelry.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

I’d be curious as to why But, no, I don’t think I’d really mind.

Anonymous · Answer

I would. I mean if he was working somewhere that requires him to get his hands dirty then I’d be okay with him taking it off for but there shouldn’t be a reason for him to take it off. (Unless he has to shower/ sleep/ wash his hands)

Joshua0213 · Answer

Thats what I worry about cause I'm a mechanic for work so I really don't want to lose it or get oil all over it haha but if they had an actual reason its not a big deal

BestWoman · Answer

If he didn't want to wear it, I would understand that his eyes are looking for others. If he doesn't wear it, neither do I. but since I don't have a ring, if there are men who come towards me, then he will think about it for themselves.

Commander_Red · Answer

Yes. I want my future spouse to wear the ring and feel HAPPY and PROUD to wear it. If he wanted to take it off, I'd be very upset.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

Only if it was because it was unsafe to wear at work. Even if he or she has on a ring. People still try to make moves on them

jamesgoldman · Answer

Yeah because I would be in my Liberace hands and she's not even wearing a ring the important bone no less

Anpu23 · Answer

We don't wear rings. One of the reasons is because I am not allowed to wear any jewelry at work.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I would mind a lot! Girls are constantly hitting on him enough already WITH a ring. Imagine what they would do without it on

LauraFalls83 · Answer

It depends Wearing or not ring means nothing It would only be weird if he/she insists you wear your while he/she doesn’t

clampfan101 · Answer

A bit disappointed at first, as I would gladly wear mine til the day one of us parts to Heaven, but it’s all spiritual. Marriage is all in the heart.

Crankor · Answer

Ofcourse, if its suppose to be a symbol of your marriage then what does that mean if you don't wear it and everyone thinks your single?

blueflameleo · Answer

It’s her body I would like it if she did but it’s really up too her if I ever get married

AlexEfron · Answer

Nope. Wouldn't mind. Besides I don't like any ornaments on myself either.

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