What would you do if you found out the one you fell in love with is taken?

Question

You fell in love/lust at first sight. You've never felt so much lust for any other person. You don't know them. All you know is their looks/charm.
Then you find out they are taken. What would you do? Would you still feel attraction the same way?

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I think it is happened to me two times in life the first time I was heartbroken but I got over it because I know that you can't trying to take somebody from somebody the second one the same thing but I didn't let it bother me as much as I did the first one it's just not meant to be and basically what it is it's like you said from the moment that you see them you fall in love it's more than that it's an energy that they have with inside them when two energies are compatible there is no greater feeling in this world I mean it is the most beautiful the most sexiest the most raw feeling ever that you are just one with and that's without even knowing them or touching them or anything its energy is what it is and it's the most beautiful feeling ever

HighValue · Accepted Answer

I never gain feelings that strongly at first sight. I may like someone and be interested in knowing her better, but I do need to know her better to develop strong feelings for her. Anyways, if someone is taken I don't try to get with them because that would be disrespectful to their current relationship, plus if they were the type of person to abruptly abandon the person they were with for someone new (me) then they could likely do the same in the future, which would make them a poor choice for a long term partner.

Star_88 · Accepted Answer

I fall out of love no matter how strongly I liked him. I can't tolerate loving someone who is in another person's possession.
I want a fully committed person TO ME!
So, NO!
I don't EVEN try to interfere because he would have already shared a lot of intimacy with her physically and mentally. I can't imagine getting the remaining half piece of bread.
That's a huge turn off for someone like me who desires exclusivity and full dedication.

NorthAfrican · Accepted Answer

I would never fall in love before knowing a man well enough lol. And i wouldn't fall in love with a man who is married. So there is no way I'd be put in that situation.
The only way this could happen is if he lies about being single to me for long enough that I fall in love with him. And that means I'd ditch him for lying.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

I'd leave them alone, as I don't believe in interfering with other people's relationships, but it would be disappointing. I had a crush in high school that was in a relationship and I left them alone, but it really sucked!

Sonorous · Answer

The attraction would still be there. But in my mind, I'd be saying "Makes sense. I can't expect a girl that pretty to not be with or have been with a Chad."

OlderAndWiser · Answer

"Love" at first sight does not really exist. You are referring to lust at first sight!

GlassTop · Answer

Sounds like i’m still a thirteen year old and I have a lot of growing up to do 😂 Honestly I only ever was attracted to one girl like that and she looked me dead in the eye and ghosted me. When I tried asking her out one more time, she got one of her “guy” friends to try and fight me saying I called her a “bitch”. I’ve been accused of things i’ve never done a few times but that one hurt. Made me realize to not go after girls just for their looks.

bowenw · Answer

Try to find out how serious their relationship is with their SO. Sometimes people stay in a relationship out of convenience because nothing better has come along.

Dmony45 · Answer

Hmmm good question well I'd probably go awall or would just better yet I would probably cry for a while let everything out then pick myself up and say u know what I there is someone else out there looking for me I'm just going to be myself and see what what else is out there it's not the end of the world it's the start of a new me and new beginnings

Lionman95 · Answer

That happened to me already and I managed to get her out of my head because if I ever get into a relationship I want us to be faithful towards one another.
That´s not working if I take her being in a relationship with another guy.

Raindnz · Answer

I would let rationale take over my emotions and move on. It is just not worth all the pain and drama that comes with pursuing a man who has already been taken. It is almost never “happily ever after..” in these situations. 😐

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

I would let them go and be happy even if they're not with me. I saw this say from the movie corps bride. Me: I love you , But you're not mine. It hurts and it's painful but their are hard situations where we must let go of people we love.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I'd take the pragmatic view. That is to accept there are over 4 billion women on this planet, and some I find attractive will be taken.. It's simple semantics.

Buntyp · Answer

Find out if they have a twin! Failing that, move on, but also take note of what attracted me, in the first place.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Wow, you two must think alike as far as questions go.  "Did you ever fall in love with someone who was taken?" Nazgol Explorer Age: 31

Socal99 · Answer

I would hate to break them up but if it was meant to be it was meant to be I'd still pursue it until I got told no I'd be a good friend and nice to her and if she ever left her partner for me that would be awesome if not I would move on

Adam1978 · Answer

I would block such emotions and behave rationale. In most situations I wouldn't even find out if she was taken or not. I do not think with the small head and I certainly do not act based upon it.

Phsk_wmn · Answer

You can't control your feelings so I believe the feelings wouldn't change right away but I'm not gonna do anything about it cuz he's taken

Phoenix-gb · Answer

Say "Oh no, not again" and try and put as much distance between that person and myself as reasonably possible.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

This has happened to me before. (But I wouldn't necessarily call it "love;" that might be a strong word.). What do I do? Just move on completely. Not my woman, not my problem. I'm not going to waste another second of thought on her.

rocksongwriter · Answer

"Would you still feel attraction the same way?" Yes. I would just use my feelings of sorrow to inspire my art.

Sasha_Gee · Answer

Accept it and move on. It would be disrespectful towards his partner.

loveslongnails · Answer

Snap out of it and realize it's lust, not love. You don't know anything about them. They could be the worst person you've ever met.

LindsayLesling · Answer

it would suck so bad. I've had this happen to me many of many times. you gotta find someone new!

888theGreat · Answer

1) Love is not lust and lust is not love  2) You should honor the marriage or relationship and not pursue the person 3) There are thousands of fish in the ocean of Love

HeartFullOfGlue · Answer

I'd cry and then listen to my "Fuck u, I'm hot" playlist on spotify

Juliette1994 · Answer

I’d walk away I wouldn’t wanna be their again. I was 16 at time though i was Hot Sht. Now looking back it was a shitty move. Hurting someone.

Nazgol · Answer

This actually happened to me, exact same. I didn't take it too well and cried lots. I was furious and very jealous

msc545 · Answer

It would be nothing I really could do about this. I would simply move on and try and forget those feelings I had had.

itsmemay · Answer

doing whatever it takes to forget about them i guess (while stalking them on ig to see if they broke up so u can shoot your shot) but yeah.. forgeting about them is ideal

Anonymous · Answer

I would accept it and move on. Since there is no such thing as "the one", I would be optimistic that someone who I both love and is available is out there.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't even care. I wouldn't risk my life for anyone.

Twalli · Answer

I would still find them attractive, but I would stop considering asking them out.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

If I can't get her.. and lust is too much.. I will masturbate to her pics... like I do to urs

Alyssa_11 · Answer

I have to move on. He’s not mine.

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

I go after who i desire, regardless. You only live once!

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Tell myself to wake up and stop dreaming.

driven159 · Answer

move on don't waste your time

AviatorTom · Answer

Time to move on and find someone else to love.

exitseven · Answer

Maybe try to break them up.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

It sucks, but i just move on

Wise4myage · Answer

Id just shrug my shoulders and move on.

OddBeMe · Answer

Sounds like superficial love.

ACR130 · Answer

Sounds like every day for me 🤣

fireforeffect · Answer

I would be sad, then move on.

eagle1951 · Answer

be heart broken and move on

VikingWarLord · Answer

hmmmmm

JohnK123 · Answer

Sad ofc

Pohjolan · Answer

Move on.

UdontNeedtoknow · Answer

Move on.

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