What would you do if your long distance partner started to make excuses to not spend time with you?

[Anonymous]

[FictionalCharacter]

It hurts.

I was in a LDR. Where it started out well, but I can sense it’s going down hill. I mean my Ex used to want to take my calls during his work time. That now he doesn’t want to be bothered and put his phone on silent. I’ve confronted him about how I feel like he doesn’t like me anymore. Which he denies, but actions speak louder than words. I keep justifying his actions that it’s “probably me.” Getting more insecure about myself. Like “how can I be better for him?” In the beginning he has told me to “better” myself and to work on my insecurities and self esteem. I began looking into the Bible and self help books 📚 on relationships and self esteem issues. Now he makes fun of me like I don’t need any “help” and he wants to take this relationship slow.

I give up. My gut is telling me “he’s not interested in you anymore.” So I ghosted him. It’s hard and I’m praying I get through it, so I could heal.

[Raindnz]

Long distance relationships are hard and take a lot more open communication and understanding. You should bring it up to him - either when you meet or over video call when he can actually talk to you uninterrupted. If he seems to have a genuine reason and his words and body language match, then be a supportive partner. If not talk through how you feel. If his response is cold, it may be time to move on. At the end of the day, no matter how much it hurts, you cannot make someone genuinely love you. It takes effort from both. I would rather deal with the break up sooner rather than later. At least it would free you up for something or someone else. And do not go back to him unless the reason you moved on has been addressed.
wish you peace and happiness - with or without him!

[loveslongnails]

Realize that LDR's don't last, the whole thing was probably a fantasy from the beginning. He's either found someone local he's interested in or just realized that not seeing you, touching you, or doing things with you isn't really fulfilling,, nor is it a relationship. You should have known this day was coming, and here it is.

[Citizenkirk]

Long distance relationships are tricky and fraught with peril among those who do not have complete and unconditional trust in their partner or significant other.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If you long distance, how do you spend time together? Face time? To me that's not real time spent together... I wouldn't stay with someone who has to make up excuses to not spend time with me, but I mean a real in person relationship, because I wouldn't be in a long distance relationship in the first place

[AmandaYVR]

I had a LDR boyfriend and near the end he definitely lied often. He lied about having to go to a hockey game, a meeting, a dinner with family...
He was evasive af. That's his personality, still is, and always has been.

[the29thhuman]

Bring the matter up to him, allow him to have an opportunity to clear the air. But if it still doesn’t feel right after you give opportunities to arise, then trust your gut that you aren't feeling fuffiled anymore and be on your way to self care and starting fresh. Remember if he tries to pull you back afterwards, you did give him a full fair chance even after he was already giving you cold shoulder! Stand your ground!

[DizzyDesii]

Its happened before. I told him he was creating even more distance between us and i was about that bullshit. If thats happening to you, you should breakup if he doesn't make a move soon. It doesn't mean he's cheating but he's also not putting in the same effort

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a typical closet case. Dump him. Or maybe accept it since most men are gay and will treat you the same. Can’t really win in this situation.

[Asker]

He isn't gay though

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sure that’s what he wants u to believe.

[Asker]

Maybe found another woman.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure, maybe. Either way, he doesn’t like you. You deserve someone that doesn’t run away from you.

[Asker]

Yeah, true

[Opinion Owner]

Hope you find what you’re looking for.

[Asker]

Thank you

[dtweed1996]

Well you can caught your loses before you regret it

[Didlydooper]

Confront him. Communication is key part of a relationship, if he knows your worth then he’ll step up and do what he needs to do to keep the relationship going.

[DaveJord]

End it ASAP... LDR are so hazardous. I would step back from it, and seriously recommend that you start looking for someone closer to home.

[Daniela1982]

How do you spend time with someone who is far away?

[lrina]

i'd have broken up if he did it over a long period of time.

[alice55]

Break up, if they do that it's that they obviously don't like you anymore so no need to annoy him.

[slatyb]

End it, but I think long-distance relationships are silly if there’s no plan to meet.

[Nazorella]

Ask him what’s going on and if you don’t believe the answer just block him.

[AndrésC64]

Never have a long distance "relationship" in the first place, unless there were a real relationship established prior.

[humpbackjack]

Get ready to end things because they’ve either lost or loosing interest or have found someone else

[weasleX9495]

it is over unless you just want sex when you are in town. It is hard to maintain a relationship when you work on the road. Choose wisely , is she worth it? Can you put up with her having sex when you are gone?

[exitseven]

I would have tried harder to make the relationship work. Now I would dump her.

[Anonymous]

Recognise that they are feeling smothered and need space or that it has run its course.

[Asker]

He has plenty of space, we have taken frequent breaks

[the29thhuman]

Why’s it her responsibility to “recognize”, far too common where males don’t speak up and silently expect females to “recognize “ and coach the matter.

[Opinion Owner]

@the29thhuman It's not her responsibility - but she's the one with the highest probability to have that skill set. Men often don't recognise their own emotional state.

[Prettysammie]

I would send him pictures of me and my new near distance partners.

[Ironic_Method]

Move on. I have no time for those who do not make time for me.

[Anonymous]

Start to feel discouraged and consider looking elsewhere.

[noohair]

Loss of interest. Unless they have a super busy job.

[Abby005]

Break up with them. Cause it be a sign of cheating. e

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

Simple, date other people.

[Flower7]

I’d stop talking to him.

[Amoebaaa]

I'd leave em to be honest.

[JohnHaley114]

Will give him space and break up.

[awkward_author]

It would depend on the excuses.

[jahaims]

Ask them why they are making excuses

[Waldoe]

get a close distance friend...

[Joker_]

Cut your losses, drop him, and pick up @Cringe

[tallcuck]

Break up, just did a week ago.

[BaldAvenger]

Tell my LDP we need serious naked time together

[driven159]

cut your loses and move on

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Maybe he has find another one

[Dinklex3]

Break up.

[Cloudyhazel]

Confront them about it

[Prettygurl12]

Byeeeeee

[Anonymous]

maybe he was busy or sleeping or not feeling good

[mitchell765]

Are you sure

[Opinion Owner]

@mitchell765 uh yeah i know i get busy at times

[Opinion Owner]

@mitchell765 or times when i'm tired and need to sleep or not feeling good when i'm sick and under the weather

[mitchell765]

How are you doing

[mitchell765]

Where are you from

[Opinion Owner]

@mitchell765 northeast and been learning all day

[Clyde_123]

Break up.

[Anonymous]

You can't have much expectations from LDR

[SuperSpaceMan007]

Virtual sex.

[Jamie05rhs]

Dump them.

[RichyRich887]

Avoid them

[andylakes9]

Id get very worried